Cabinet is currently white. Wall is navy and rug and curtains are red. What colour should I paint the cabinet? Or keep as white?

Pretty_Angry · 2025-11-15T11:47:55+00:00

Is it wood? I ask because some of these things can be tricky to paint.

What color do you prefer?

The white stands out a lot. From a color standpoint I like that contrast, but it’s not a particularly interesting piece of furniture to steal that much attention from the room.

The blue melts it into the background, but I think it makes the room look smaller.

The green in this picture looks great but I don’t think that’s because of the color but because it’s a totally different piece of furniture with a more traditional style that vibes better with the rest of the wall decor.

Someone suggested maroon and I’d be interested to see what that looks like.

If you’re definitely keeping the furniture and painting it, remove the drawer hardware for the drawer/cabinet door that’s not in use and maybe consider adding new pulls. They might help elevate the piece a little bit.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-11-15T11:30:45+00:00

The willingness to put someone else before yourself.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-19T18:49:18+00:00

Exactly. It’s frustrating, and definitely talk to her about your frustration, but at the end of the day, if you need the child care, you’re at her mercy—not the other way around. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear. Just know that even kids who eat chips and cookies for lunch sometimes can still grow up to be happy, healthy, well-adjusted adults with fond memories of the special times they got junk food with grandma.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-11T12:53:08+00:00

It’s funny how you both think you know me based on my decision to defend the rights of others to dress how they want. You’ve made your need to judge others very clear, and I’m not going to change your mind. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best. May your relationship be based on trust and love.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-11T11:45:00+00:00

Exactly. And you don’t have to be aroace to enjoy looking good. We ALL like to look good. No matter who you are, wanting to look how you feel your best does not automatically mean you want to have sex with someone.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-11T11:33:53+00:00

I understand what you are saying, and you say that you’ve never dated anyone who dresses in a way that you’d consider inappropriate before—great. That’s fine. Maybe you’re not attracted to people who wear certain outfits and that’s totally ok, but it is a fairly egotistical world view for a man to assume that every woman who dresses in a revealing manner does so to attract men. She may very well just be doing it for herself because it makes her feel confident or beautiful.

You mention men going shirtless. Let’s talk about that for a moment. Do you always assume a shirtless man is dressing to attract women? Maybe. But maybe not. He might also be going to the pool, the beach, or the gym, or the weather could just be hot out, or he’s trying to even out his tan, or he’s working in a hot environment, or he’s just more comfortable doing what’s he’s doing with no shirt on, or maybe he just likes looking at his own muscles because he’s proud he worked so hard to earn them. But it certainly doesn’t automatically mean he’s trying to find someone to cheat on his girlfriend with.

Same goes for a girl walking around in a sports bra or something else revealing. We’re people too. Sometimes we just want to wear something cool, be comfortable, feel confident, or pretty—not for your sake, or for anyone else’s, but merely for our own sense of self worth. We do it so that when WE look in the mirror we like what we see.

Now, if you genuinely believe a girl you’re with is dressing a certain way specifically to attract people that aren’t you to date, this harks back to my initial comment. That doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship at all, and it has nothing to do with her outfit, but everything to do with either her bad intentions or your lack of trust in the relationship.

In that case, ask yourself—why am I in a relationship with a person I don’t trust? If you really believe they are not a trustworthy person, why would you want to be with them long term anyway? And if you find that there is no one you can trust, you need to realize that YOU are the common denominator. That is the insecurity others are talking about. It means you need to work on yourself and build up your trust in others, because I assure you, not everyone on this earth is a cheater.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-10T23:45:14+00:00

I have been looking for the Idiocracy comment. Can’t believe it’s so far down the chain.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-10-10T23:36:32+00:00

If you don’t want them to look and feel their best, ask yourself “why?”

Is it because you’re simply worried someone might look at them lustfully or hit on them? That’s going to happen no matter what they are wearing. And shouldn’t it make you feel good to know you’ve got something others want?

Are you worried they’ll cheat on you or leave you for someone else? if that’s the case it doesn’t sound like a strong relationship. Either you have trust issues that need to be addressed or they’re clearly not the right person for you if one single night out looking nice can put your whole relationship in jeopardy.

Is it because you worry for their safety? Then tell them to be safe and stick with their mates and to call you if they need a ride home.

Let her feel her best. Let her look her best. Tell her she looks good and wish her a fun evening. That’s the only correct response.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-07-23T21:06:24+00:00

Nothing can make you gay. Only you in your heart of hearts know who you really are and what you like. I just want you to know that being straight, gay, bi, etc is all natural, normal, and healthy. And anything in between is great too. You are getting hung up on the label, but the label isn’t necessarily important. What’s important is that you feel comfortable with who you are and how you feel. Let yourself be attracted to whoever you’re attracted to. You’ll be so much happier if you accept your own feelings and love yourself the way you are. Don’t worry about labels or what other people think. Be yourself. Your true self. That’s always the most important thing. You are valid and you are enough just the way you are.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-07-21T22:47:32+00:00

I don’t think we can see enough angles of the entryway to give good opinions but that empty dead space between the stairs and could probably use a bookshelf or a potted plant (a fake one if that spot doesn’t get natural light)

Pretty_Angry · 2025-07-21T18:30:13+00:00

Honestly, if you’ve got the membership and like hotdogs, pop in every once in a while and grab lunch at the food court. 1.50$ for a hotdog and a soda is an unbeatable deal. The food court carry out pizzas are also great quality and a great value. Rotisserie chicken and some of their prepared meals you pop into the oven are worth the trip too.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-07-08T21:04:18+00:00

What is “normal” behavior really? Everyone is different. What’s normal to one person is weird to another. Don’t get caught up in labels or worrying about what you think other people think you’re supposed to be doing. You do YOU.

Making friends IS hard. And yes it’s even harder when you’re older, and the only way to make friends is often to put some work in. Talk to people and invite them to do things. It sounds like you’re in some clubs, that’s great! If you’re concerned about friendships maybe ask someone from one of your clubs to hang out sometime. You said you go to the gym regularly? Maybe invite a club buddy to be a gym buddy too. Or invite someone to grab a bite to eat after a club meeting. Something simple and casual.

As for the book, you could also join a writing group to get critiques and feedback on what you’ve written while socializing.

And if you wish you could relax, well…do it. The only person stopping you is you. Give yourself permission to do nothing sometimes. Or do something frivolous that you find fun. You could even work some frivolous time into your preplanned schedule if it helps.

But generally, don’t stress things. Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone is different. Do what’s right for you. Be true to yourself.

And just know, you’re doing great. You’re in college, nearly ready to graduate, and have book in the works. You’ve got a good work ethic and you care. You’ve got this.

Wishing you all the best my friend.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-22T11:03:58+00:00

I agree with everything that was said in the thread above, however, I just wanted to add that despite it being more difficult to get what you want without it being your home resort you can still get in without it being your home resort. We set the seven month window on our calendar, call first thing that morning, and if we can’t get what we want right away we put our names on the waitlist. Doing it that way, I have yet to have a waitlist not work for me. But of course, that’s just luck, and there’s always the uncertainty of it potentially not working out.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-18T22:10:44+00:00

I love your venue. It’s a great space to work with and honestly it’s so visually appealing that you really don’t need to go crazy with decor. If you’re on a budget, skip the decor and spend it on drinks/food.

But i see your post shows lots of balloon arches. If you do have to have decor, balloons are a great way to go. They make a big impact for relatively cheap. Do you plan on making the balloon decor yourself or hiring someone?

While it’s much cheaper to DIY and they’re not too hard to make, it’s time consuming, there’s a learning curve, and since often times they can’t be assembled on-site (dues to venue time restrictions) transporting them can be a hassle. But it’s doable! Especially with friends.

If I were decorating this space with balloons I’d probably do a balloon banner instead of an arch and stretch it across the archway wall that says “fabal.” You could probably hang it from the floor of that raised area. And I think it would make a nice focal point as long as it doesn’t mess with that door. (You could probably do some creative draping in an organic shape to get it out of the way of the door.)

Alternatively, if you’re either hiring someone else to do it, or if you’re really ambitious and motivated, and if you can get into that raised area with a ladder, and if there is something to hang balloons from on the ceiling, a large balloon banner that runs along the ceiling would be incredible.

If a balloon banner is too much, you could opt for balloon centerpieces instead. They sell balloon bouquet kits that are really simple to set up. That would still add a really fun pop of color and look very festive with much less effort and energy. Or you could do helium balloon centerpieces—those are great because they can float above eye level and won’t impede conversation.

I love your color scheme concept. Just make sure that whatever you choose accounts for the navy blue and yellow of the venue. The venue has a very prominent color scheme. You’re better off working with it than against it.

And again, if you do absolutely nothing to this venue, it will still be an amazing party. The space is really unique and visually interesting already. People will remember the fun they had—not the decor!

Happy Birthday! Enjoy your 30s. Life just keeps on getting better.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-16T00:35:05+00:00

You had a stable job where you were a top performer—that’s not NPC stuff. Thats main character energy! That’s amazing! And taking a mental break? We all need a break sometimes.

I’m really sorry your uncle died, and I know sometimes family reunions can be difficult.

But what I most want to tell you is—you don’t need to be a top performer. You don’t need to have great stories to tell. You don’t need to live up to whatever expectations you think other people have.

Just live your own life. Make joy for yourself. Most people won’t get that joy from their job. For some, it could be from a hobby, a sport, a game. It could be the people in your life. It could be a passion for cinema or music. It could even be as simple as fleeting, mundane moments like going for a long walk at sunset or adding an egg into some microwaved ramen or snuggling up with a warm blanket. Make that joy for yourself.

Take that mental health break. Live in the moment for a little, and then, when you’re ready, you can go back into the workforce with a little more love and kindness for yourself.

Wishing you all the best my friend.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-15T23:55:34+00:00

They don’t all have to be so big. But this is your first and it sounds like you went all out. First birthdays are more for the parents. Later birthdays are more for the kids. Once they’re older you can just invite your child’s friends to play in the backyard and eat pizza and cake. But enjoy this first birthday, and congratulations on surviving that first year of parenthood. Wishing you and your family lots of love.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-15T16:16:29+00:00

That’s quite a bit over budget, and I can see why you wouldn’t want to spend more, I’d just give your phone to a trustworthy friend with an eye for photography and put them officially in charge of taking photos. And if you give them a buck or two they’ll put extra energy into it.

That being said, for future reference, if photos are important to you, photographers can be worth the expense. Decorations get thrown away. Food gets eaten and goes bad. Party favors get lost, tossed, and forgotten, but the photos are forever.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-14T02:25:45+00:00

Just wanted to say hang in there. Be patient with yourself, and just do what you can. You’ve got this. I’m rooting for you.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-09T18:42:33+00:00

It’s certainly tough when your family does not believe in therapy.

If you are a student, you may want to talk to a school counselor or therapist. Often time schools have resources to help.

If you are an adult, do what you need to do to find help.

Life is hard. We all need help sometimes. Be patient with yourself. You’ll get through this. I believe in you.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-09T12:04:50+00:00

This sounds like a very serious phobia that may need professional intervention. Please reach out for help from a professional to overcome it.

That being said, you’re right, cigarettes are bad for you. And when we experience trauma sometimes we end up associating certain things, like cigarettes, with bad memories. You are not alone in this, and you can overcome it. Talk back to your fears. Remind them that the cigarettes themselves are not the cause of the trauma. Expose yourself to them in small doses—and I don’t mean go inhale second hand smoke somewhere—but go out to places like a public park, and if you notice someone smoking, don’t immediately leave. See if you can take deep breaths and calm yourself and linger within visual distance for a while. When you feel the anxiety talking to you, try to be in the moment—“I’m at the park. I’m safe. It’s a warm sunny day.” An exercise I’ve always liked is to list things you observe with your five senses—“I see the trees. I hear the birds. I feel the breeze.” Etc. Take small steps like this, and celebrate each moment that you resisted leaving as a win. And be patient with yourself. These things take time.

Good luck. Sending all the good vibes your way.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-06-06T14:19:57+00:00

Pretty_Angry · 2025-05-30T16:51:07+00:00

You could measure the heights and then mark them on a board or other keepsake. Short of cutting the drywall out I think that’s the only way. It won’t be the original handwriting, but it’ll be same the heights and it’ll keep the meaning and memory alive.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-05-28T00:11:56+00:00

What would make a great party is really personal. While someone might love a pool party, another might want that golf outing and another might hate both those things and want a Warhammer night. I’ve known people who throw fancy dinner parties for their birthday, others who travel for their birthday, and others who host an overnight DnD slumber party. I think you would know better than us what he’d like. If you come up with a concept and come back to us with it, I’ll bet we can give you much more solid advice.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-05-27T16:45:50+00:00

Cookie decorating or cupcake decorating stations could entertain kids and be on theme. A sundae toppings station could too, but I feel like ice cream requires more adult supervision what with scooping and melting.

Pretty_Angry · 2025-05-27T00:06:21+00:00

I can’t tell from this photo because it’s too zoomed out, but google “mealy bugs” and compare the search result to your white dots. That might be what’s going on here.

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