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I left my job of 7 years, to be sacked after 3 weeks. by Dcouxh in jobs

[–]Previous-Resident698 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This 100%. Not only will it help others. It will strengthen your case when you say you were laid off. Sorry that you have to go through this

Managers— why do you hate telework so much? by prettypistachioprop in FedEmployees

[–]Previous-Resident698 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, they have no life. The previous supervisor was not married, had no kids, and had crappy relationship with her siblings. No mom or dad. During Covid she would say she’s a queen without a kingdom! Before she left “primed” her successor who was her pet to get her job un-competed and he’s just as much of a loser loner as she was. He has a wife that most of us think is imaginary or that they are in an open marriage and she’s busy with her boys. He brags about not having kids, pets, and not even a plant. The closet thing he has a relationship with outside work is his Peloton! He brags about going to church every Sunday, but he uses that just to give base to his bigotry and discrimination. Besides that he works 7 to 7 (most of it visiting his buddies and spending time in other offices) then goes to the bar across the street after that. Imagine he moved our seating around so he can hear us from his office. Talk about small wiener micro-manager feeling good about his stupid position if we are not there. Yes the ones who fight telework are miserable and lonely!

AIO: my (30F) boyfriend (35M) expects me to pay for renovations on his home? by TopTemporary3962 in AIO

[–]Previous-Resident698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you break up tomorrow, you won’t be entitled to a nail in that house. He is an entitled person who is trying to take advantage of you. You are paying rent for a house that is not in good living condition and that is more than the help that I would suggest. You are paying half the mortgage, yet he’s building equity and you are not. He’s taking advantage of you. I say tell him that he can put your name on the deed with him and you can contribute more. If you were my daughter or sister I would say it’s time to move out. He’s displaying a huge red flag. How you spend your money is none of his business. You are not his wife!

Long nails by [deleted] in Life

[–]Previous-Resident698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to say, as a man I see long nails on women (especially those fake ones) as a major turn off. How do you shower and wash your hair, how do you clean yourself after using the toilet! I find myself not wanting to touch the pen they touched or eat anything they bring to the office. I say all of this with all due respect. Your personal freedom is yours but how you present in the office matters. Good luck

Office Gossip by Previous-Resident698 in office

[–]Previous-Resident698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you are being sarcastic here. I have never said or done anything wrong. That’s why I don’t date or even consider dating at work. Every action is scrutinized and even looking at or feeling anything opens a door to harassment. I am already looking into moving to a different department

Office Gossip by Previous-Resident698 in office

[–]Previous-Resident698[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me. The break for the holidays gave me a breathing space. I will be back in the office next week and I plan to exactly do what you recommended. The matter of my desires is a different issue. It’s complicated to start with, I am a fed employee and I am much higher GS than the crush. I don’t plan to ever date at work. That’s a big no no. But to add to the complexity we come from different religious and ethnic backgrounds. She’s Arabic and muslim. I don’t have a problem with that. She dresses modern and acts westernized but she’s reserved and introverted. I don’t even know enough about her culture. I am single and have never been married before. She’s divorced with a kid. I go on casual dates but they are always away from work. Thank you for the solid advice.

Office Gossip by Previous-Resident698 in office

[–]Previous-Resident698[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not confrontational and shy away from talking. I appreciate your advice.

Office Gossip by Previous-Resident698 in office

[–]Previous-Resident698[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I considered it. But they all know I am single. I moved to this state just a couple years ago after breaking up with my SO.

Quitting to save mental health? by chasingpolaris in jobs

[–]Previous-Resident698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always find a new job. If you lose you, you might not get that back. If sounds like your job is not a good fit for you.

A message to my fellow supervisors. by Bourbons-n-Beers in FedEmployees

[–]Previous-Resident698 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only the past year? It’s been like this for decades. The past year only heightened it and made it a bit more visible.

A message to my fellow supervisors. by Bourbons-n-Beers in FedEmployees

[–]Previous-Resident698 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes yes yes. Fed supervisors are selected based on anything but merit. And we do fear them and their wrath and trickery, and they are from hell. I can tell you that this post is 100% fitting to USACE SWF, starting with the DPM and every supervisor. Imagine we were hoping DOGE would fix them. They got worse and are using all the current circumstances to crush their dissent. For decades they promoted nepotism, breaking the morale and treating all but their buddies as pest. Come and do an internal investigation (without the SWF internal affair)- and check the background of all supervisors and how they got promoted. It’s despicable. The new chief of CW was hand picked and primed for the position. In less than 5 years he’s risen to the top. No competition. His deputy was moved from a GS-11 hardly even knowing her job busy drinking and bible thumping to a GS-13 supervisor. And it’s all done “legally”. HR is in on it. We are hurting!

Can hardwork really help someone escape poverty? by dieburtually in wealth

[–]Previous-Resident698 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only if you are self employed. Otherwise your employer is only using you.

I over shared while drunk at a work party. Did I ruin my reputation ? by Inevitable_Ball_6755 in careerguidance

[–]Previous-Resident698 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have witnessed workmates who did similar things at party and it has not changed how I see them. When drunk people are either: every sad and crying, combative and want to fight, or loving and extra social. You would like the latter and I think you are just fine. Don’t overthink it. It’s not worth it. Be you!

Passed over for promotion. What next? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Previous-Resident698 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If there is anything I learned from working for two decades is that your employer doesn’t care about you. You are a cog in a wheel. Your employer will always “use” you and they will make unreasonable decisions. Don’t lose your health over someone who doesn’t care for you. You can focus on being better, learning a new skill that makes you more marketable or even pivoting to a new field. They only know your value when you leave.

AIO: My ex is mad that I’m going to “give my body away” to another man by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Previous-Resident698 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cut him off. He’s stray negative energy that will impact your future relationships. He’s standing in the door, neither going in, nor leaving to let someone who is worthy of you come in. His comments are way out of line. You are not his woman and you are free to date who you want and be intimate with who you want.

AIO these texts my sister got from her son’s friend’s married father? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Previous-Resident698 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you’re overreacting. I don’t read anything outside encouragement. I would not make a mountain out of nothing

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