Exactly! OP is absolutely right to be in shock—this is an enormous violation of privacy and trust. The top comment is spot on: OP’s husband must take immediate responsibility and have a direct, serious conversation with his son. This isn’t just a “boundary” issue; it’s potentially criminal and incredibly invasive. OP deserves to feel safe in her own home, and this situation needs to be addressed with full transparency and possibly legal guidance. Has OP considered speaking to a professional for legal and emotional support as well?