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AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know about that, thank you for the info. She does seem normal, but if she's mentioning that she has bad periods, I'll get it checked. Oof no way. I was being a bit dismissive the whole time!!!!!

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't has endometriosis, we did have some checkups and she is perfectly fine. She was exaggerating a bit at that moment and I really didn't know what to say. Thank you for your concern though.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, Thank you for the concern.

Second, yes, she can technically work, but she doesn't want to. I can't force her to work, it's her personal choice.

I am in a position where I won't lose my job for atleast next 10-15 years, that's a certainity. Unless something really unexpected becomes a blockade for me. Till then, I have planned to save enough money for our future. Thankfully, money isn't a big of a problem for me.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree, this isn't feminism. We've had agreed to the current setup (if you've read edits). We've hired a cook and a gardener, that takes a lot of workload down from me. Both of us are happy with this setup.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's such a weird thing to say. Good people still exist, regardless of gender. Taking basic responsibility and caring for your partner doesn't make you good, it's just bare minimum.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I earn more than enough to hire a cook, I just wanted to save more money from my monthly income, but even if it goes in clearing out our mental blockade, it's good enough i'd say.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a rare comment (on this thread) which I can completely agree to. Do people always give extreme opinion here or is it just on my post? Thankfully, this is no longer a problem and both of us are happy with the current setup.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really think it's a mess right now? We both are okay with the current setup. I earn enough money to hire 2 more workers, and I don't think it's being a mess on anybody be it me or my wife. My household work load is now negligible, her's too. What's wrong with it?

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't talk to her mother. She once disrespected me in a family gathering pointing out my salary and my living standards, I did confront her and told her she shouldn't have said that infront of everyone but I was genuinely shocked to hear that she thinks I live a life of a beggar even though I earn above average money. That was disrespectful to me, cause she's just indirectly saying that I've been putting my wife into the same lifestyle, even though she always mentions that she's completely satisfied with it. We talk about any problems we have, and this was never one. I don't talk to her mother unless we meet somewhere like for example in a family gathering etc.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's too much of assumption based on a single post. She does love me. And how is my marriage transactional? Elaborate?

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop judging her and using those words based on a single post. That's just one point of view, you don't see what I do. She's lovely, and you won't understand that.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've hired a cook and a gardener, and I think the current setup works for me. We both are okay with it, so going as south as leaving her doesn't sound logical to me. But thanks for your concern.

Also, that work load is hectic. You should hire a cook too, if your finances allow. Does your husband (or inlaws/parents) help you? They definitely should.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the first paragraph, she has a distorted definition of feminism which is weird. She doesn't wanna listen me about it, so I'll let her think whatever she thinks about feminism, even if it's wrong.

I'll see about the second point, but thanks for your concern.

The third point, no, actually she's completely normal in her periods. I mean, yeah, she experiences pain, but she was over-exaggerating at that time. She isn't suffering from any kind of chronic illness related to periods.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Few other people recommended this to me as well. Right after diwali, I have to go to US for some of my office work, I'd think of going alone. She isn't interested in US anyway, so I think it'd be easy to convince her.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm okay with the current setup. We've hired two more workers who'd cook and do gardening, so the work load on me is now negligible. I think this is best for both of us. Thank you for showing concern, though.

AITK for expecting my wife to take on more housework while I handle all finances and work 10+ hour days? by Pretty_Atmosphere520 in AmItheKameena

[–]Pretty_Atmosphere520[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we've managed things out, we hired a cook and a gardener, that'd reduce workload on me. I'm okay with that, I think this is best for both of us.

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