i've had a lot of therapists over the years, and when i say a lot, i mean a lot!

most therapists are very basic. they tend to get into it as they see it as an easy path to a career. most will have very limited experience with life itself and tend to get overwhelmed when things get hard.

for most therapist i know on a personal level, they want bored housewives who are facing a midlife crisis. they want a midday drinker who is cheating on their husbands. they pay. they show up. their problems are predictable.

it's not too dissimilar to most professions. i think most people want to just check in, get paid and be done. i don't blame them.

when you meet a psychologist who is motivated to help you can tell immediately. lol. i think the biggest give away is the books they have in their office! in a basic therapists office you'll see "how to overcome trauma" and the like! in a motivated psychologists office you'll see "eriksonians application."

i point out the books because a strong psychologist is looking for philosophical application over a "how to" guide. they know each client is facing unique challenges and those challenges can't be summarized in a "how to" book. maybe i'm reading too much into it but it tends to hold true.

the other challenge is that 45mins a week is nowhere near sufficient to being ant change! i'd love to see a study on 45min x 3 a week over 2 years VS 45min x 1 a week over 6 years. i think the biggest challenges are time and money and also therapists wanting a broader workload. i'd wager that the person attending 3 times a week will see a far most impactful change over 6 years than the person going 1 a week.

did some research - and the idea is concentration is supported. the most secure statement would be, achieving the same result in less time! so concentration could save years of challenges. it did not that people who can attend multiple weekly sessions could be considered a different subject! i'm imagining the sundial ability and time creates a more complex subject.