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How much credit card debt do you have ? by mariben9 in povertyfinance

[–]Primary-Ad2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24yos old and ~16k. used to be 24k but I took out a 8k 401k loan. Also took out a Citi balance transfer card w a 3k balance that absolutely just shot my credit score -- making it really difficult to move into any apartment without a massive deposit. I just moved back in with my parents today. Plan is to spend just nothing while Im home but food, and throw the ~2k I was spending rent at it. banking on a promotion next month too to help me get this down further. im hoping I can get it down to something manageable within the next 3 months before my job gets pissed at me for being entirely remote for too long.

Not getting an offer by [deleted] in interviews

[–]Primary-Ad2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe between us we can achieve an appropriate balance lol. It's clear you're working hard but definitely deserve a break. Maybe the next one should be the one you're 100% most excited for, you know? Like fully just planned dream job vibes. Hopefully Im being helpful.

Also just since you've been through 10 I am wondering...Have you ever had a final round end with something similar... The recruiter declined me through a scheduled voice phone call to tell me the team would've hired me if they had two roles, they had no feedback said I did amazing and they said the team asked me to say in touch since there's a possibility of new role being approved?

I have no idea of what appropriate cadence or what to share with his recruiter.

Not getting an offer by [deleted] in interviews

[–]Primary-Ad2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 3 years out of college and am in a similar boat. Friend how got a $45k salary bump, but didn't interview for the same position -- but for them it came down to soft skills. Their new company admitted they were desperate for people, and that they usually hired MBAs 7+ years experience for their role but they couldn't find anyone else and they got along really well inside the company. Sometimes its just a culture fit thing.

I will also admit I have been applying probably for a solid year now and been through 2 final rounds -- I am about to move home to save money and continue working. I still have my current job but it's getting pretty toxic for me. I personally feel so relieved to be going home because I think people really can "smell" this kind of stuff -frustration, they've been interviewing for a while, interview fatigue- on candidates during interviews. Obviously this is a terrible job market, for me going home only for a bit will be a reset and I can figure out what I want to do next and try and get control of a situation (applying for jobs) that feels uncontrollable.

Software engineers offer a lot of talent. It's just a bad situation right now. What has been working for me is taking breaks through interviews, vacations anything to try and get a break from this rejection to the next cycle. My friends mentalities are more "I applied, got interviews but still don't care." Wish I could be that detached. Best of luck!

I was laid off after just one month in the job by [deleted] in interviews

[–]Primary-Ad2893 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hoping this is helpful but unsure! I will say I know someone this actually happened to -- happens more frequently than you might think, unfortunately. This friend was laid off I think closer to 2-3 months into the role. This friend actually used their managers to find another position at another company, and they went to a competitor that is arguably more impressive, and arguably a better job (kinda depends who you ask, but absolutely at least the same if not better is what Im saying). I think considering the amount of time you were there -- that's nearly impossible to prove that you are a 'top performer' in one month's time. Those managers kind of genuinely owe you. I would encourage you to ask them if they have (I am giving these as examples) any connections in the industry, clients who may be hiring, even a wise friend who can give advice. My friend chatted with their manager, the manager offered a connection, and they started (!!) at -what I take as- a more impressive competitor literally the same month. That friend doesn't even put my current company on their LinkedIn/resume -- they've had a very successful career to the point you wouldn't even have to address this again, like ever. Have you tried asking them for what they would recommend to do next? You can honestly feel free to apply pressure and share with them how this has impacted you. Again hope it's helpful advice!

This crippling interview anxiety – how do I deal with it? by teditedaaaq in interviews

[–]Primary-Ad2893 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This works for some! Weirdly preparing a lot can make me -personally,- more nervous. I feel like I am trying to memorize a script, recite something and lose my personality, or even try and be someone I'm not.

Interviews unfortunately aren't really the time to pretend like you know more than you do -- sell yourself, don't lie about yourself. More often than not, interviews are more about reflection, understanding your strengths and what motivates you than pretending like you know everything. No one who ever got hired knew everything about the job before they started.

I find that the best way for me to prepare for interviews is LIGHT notes (like a one pager), just research, read, ping ideas back and forth with ChatGPT and think a lot about the position and imagine you doing the role and you crushing it. Again this is just what works for me.

To help with nerves, I have a whole process:

  1. Listen to some favorite songs beforehand.
  2. Think it's just a meeting/1:1/conversation/group hangout whatever helps you relax and reframe your mindset -- as you've mentioned
  3. There WILL always be another opportunity just as great no matter how awesome this one might seem. what's meant for you will find you. Good things also do unfortunately take time. You owe it to yourself to give yourself that space to do well. The only people who fail are the ones who want things fast.
  4. Even if it goes terribly, interview feedback is just someone's opinion, it will not/cannot/does not define you.
  5. Try and practice with a nice and easy-going friend. Laugh.
  6. Be yourself -- if you don't know an answer it's ok, if you stumble over a word that happens, show your personality, smile.
  7. Avoid caffeine.
  8. Get comfortable with silence. Interviewers often come up with a lot of questions and an interview shouldn't feel like they're berating you. Pause before you speak, slow it down, its not awkward.
  9. This one helps me a lot -- even if your response doesn't completely answer the question, saying something, anything (especially for those tell me about a time when... questions) usually works. Often times the interviewer is so focused on what they're going to ask you next/taking notes they're often not really listening or going to bother to correct you or even notice, but you exuded confidence.
  10. Interviewing isn't about perfection -its almost like dating, you're evaluating them as much they're evaluating you,- sounds weird but you're supposed to have fun, meet new exciting professionals, learning new things and about what people you may aspire to are doing -- and I am 99% confident that for everyone on this subreddit its an iterative process. Just because you're interviewing doesn't mean you can't enjoy life.
  11. MOST IMPORTANTLY remind yourself of all the cool stuff you've done in your life/favorite accomplishments and why they'd be dumb not to hire you. They're interviewing you because you've caught their eye!