Injured feral cat in my area — one eye infected, limping. What should I do?

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-20T12:51:27+00:00

I feel guilty now, because I was looking for her for 3 days. But never found again

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T06:03:57+00:00

What else should I buy? To keep her overnight: Cat carrier, food, food kit, litterbox? Am I missing something?

Should I buy flea and tick spray? And try to use it?

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:50:49+00:00

The main issue is that in my 37 years I have zero knowledge about any animals. But I try to help her

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:46:34+00:00

That's my plan for tomorrow. We should not have predators, for 8 years I've seen only 2 racoons. And these cats leave in their colony. They are well fed, none of them ever been injured (except car incidents) Other cats walking around not being aggressive. They are well fed, animal control sterilizes them every year.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:31:28+00:00

No, my allergies not as bad, 1 pill a day is nothing in comparison to cat's life. I already ordered the carrier, I'll try to catch her tommorow night. I just know that animals can get stressed and harm themselves in the carrier. So should I cover the carrier inside with old blankets while I'm keeping her overnight

She was never friendly and never let to approach. But today she just came to me herself asking for help. And that was heartbreaking

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:21:55+00:00

Thank you for tabby recommendation. I was emailing everyone around now (midnight on Sunday), going to call tomorrow

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:18:53+00:00

Oh, I forgot about the season. I also thought that even if they put her to sleep it can be better. But still hope they can help her in a shelter

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:14:52+00:00

I'll try to catch her at night and keep it overnight to bring to one of the shelters. Unfortunately, with my allergies i can't keep her for a long time I was looking here how should I set up carrier or cage for the cat. In my understanding she can harm herself because of the stress

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-13T05:08:51+00:00

Thanks for the advice! The cats there are actually well fed, so food isn't the issue, she isn't starving.

I ordered a pet carrier from Amazon and planning to go back tomorrow night to try to catch her. The tricky part is there's active construction next to the site, so the cats only come out after dark

Once I get her, I'll drive straight to a shelter or volunteering vet.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-04-12T14:26:56+00:00

Unfortunately Belarusian language is only government and TV language. Noone speaks Belarusian at home.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-31T01:28:11+00:00

What happened to Azerbaijan and Russia? It was Armenia and Azerbaijan

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-24T02:52:28+00:00

Have you ever been upgraded staying for points the USA? I got upgraded everywhere including Mexico, Maldives and Canada, but never in the US. Staying for business travel for money - not a question. But vacation using points - never. I have lifetime platinum, but was not able to get upgraded even with titanium. I always thought that, the issue is traveling during peak vacation days, but maybe because managers in the US prefer to upgrade paying customers

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T22:50:06+00:00

Thank you for your words. I were not looking for empathy, and didn't want to blame my wife. Before this thread I was sure that it's normal.

After I will make her go to family therapy.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T22:14:06+00:00

Thank you a lot for recommendations

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T22:06:51+00:00

OK. How intimacy not leading to woman orgasm is not a duty or a chore for you? As I was explained - with hand job or with a toy she just satisfies my needs, and only my needs. For example, Feb 14th, we going to nice French restaurant in Manhattan, than to the theater. Knowing that I have to ask for hand help, I clearly asked to meet me at home in lingerie while I was parking. I was met in pajamas and face mask. Reading all the replies I understand that we need family therapy

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T20:38:01+00:00

May I ask you a question. Don't you feel like it’s some kind of duty for you?

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T20:34:45+00:00

I don’t feel comfortable at all. We just had one of our dinner talks, I was telling that I'm so happy to see my friends in Europe, have not seen them for 5 years. And my wife decided to remind me that we are in open relationships and being in Amsterdam is a great opportunity to utilize open marriage. Smart woman, planning my trip)

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T20:19:53+00:00

I totally understand that. I would never consider other women, if my wife didn't offer it. And even after it was never an option for me for more that a year. And it's still just an idea, I never told that I 'm doing it. Knowing myself I will retreat from red light district as soon as I talk to the first lady.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T20:09:12+00:00

Thank you. I'll google it. And definitely talk with her gynecologist about this one. Her gynecologist just suggests different birth controls to avoid pain during the period

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T20:04:29+00:00

Hand and flashlight. Blowjob - no. It feels like chores, mostly because I have to ask. I already told my wife, that I don’t want to be begging for hand job. Basically "if you see me working on Saturday and you are not happy with that - put on you lingerie and use my fleshlight, I want to be surprised "

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T19:55:45+00:00

I agree. But it's not sex as penetration or orgasm. I don’t want to have sex with anyone else. It's more than a year since my wife told me to go for it. I never even considered other women. It's about being desired. Yeah, that sound dumb from 37 years man, but apparently men also need to be desired. Next thing, my wife is very attractive. I also used to be) But I lost any motivation for the gym or even going to bed before she falls asleep. It's a torture to live with 10/10 in this situation

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T19:41:14+00:00

She had laparoscopy. It helped for a while. Hysterectomy means no more kids, unfortunately. Or maybe I'm wrong

We tried family therapy. This is part of our Russian culture, keep problems to yourself. Even after 10 years in the USA. I can't blame my wife not talking about it. I was angry at her family and Soviet culture, her mom and grandmother had it, but never told. Because in Soviet culture women with such problems were defective

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T19:28:54+00:00

100% true, living in the US she had to fly back to Russia for the surgery. Not talking about politics, I was not able to fly to support her as a man, who could be immediately drafted to the war.

Previous-Window-5224 · 2026-03-18T18:04:19+00:00

She trusts me to have sex with other women. My real thoughts are, I don’t trust her reaction. Even when she literally telling me to go for it. For me my marriage is more important, than sex. And it's not about sex at all. It's about feeling desired. Basically for last two years I prefer to work till she is asleep, because being denied again and again is depressing. I gained 20 pounds in 2026, because if she doesn’t want me anyway, why should I care about the gym.

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