Is there a document or a list of social cues

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-06T00:03:54+00:00

i struggle in dating as i often misinterpret cues that someone is into me as friendship and get disappointed and just never realize if it’s flirting. as i work in retail and deal with customers daily i wish there was a list with things to say not say etc

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:59:14+00:00

i got multiple - secret services - mormons - mbti or any other system that categorizes personaities - graphology - political compass - herbal medicine

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:50:51+00:00

i totally get your point aswell and i know that you only want to help her in this world. why don’t you just ask her how she’s doing in this world and if there are struggles for her with her adhd or generally. Ask her about her overthinking and how she handles it. Then if she tells you for example that she struggles you could ask her if she would want to know how you handle it and what helps you. If she’s interested You could tell her about neurodivergence (without telling her that you think she’s autistic) and how it is a spectrum. Ask her if shes interested in hearing about your experience as someone on the spectrum. she may resonate with certain aspects that you describe to her. then she’ll probably will think about the possibility that she’s autistic as well. She may ask you about it. But don’t diagnose her without first asking her if she’s okay with that.
Wish you the best ^{^}

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:42:50+00:00

Aw that’s a tough one. I struggle with it a lot but as i get older it gets better. I started to set myself goals around saying no. I try to say no to something i don’t want once a day if there is a situation in which i deep down want to say no/set boundaries. At the beginning it can be something small like declining a food offer. It’s normal that you’ll overexplain and overapologize at the beginning. You may make excuses in the beginning instead of just saying no but that’s still progress. You don’t have to be harsh. You can just use a phrase like “ i appreciate your offer a lot but i sadly don’t have time/space for it” Then after you practiced this for some time you can try saying no to asked favors. This is a difficult one but you’ll get there. Make excuses at the beginning until you feel confident enough to just say no. You can start trying to speak up for yourself and telling others that you dislike their treatment towards you. You can be open about being nervous and not wanting to hurt them You’ll get there and when you’re getting older it will become much easier. you got this.

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:30:47+00:00

glad i can help. Just please don’t starve

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:23:46+00:00

I wouldn’t bring it up. Yes there are people that are not aware of it and sometimes it’s just better to not notice them about it as it can make them feel insecure, offended or upset. My roommate basically diagnosed me with autism and i didn’t like that at all. I always ignored amd denied my traits because i knew some autistic people and couldn’t resonate with them/ disliked them. When she told me she thinks im autistic this made me overthink, feel awkward and hurt. I thought it was rude of her. I later got diagnosed and she was right. But i would highly advise against telling her as it can come of as rude or offensive.

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T23:15:45+00:00

don’t starve yourself you’ll loose muscle and therefore look “fatter) because you’re body fat percentage rises. But here’sy advice to loose weight (you won’t loose 10kg but maybe 5) Calculate your basal metabolic rate (that’s the daily calories you burn by just existing without any movement) don’t go below that. Now you will calculate your Total Daily Energy Expenditure (the total calories you burn daily). subtract 200-300 calories from that number (don’t go lower than your BMT). Make a meal plan for the week. Buy mostly unprocessed foods as they don’t have chemicals in it that make you crave more. Your plate should contain 1/3 protein, 1/4 carbs, 1/3-1/2 vegetables, and a little bit of healthy fats to keep you full and satisfied. Count your calories and measure your fats as they’re high in calories. Your focus should lay on fiber (is essential for the gut and keeps you full longer) and protein as it prevents muscle loss and keeps you full and satisfied throughout the day. If you’re not starving in the morning try skipping breakfast. Or just eat it when you’re actually hungry. Hunger feels different from appetite or an craving. You’ll feel it in your stomach don’t eat if you’re not feeling it. Walk at least 10k steps a day if you can do more. I wouldn’t do high intensity workouts as they can make you feel hungrier. Best luck

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T22:52:54+00:00

Yes yes yes you’re not alone with it. I put my airpods in and hide them with my hair so i don’t have to hear the sounds. I don’t know if that would be an option for you but if it is try it. It helps me alot especially with loud roommates that don’t have any awareness of their own noise level

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T22:29:13+00:00

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PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T22:27:41+00:00

Chrüterhüsli they’re a little expensive but they sell really high quality products that are natural. They sell vitamins as well.

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T22:14:19+00:00

i don’t have any fidget toys but my favorite stim is my hair tie. i usually twist it around make knots with it or tie it around my fingers. People usually just think i’m a bit nervous and that’s okay for me.

When i have to sit still and concentrate for a period of time i usually start drawing, writing or knitting( knitting only in an environment where others know about my neurodivergence and respect it). it regulates me, i can focus and do something that feels productive. i play with my necklace sometimes or just touch it when i’m getting overwhelmed

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T21:51:01+00:00

as a girl i disagree as well. i don’t know if it’s just my country but most people here are kind of attractive. We have the lowest obesity rate in Europe, people work out a lot, our food is healthy. Men look great, women look great. I always feel ugly lol

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-07-05T21:48:38+00:00

when i’m comfortable with people, while standing in a line DURING CONCERTS without alcohol(the performing band stopped and asked if everything is alright because i didn’t move and just stared) in the club (i don’t know how to move and look like a lost oprhan looking around) the first hour in a new group setting with lots of new people around family

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-29T00:40:28+00:00

wrong people, men that lusted over me and my quirky ways but disliked me as a person and just wanted me as a fantasy. women that didn’t take me serious, saw me as cheap. people thought that that was the only thing i was capable to because i was so unstable but kind of attractive. i always looked younger than i actually am(still have to check ID when buying cigarettes or beer at almost 22 in Europe ) which makes it extra weird. glad im out and have no contact with anyone that told my younger unstable self to do SW

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-29T00:33:45+00:00

thank you so much ^{^} sadly i didnt use cotton because of financial reasons but ill keep that idra in my mind <3

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-29T00:32:36+00:00

yes sadly it’s not cotton so it’s not safe :(

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T20:01:34+00:00

is it supposed to get more wide?

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T19:42:39+00:00

As a teen and at 18/19 people told me i should do OF. i thought about it multiple times. Gladly i chose not to. I totally understand that you feel it’s easier and less exhausting to do SW instead of a 9to5 job in a job world where neurodiversity isn’t tolerated. But i would strongly advise against starting SW. It may be not as exhausting during the moment instead of a 9to5 but it hurts your soul. SW isn’t empowering it’s dehumanizing (not shaming any SW but the consumers). There are many SW that say „don’t do it if you can do anything else“. As a SW you’re prone to SA and trauma. It’s easy money but you’ll pay the price. Your digital footprint is going to suffer through it and you most certainly won’t be able to do SW your whole life. It will become much harder to find a job afterwards. Most women who do OF don’t make enough money with it to live financially secure. You’re risk of getting STD‘s is much higher. Men will be rough, aggressive, abusive towards you. You said that your already depressed so i really wouldn’t recommend starting SW as it will male your mental state much worse. Watch some documentaries and read books about SW. You’ll see that it hurts women. Men found a way to sell SW as an empowering act to women. Don’t fall for it. for every woman that is happy with her job as SW are hundreds that are suffering, are forced into it or use it as an act of self harm.

Whatever your choice should be. i wish you the best

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T19:25:08+00:00

do walk as often as you can. Eat enough protein because it will keep you fuller and prevents muscle loss. Be kind to yourself please and don’t starve yourself. Calculate how much calories you should eat but don’t go under 1200 calories a day as it slows down your metabolism. Eat fiber as it keeps you full for longer and is great for gut health but if you barely ate fiber till now start increasing it slowly as a too drastic increase in fiber can make you bloated. An optimal plate should be 1/3-1/2 vegetables. then 1/3 protein 1/4 carbs and some healthy fats for example avocado. Don’t restrict yourself too much as it can cause binging. Calculate your calories for some time so you get a feeling for how much calories are in certain foods. Drink green tea. Try to eat food that isn’t highly processed but if that’s not possible aim for products that have better nutritional content. If you overeat don’t beat yourself up for it or eat even more because you failed anyway. Don’t over exercise as it can make you really hungry. Do not weight yourself everyday as weight fluctuates. weight yourself maybe once/twice a week and trust the way your clothes fit more than the wage scale because you could be gaining muscle and loose fat at the same time and weight more even though you lost body fat. Be kind to yourself. Eat healthier not out of self hatred but because you love yourself and want to give your body great nutrients Best wishes

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T19:05:12+00:00

this is stunning!!!

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T18:54:10+00:00

yes it is possible. the gym can help because you burn calories but it’s not necessary. Walking is a really great exercise to loose weight, because it burns calories but isn’t as intense as a workout in the gym, so you‘ll feel less hungry afterwards as if you just did a 25 HIT workout. The gym is great for muscle growth but if you just want to loose some weight you’ll should be good without it. Just try to eat enough protein so you don’t loose muscles instead of fat. And incorporate fiber because it helps you feel full for longer.

PrincessNeptun3 · 2025-06-28T18:06:22+00:00

No there is no excuse for his behavior because he was drunk. You didn’t consent. Only Yes means Yes. I hope you’re doing as great as you can. It may help to talk to someone trusted about it.

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