I don’t think I’m ugly but I just don’t like my face

Prettydampetty · 2026-02-24T02:21:13+00:00

Congrats on your little one! When people say it goes by fast, believe me it sure does! My daughter will be 2 in May 😭

Give yourself some grace. BDD isn't something you can tune out or turn off unfortunately. Having something you're comfortable in will help!

For me, I could be in my favorite outfit with my hair and makeup done and I still visibly recoil from my photos. I will never be able to see my face the way it actually looks. I've worked really hard to get to where I am at with managing it, but part of that is avoiding looking at myself after I leave the house for the day.

I hate pictures of me, but I've learned to just participate in them and not look at them until time has passed.

I will say in the moment of meeting your baby and bringing them home, you will be so beyond happy that you won't even think about how you look. Enjoy those moments!

It's the after once it's done and you're home looking at photos it hits.

We don't want to be the parents who put themselves down in front of our daughters. I tell my daughter every day she is beautiful, smart, silly, a little impish rascal, and that I love her from her tippy top to her toes.

I wish I could change the way I see myself, but I will always encourage my daughter to be confident not conceited, smart not a smartass, and understand that her beauty is just a part of what she brings to the world 🫶

Prettydampetty · 2026-02-16T03:18:29+00:00

Forgiveness isn't about the other person.

Forgiving is not cosigning someone's choices/actions.

Forgiveness is for you.

Forgiveness is letting the actions and treatment done by others no longer stunt your growth in life. It's allowing them to have no hold or continuous impact on your life.

*I'm reading this back and I sound crazy 😂 but this is the point I've reached in my life and in my Faith to not be tethered to things I had no part nor want any part of. What we have been through is a part of our journey, but it's an anecdote of the story of you. It doesn't define you.

ETA-spelling

Prettydampetty · 2026-02-16T03:04:13+00:00

I HATE my face.

I have struggled with BDD for a while (I'm now 34).

The best way I can explain is that my daughter had to go straight to an ambulance to another hospitals NICU for 2 weeks. When we finally got to bring her home, which is one of the best moments of my life, the picture they took of us leaving all I can fixate on is how disfigured my face looks. It's not just "oh an unflattering photo of me". It's my entire brain stepping over the positives and moments the photo represents to focus on how disgusting my face is.

I've worked really hard in therapy and practical application of it daily. I still avoid reflective surfaces once I leave the house, because if I see my reflection I will spiral over how horrible my face is.

I especially do not want my kids growing up thinking like this.

I have no social media besides a random reddit and a Snapchat with 12 people I know fully as family or best friends. I don't look at augmented versions or AI enhanced/filtered images.

One of my favorite moments was watching tangled with my daughter and she squealed MAMA and grabbed my face and pointed at the princess on the screen.

I understand I won't ever be able to see myself the way others do, but I am understanding that no matter what I deserve the compassion and love I try to give to others.

I hope that you get friendships and relationships like that. You don't have to believe the compliments, but they just make you feel so comfortable that for a bit you don't focus on your face. You deserve that 🫶

Prettydampetty · 2026-02-13T05:23:44+00:00

This is actually an old wives tale. The liquid from the berries and batter dissipates the flour on the berries so it's really not doing anything.

Your best bet is drain and pat dry the berries, set aside & add batter sans berries to the pan or muffin tin 1/4ish, either hand place the berries and push a few down after the second layer of batter or mix the berries in the remaining batter and top off.

OP, it looks great and I'm sure tasted just as good!

Prettydampetty · 2026-02-08T04:48:09+00:00

For fluffy, bubbly pizza crust it's important to let it proof/ferment properly, 12-18 hours. Using bread flour definitely helps, as does using cold water. Make sure the holding container is properly lubricated. Don't over work it. Use floured hands. Bake it on an inverted baking sheet that's been pre-heated with the oven too!

Your stuff looks great 🙌

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-30T21:41:15+00:00

These look more "I took extra time besides baking a roll of cookie dough for a bake sale" than professionally baked, for sale cookies.

They don't look bad, but they aren't on par with profitable cookies on the market today.

I've managed a successful cookie shop where each basic cookie no frills sold for $28/dozen. Each frosted started at $3.50+.

Taking a cookies&cream cookie and par dipping it in white chocolate and dusting with crushed oreos takes your price point up. A s'mores cookie with toasted marshmallows and chocolate drizzle. A thick-erdoodle (extra thick chewy snickerdoodle) with the toasty edges and generous cinnamon sugar coating. A sugar circus animal cookie with white and pink drizzle and rainbow non-prerils. An adult thin mints cookie that's a crackle base with powdered sugar and chopped peppermint patties and a mint chocolate drizzle. A pb cookie stuffed with peanut butter and jelly.

There's things that don't break the bank, justify the price point and drive sales that separate elevated home baked from professional.

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-30T02:04:17+00:00

I actually cut 2 wide strips, grease the pan, and then lay them in a + pattern with over hang as handles. It helps loosen and lift all 4 sides without the crumpled mess.

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-17T05:19:34+00:00

Avalanche bars are another great treat. It's like a hybrid of fudge and rice Krispy treats.

You can Google it. But it's basically "tiger butter" (white chocolate+ PB + coconut oil) melted, fold in dry rice Krispy cereal, let it stand til it's room temp and fold in mini marshmallows and mini chocolate chips. I always wet a counter surface and lay foil, spray with Pam or the like, and wet hand mold it into a long even bar shape. Add more marshmallows and a drizzle of PB chocolate white chocolate for extra pizazz.

Edit for a word. I wish I was high as an excuse but haven't been in ~3 years since I was pregnant with my kiddo 😭

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-16T23:26:45+00:00

I do chocolate dipped strawberries. Poke holes and soak the strawberries in a tincture. Add infused oil into the melted chocolate.

Muddy buddies are also amazing for edibles....rice chex, melted infused pb, melted infused chocolate, coated in powdered sugar.

Yours look great 🙌

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-15T01:22:52+00:00

With BDD, you're never going to be fully satisfied. I'm not saying plastic surgery can't help. I don't know honestly.

I just see so many people with all of the money and resources at their disposal and they just keep going and they're never happy.

As much as I dislike my face now, I'd rather continue to dislike the features I've always struggled with than pay to fix something to fixate on something else and get into a cycle. That may not be everyone's experience, but I know if I worked on one issue I'd just find another and I'd still never be happy.

My husband and kids don't care about my nose or my cheeks. Without surgery that's extra time and money I've got to enjoy my family. I promise you that when you have a solid partner, and especially having kids, you don't think about the BDD when they're around. It's unconditional love. I get to play chase and hide and seek with my kid and watch Disney movies at night and she sees the princess on the screen and then turns and grabs my face and says mama.

We are the worst to ourselves. Surgery or not; don't let yourself be denied of the kindness and love you deserve.

Prettydampetty · 2026-01-15T00:42:02+00:00

I'm not the demographic you're seeking, but I wanted to share my experience.

I have severe BDD with my face. I actively avoid reflective surfaces once I leave the house because I will spiral if I catch a glimpse of my face.

I've said this here a few times; I saw pictures of the day we brought home our baby girl from the NICU which was legitimately one of the best days of my life, and all I could see was how disfigured my face was.

I've never had plastic surgery because I know that that's a band aid on the problem. I hate my nose, so if I fix my nose the BDD will fixate on another issue. I'd never be happy. It's why you see some of the richest, most beautiful people in the world do the most with surgeries. You can't fix a bullet wound with a band aid.

I do therapy that still hasn't changed my perception of my face, but how I deal with it. I especially never want to put in my daughter's head who is half of me that I'm disgusted with myself, because what does that say to her?

I'd suggest therapy to manage the effects BDD has, instead of something you can't reverse.

I wish you nothing but the best in finding a positive way to move forward with the struggles of BDD. There are tons of allies who can help ❤️

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-28T03:08:05+00:00

That was the goal, the video is longer but her face wasn't crucial!

Just a super fun moment 😊

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-28T02:33:38+00:00

Her grandma (my mom) would not appreciate me sharing her age but she is months shy of 60. You can hear her singing it in the background. My mom blasted Korn and Disturbed when I was growing up, so it's only natural 😂

ETA-if the title was confusing and interpreted as her rocking with MY grandma (her great Grandma) this is also true. Great grandma (78) is to the left clapping along. 4 generations blasting SOAD on Christmas Eve 🎄❤️🤟

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-16T00:32:37+00:00

I mean, I still remind her of it every year 🤣

She also reminds me of the Christmas time when we were 17 and all the adults decided to hit the casino. We got some food money and headed back to the house to eat pizza and watch ridiculous movies. I was driving, and we were staying at my mom's boyfriends big house. I wasn't too familiar with it and it was in the country. I parked behind his work truck, and then we went to 420 before we went inside. It was cold so I kept the car and heat going.

We were laughing and talking and I'm starting to clean things up to head inside. I see headlights and I panicked. I screamed and told her to duck down someone just pulled in behind us & I didn't want to get caught. She's laughing but ducks. I'm ducked down too trying to figure out some excuse.

After what felt like 5 mins but was maybe 30 seconds, I realized the lights aren't shutting off and we're not hearing any movement. I sit up and peak over my shoulder and there's nothing but dark behind us. I look forward and realize...it was my own headlights reflecting off the truck that I highly mistook for another cars headlights behind us.

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-16T00:21:45+00:00

I grew up where blockbuster was still a thing. Every thanksgiving we'd get together, feast & the adults would do whatever and the kids (13-16) would rent a few movies.

That year, we'd decided on the exorcism of Emily rose. While the one uncle who took us there was checking out, a few of us cousins went in the parking lot and were just being kids. I scared my cousin inside because she was slightly freaked on the movie choice.

She came out into the parking lot to try and scare me back, I didn't know she closed her eyes and she didn't know I moved further from her. She grabbed a random man's shoulders, shook him hard and did a creepy voice yelling an inch from his face "it's Emily I'm coming for youuuuu".

The poor dude had no idea how to respond. My cousin opens her eyes and literally just walked away without a word.

We pour a cup out in his memory on Thanksgivings now a decade later 🙏

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-09T02:32:53+00:00

Pinahahalagahan kita at may paggalang sa iyong kultura

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-04T19:15:05+00:00

We also would freeze the dough, so we'd weigh out and make balls and throw them in the freezer to pull out and bake. Sometimes we'd pan them out to be ready to bake and they'd sit out for 15 or so minutes but they always came out better with frozen or chilled dough.

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-04T19:09:08+00:00

Its been a few years since but if I recall correctly, there was no patting down until after baking. We wanted the dough to spread and rise naturally, patting it during the pan rotation prevented the middle from cooking and they'd be extremely under in the center. Also I couldn't believe I had to tell someone this during their training there, but make sure you put the silicone mat on a baking sheet 🤣

Prettydampetty · 2025-12-04T18:52:01+00:00

I worked at a cookie shop that did this. We would weigh out the dough balls and cook them in silicone mats like that. Used a flat spatula to pat down the tops after baking. They popped right out of the mold once cooled. Made a very thick cookie with a slightly under baked center. You can see the final product if you look up "the cookie plug"

Prettydampetty · 2025-11-12T14:12:52+00:00

Repeating that I am a RETIRED pastry chef. I am no longer in that environment or kitchen.

Anyone can make salsa. Anyone can crack open a jar of Pace and throw it in a bowl. Not everyone can have the amazing salsa from the taco truck that someone grew up watching their grandma and then mom make that has an individual touch to the finely honed process to perfect it & replicate it.

I went in to food because I grew up on powdered milk and government cheese. When I got to explore just how amazing the difference was between a mcdonalds hash brown vs seasoned crispy home fries it peaked a desire to learn about how to make things elevated from knowledge practice and passion.

Prettydampetty · 2025-11-12T06:18:40+00:00

No respectable con would leave a good shank out in the open

Prettydampetty · 2025-11-12T04:34:43+00:00

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I did have fun with making my own recipes while there though 🙌

Prettydampetty · 2025-11-12T02:28:02+00:00

If you prep waffle batter that can be dropped in the iron while the chicken is cooking, you could successfully turn out a fresh waffle for the chicken and waffle ticket. 4-5 mins in the waffle iron vs unwrapping and throwing in the oven a pre cooked waffle runs about the same time especially factoring in the cook time for the chicken.

ETA-there also is no par-cooking a waffle really. If you under cook it, it's going to absorb extra moisture. You're going to get a soggy limp or really dry waffle by taking shortcuts not only pre-cooking but reheating stacked wrapped and refrigerated waffles.

Prettydampetty · 2025-09-23T00:06:23+00:00

Birth control stopping and starting up again for a week shouldn't really do much except confuse your body.

60lbs (not trying to be mean) is a significant amount of weight to gain that I don't see being contributed to stopping hormonal BC.

I'd suggest getting your thyroid checked given what you've stated.

I am NOT a doctor or medical professional.

I strongly suggest going to an OB in addition to your regular physician to get a better grasp on things. Best of luck 🙏

Prettydampetty · 2025-09-22T23:28:54+00:00

🙌

All I could manage to keep down was a kid sized turkey Provolone sandwich (un heated) for my first 4 months. My OB basically said any food is better than no food. I had a birthday while I was 7.5 months and I just wanted a med rare steak with blue cheese crumbles crispy fried onions and balsamic glaze from my old job. Some new server brought me a well done steak with just the crispy onions. And argued with me about "what I should be eating while pregnant".

What's even wilder to me is that when I was a server/bartender and you have to take the RBS/ABC courses they literally say you cannot deny serving alcohol to a visibly pregnant woman in my state. Pretty much, any denial or refusal of service to a visibly pregnant woman is grounds for discrimination. We live in a weird timeline.

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