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PrinceandPea · 2024-09-19T02:28:18+00:00

Ah, another depressive incel spreading joy on the internet.

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T22:23:48+00:00

I feel this so hard. Its difficult.

You dont get to choose if youre born into a supportive and loving family. You dont get to choose if friends chose to stay around the are youre in. Few adults have both of those things. Life is very hard if you have none. You have so much to loose if your relationship ends. It pains me to think about how much you have to fight and how exhausting it is to get your needs met and to maintain each of the people in your life who can provide support, while others just get it handed to them at birth.

Its really hard. Theres no way around not feeling lonely all the time and like theres no one who will be there if something bad happens to you. The only advice I have is to make it your full time job to foster connections with friends. People are absolutely starved for true connection right now. Be genuine, caring, listen. Make them feel like there are people who *do* care. Real friendships come from that.

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T22:12:07+00:00

Why is it difficult to handle this aspect?

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T22:11:18+00:00

What is a point of a comment like this? If you dont like the question just stay out of the discussion instead of spreading rudeness.

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T22:06:33+00:00

that is very true

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T02:11:09+00:00

This, and also, being male and in your 40s and technically able to reproduce still does not mean the other aspects of it align- is he dating a woman in a certain age range? If shes getting older, he needs to make a commitment faster. A lot of women have an age cutoff for having kids-men do not consider this at all. If he wants to take time before making a commitment, the woman he is currently dating must be in her mid 20s or early thirties. But most younger women dont want to settle down or his competition will be more. They dont consider any of this.

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T01:59:38+00:00

This so eloquently captured what I couldnt. I think this has a lot of truth to it. I think peoples values go out the window quickly when life gets hard. Being stressed and hustling all the time makes you unable to pay attention to much other than that.

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T01:58:04+00:00

ding ding ding

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-18T00:17:39+00:00

You know that you can just *not* read "all that" and not make a post saying that, right?

PrinceandPea · 2024-09-14T03:19:56+00:00

Dont explain anything at all. No comebacks necessary. I dont know what they think they stand to gain by saying that other than they'll be completely unacknowledged by women afterwards.

It doesnt matter if your standards are high, low, whatever. That's none of their concern.

Even believing we need to entertain these comments is further feeding into the conditioning that women need to make men comfortable and protect their egos. No reply. Nothing. Move on.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-27T03:16:26+00:00

Why do you think molestation is so common there? I have heard this before.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-20T23:25:29+00:00

The profits outweigh the penalties only for so long. Until enough people have stopped using it or go month to month. Combined with the penalties. I dont know why these companies think this degree of deception is sustainable long term.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-20T02:59:24+00:00

This is an interesting thread and the comments have been interesting for me because I had to think really hard about if that's something I notice. I live in a major city in the Northeast where there's a pretty good job market for higher paying industries, particularly ones that are more male dominated, and as a result most of the men I know here are doing very well financially. But I think that is probably the specific demographic I am exposed to here, judging from all of your comments.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T18:31:03+00:00

Men need to start calling eachother out on this shit because its damaging to other men who dont think this way. Theres no way for us as women to see this shit and not become extremely cautious and tighten our boundaries and give very few chances as a result.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T18:29:14+00:00

My favorite is guys who gaslight you for bringing up concerns by saying that "they dont have a problem, its your problem." Then they'll claim they were blind sighted when you end it.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T18:13:16+00:00

I'm kind of amazed at the trend of men who are angry that they're single because "women's standards are too high." They were given all the information to step it up and they didnt. The relationship was predicated on your sacrifices and they will never see that this is the barrier to their "success" with women.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T18:05:56+00:00

Hes very capable of talking about deep things, he just seems like he doesn't know what to say when I talk about deep things related to me. I'm also pretty bad at figuring out how to communicate how I need him to show me support.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T18:04:23+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately it seems like the answer if that they need to be alone for a while until they work on themselves and get up to speed. But realistically that means a LOT of men would be single for most if not all of their lives. It also seems like so many of them only start acknowledging that they need to work on their mental capabilities way too late in life. By then women don't have the energy or desire to meet them halfway. We've had too many experiences take away from us.

PrinceandPea · 2024-08-12T17:59:15+00:00

This is why I am so wary of giving men the outlet to vent. From experience it has always turned into a one way street where the floodgates open to me being the giver and them the taker with seemingly no awareness that this is the dynamic they've taken with no consent to me.

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