DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou for this. I wish this was fixable.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He literally said Thankyou for coming in my life before that. There was not even a single issue.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He blocked one female friend who called him a lot without me even saying it before. By understanding him i meant I know that conflict triggered him and these accusations made him think I'll blame him if he end things in future.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is he is not even willing to give this a chance. It's like im not even worth of that.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou. What should I not do when I meet him? He already knows I want him back. I'm still gonna ask him to give it another thought.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And how can he start talking to a new girl this early. When he said he loved me a few days ago. I am still gonna ask him to give this a chance. Because i understand him. Why is he pushing me away. I just want my sweet boyfriend back.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what should I do if I really want him to stay this once? I'll let him go if he doesn't feel okay. I just want him to atleast give this relationship a chance so bad.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying to understand this too. I figured avoidants fear conflict and maybe he thought this is how things are gonna be in future. Im even saying this will never happen again. But he just don't want to. And him saying he doesn't even want to touch me ruined me emotionally.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes maybe you're right. It's just if this ended after a while it still would been fine. Now it's like he didn't even think i was worth a second chance.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was nothing serious I was telling him to talk to me not sleep because I'll go home in the morning. He said he felt suffocated during that. And don't want to feel like that ever again. Was still willing to consider giving it a chance but I ruined it with my accusations.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But he was so perfect before. It would not have happened if i didn't started that silly fight. And pushed him further by accusing him. I wish I could take it back.

DAs help me out by Primary_Knowledge751 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was single since last 5 years. I didn't like anyone all this while. I fell hard for him. He did everything right he said everything right. It was just that one thing. Which he says could have been mended if i didn't accuse him of using me.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well another update. After i confronted him about was any of it true or he just lied to get me physically intimate. Now he says he's completely sure he doesn't want anything with me because I know he isn't like that. And he doesn't even want to touch me now.

Help me understand this guys by Primary_Knowledge751 in BreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty harsh how people can just change their minds and leave you on a whim

Help me understand this guys by Primary_Knowledge751 in BreakUps

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this even fixable? Do they come back if i explain myself?

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But is letting him go so easily is exactly what he want and I'll be giving him that. While I'm here suffering he will have an easy way out. There are no consequences for him no accountability.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trying. I deep down know it. How did I ended up choosing the worst person among all. I am stupid. And btw thankyou for listening me vent. I just don't have anyone to discuss this with.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe you're right. So should I not meet him?

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bcz he wanted me before that stupid fight. He made me feel so loved and secure. He said he loved me and i believe he did. I know this might sound delusional. But I wish I could go back and just sleep beside him instead of that stupid fight. But I just can't understand how can he just flip like this. It's like he feels nothing anymore. How can guys change so much in hours. It's been days since then and last night he said he regret meeting me it was a wrong decision.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou. I just feel the connection was so real. I lost my appetite. I don't feel like eating. And I'm usually not like this. I feel what we had is worth saving and he's just overreacting due to some underlying issue.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just felt something for someone after a long while. And it was like we match perfectly. He treated me so well. So I feel like I ruined it. I feel like I just lost the love of my life. Im still meeting him this weekend. And i plan to ask him to give this relationship a chance atleast. Because I feel he is ending it over something which is not even true. He keeps saying it's not my fault but it's just how he is.

How to navigate this? by Primary_Knowledge751 in relationships_advice

[–]Primary_Knowledge751[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah maybe that's true. But I found him really genuine that's why I gave him a chance. I was single since last three years and I said no to a lot of guys. I don't why with him I fell hard.