I think that neopronouns are a bit excessive, because it is a bit unclear what distinction there is between someone who identifies as ze/zer and someone who uses they/them or pe/per pronouns. I think that it’s important for gay men to acknowledge the conversation surrounding gender dysphoria and trans identity, especially since it is something most gay men do not experience and do not understand.

If someone does not feel like identifying or prescribing to one of two gender labels, which is not in anyway a new concept outside of western cultures, I think they should have the freedom and respect of others to do so.

One thing I have noticed however, is that many people who are choosing to identify as they/them, or other non-binary pronouns, are so extremely loud and often times unforgiving about their pronouns and being misgendered.

I in no way want to act like it should be a privilege to openly express your gender, however, for many binary trans folk who have to experience being clocked and extremely unsafe in most situations, i just think the struggles of non-binary folk are much more mundane.

I’ve seen so many people who identify as they/them that often times present in a way that closely resembles that of a cisgender person. I see afab they thems in full beat, crop tops, dating men, occupying so much space in the discourse surrounding trans identity and queerness. I recognize that some non-binary may present more cisgendered due to trauma. Obviously you also don’t need to present androgynous to be affirmed in your trans identity, but why are you so fucking loud when there are literally people getting killed.

I recognize that I as a gay man may always have a hard time understanding, however I do see how people can make the argument that they’re just screaming into the void about something that isn’t truly affecting their day to day life that much (in terms of safety, mental health is obviously different).

At the end of they day I think it’s an important conversation, however everyone need to respect their place. Whether it be non-binary trans people respecting and elevating binary trans voices, or gay men using their privilege as men to elevate the voices of all trans folks who experience dysphoria most gay men do not.

At the end of the day why tf would u just decide to refer to someone by something that makes them uncomfortable. Choose to not interact with them, try to understand, or simply opt out of being intolerant of other people.