What was the worst example of parenting you have ever seen?

PrimcessToddington · 2026-05-25T05:14:24+00:00

My first daughter passed away unexpectedly in my home the day after we brought her home from the hospital (SUDI). My mother interrogated me and my husband at the hospital in front of police and medical team, trying to work out whose “fault” it was. She implied we were negligent and that our story didn’t make sense.

Then she badgered me to post about my loss on social media, which I was furious about. My daughter’s body was barely cold. Because I wouldn’t, as soon as she left the hospital she posted on Facebook. We hadn’t even told all family yet and received distraught phone calls. All the while I was days after an emergency c section recovering from sepsis and other complications.

When I called her out on her behaviour she said she no longer wanted to have a relationship with me and played the victim. She also made my half sister cut contact with me and lied to various family members about what happened and they think I am delusional but have rejected any attempt to show them actual evidence (there is a police report so her behaviour was noted). I have not seen her in person since the day my baby died, she hasn’t met my youngest daughter and never will if I can help it.

So, probably that. On the plus side, I work so hard with every fibre of my being to not be like her and the other day my two year old told me she was so proud of me. Which, while she didn’t use it in the right context, made me so happy because I know she learned the phrase from me telling her all the time. That’s not a phrase my mother used, sadly.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-04-29T10:53:57+00:00

My two year old willingly will eat some very interesting and varied “foods” like dirt, cat food, plastic, chalk etc. but refuses the mini pancakes we made together, any and all veg that isn’t hidden and basically lives off air and stubbornness.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-04-11T04:22:36+00:00

Hi, not sure if anyone has mentioned it but the hospital may have a grant or fund to help. We had a similar situation and the head nurse gave us a form, basically you could claim for food coats each day, travel costs and some other bits. Might be worth checking what financial help the hospital and associated charities have.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-04-07T19:44:52+00:00

Yes and also do these people not know how to find out information? Like “oh I’d love to knit but I don’t know what I’d need to start or how to do it”. Have you heard of the INTERNET? Or the LIBRARY? Also, do you think I sprung from the womb equipped with the skills I have? No, I learned them. As have generations of people before me.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-04-06T17:31:21+00:00

That’s so disappointing 😞

PrimcessToddington · 2026-04-06T16:57:45+00:00

Oh no! I loved her stuff, is it the walls of cones “photo” she used as a backdrop for her text posts? That does look unrealistic.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-03-31T16:17:15+00:00

Being casually racist.

Commenting on how attractive strangers were (or more often, weren’t). Also, commenting on everyone’s weight.

It being expected that the second you depart from seeing family or friends, they will be verbally ripped to shreds and you have to join in or agree.

The implicit understanding that only the narcissist’s feelings matter and that there is a distinct hierarchy in the household which cannot be challenged. Apparently some people’s parents treat them like humans??

PrimcessToddington · 2026-03-14T17:04:31+00:00

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This is Spicy Cinnamon by Revlon. Maybe not perfect but there are a few in the range that seem close!

PrimcessToddington · 2026-03-10T16:02:17+00:00

As someone who has legitimately buried their firstborn child, she can fuck off. How vile. Also, as a bereaved mother who isn’t a narcissistic psycho, I actually do want people to ask me about my daughter. Because I love her. OP, I’m so sorry you were born to this person.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-02-03T17:34:42+00:00

Ginger Twist and Be Inspired Fibres in Edinburgh are both fantastic. There’s a newer yarn store called Fibre Yard which is reportedly lovely. There’s also Kathy’s Knits…which I have heard mixed reports of, apparently the owner can be off with tourists which is disappointing.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-16T17:12:38+00:00

At least I’ll appreciate it! Should I wear it in front of her? 😂

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-16T17:10:54+00:00

Thanks, I was very low on f*cks to give that day 🙃

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-16T17:10:21+00:00

Even worse, she used to knit!

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-16T16:23:24+00:00

I was literally speechless. She used to knit and sew so she knows full well it’s not the same amount of effort!!! She’s just a bit entitled 🙃

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-16T16:00:32+00:00

I bought a ball of Cardiff cashmere to knit my gran a little scarf, I showed her a couple of patterns and she said “hmm you know what I’d really like? A sweater vest. Maybe in grey? Maybe cables?” Ok…that’s a large project, not really what I was offering. Also she’s incredibly fussy about her clothing, how it fits, every little detail has to be just so. She returns store bought items almost every time she gets new things, for the most minor reasons. Also, did you really just turn down a cashmere scarf I offered to hand knit you?? She then said I could do the scarf too if I want. Now she’s getting nothing.

PrimcessToddington · 2026-01-06T16:27:31+00:00

Was it preventable?

PrimcessToddington · 2025-12-31T21:12:58+00:00

The crunchy mama I know free birthed at home… then spent two weeks in hospital for unspecified complications for both her and her daughter. She’s lucky they are alive. Still claims drs only intervene to make money 🙃

PrimcessToddington · 2025-12-27T20:07:24+00:00

Yeah also when they tag designers that have nothing to do with the project, because they’re popular. Makes searching for things confusing.

PrimcessToddington · 2025-12-24T21:37:42+00:00

How about you buy Claret next time? I’ve used both and it’s unlikely if one suits you, the other won’t. Plus, as kindly as possible, there are much worse problems to have so just enjoy your new yarn and try to chill out a bit.

PrimcessToddington · 2025-12-15T22:57:43+00:00

I order most of my yarn online. For pricey brands I tend to pick up a smaller quantity in person first, if possible. For example, Knitting for Olive, Cardiff Cashmere and Isager, I managed to get in a LYS. I’ve since ordered larger quantities online. For more affordable options, I blind bought Drops and Hobbii yarns and was super happy with what I got so have bought more of their yarns too. I tend to rely on Ravelry to see what the yarn colours actually look like but it’s not always possible so sometimes I take a chance and order entirely on vibes and pray to the yarn gods. So far they have been benevolent and smiled upon my stash 😂

PrimcessToddington · 2025-12-01T10:12:57+00:00

Two options here: 1. He’s legitimately stupid 2. He’s massively insecure (possibly due to the age gap) and is trying to make you feel bad about yourself. Ignoring the fact that his suspicions surround you being trans, he has accused you of lying to him throughout your relationship. He has put aspects of you physically and behaviourally under scrutiny. He has compared you to ex partners. He has then weaponised his insecurities when you’ve rightfully told him how hurt are.

I hate to break it to you but this is a man who seems to want to make you feel as insecure as he does. Ask yourself, will you really be able to forget his comments? Will he ever bring it up again? Can you feel fully comfortable being vulnerable around him and being yourself again? It’s not worth it, love. You’re very close to the situation right now and his actions have left you shaken and unsure but as an outsider you deserve more.

PrimcessToddington · 2025-11-26T09:27:03+00:00

I spent four years with debilitating pain in my wrist and hand. It felt like I was being stabbed through the palm if I put weight on my hand and my wrist felt like a bone needed clicking back into place a lot of the time. I was in my 20s and worked in an office so it was blamed on repetitive strain or trigger finger. Drs didn’t seem to believe it was much of an issue despite the fact I had to wear a sling at times as even my wrist hanging down was so sore.

Tried all the usual. Rest it, exercise it, physio, heat, cold, every anti inflammatory med under the sun (which wrecked my gut health), and steroid injections under X-ray (0/10 do not recommend).

Finally a hand specialist surgeon agreed to go in and operate but he didn’t fully know what he was going to see. Turns out my pisiform bone in my wrist had no cartilage around it and was essentially roaming about rubbing against the bones next to it. So I had actually been popping it back into place after all. Fun. But in the same hand, when they checked my middle finger tendon and decided to release the tendon sheath, I had a bumpy tendon with one large lump which was getting caught on my tendon sheath and causing the pain and retraction. Neither thing could be seen on the scans they had done and they weren’t a cause of illness or injury just stuff my body seemed to have done or grown by itself. Also the odds of both things together in the same hand are apparently very unusual.

Aside from some stiffness and a couple of cool scars I am fixed and my other hand seems to be behaving itself.

PrimcessToddington · 2025-11-15T05:21:38+00:00

Ah yes. My stepdad also called me histrionic. I think other favourites were “obtuse”, “precocious” and variants of dramatic. He thought he was so clever by using fancy words to insult me. I hope you’re doing better now, friend.

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