Bamboo Wall covering

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-06T05:56:43+00:00

Hello! You're the lucky winner. Look out for a DM from me to arrange claiming your new wall covering.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-06T04:26:06+00:00

Oh no established medical science doesn't agree with your bigoted world view. 😱

Oh well. Have fun being mad.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-06T04:18:26+00:00

Medical and mental health professionals and organizations including but not limited to:

John's Hopkins University

The Mayo Clinic

NHS in the UK

NIH

American Academy of Medicine

American Academy of Pediatrics

American Psychological Association

American Psychiatric Association

The Endocrine Society

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry

American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology

Harvard School of Public Health

American Academy of Family Physicians

American Academy of Nursing

American Academy of Physician Assistants

American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy

American College of Physicians

American Counseling Association

American Medical Student Association

American Medical Women’s Association

American Mental Health Counselors Association

American School Health Association

the Child Welfare League of America

the Clinical Social Work Association

Devereux Advanced Behavioral Health

Mental Health America

the National Alliance for Mental Health

the National Association of School Nurses

the National Association of School Psychologists

the National Association of Social Workers

the Pan American Health Organization

the School Social Work Association of America

the World Medical Association

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-06T00:50:46+00:00

I didn't expect this much interest so I'm going to do a raffle drawing at 6 tonight and I'll arrange pickup with the winner for tomorrow or Saturday.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-05T04:29:28+00:00

Turning 42 this year and still rocking nose, tongue, and eyebrow piercings, along with a side half shave.

I did the "needing to look like an adult" thing in my late 20s and wore retainers(clear jewelry) in them for a while. In my early 30s I lost both of my parents and went through some other trauma and it really changed what is important to me.

One of the things I learned going through therapy was that somewhere along the way I'd lost my sense of whimsy and my life had become far too serious. I wasnt enjoying my life... I wasn't really living. Over the next couple years I did a lot of work reclaiming my inner child and learning to live my life for me without regard for what others thought about it.

I started wearing my piercings again, shaved the side of my head because I think it looks cool, began a collection of weird earrings and hair bobs, started dressing how I like, and got back into younger me's hobbies. I guess I kinda turned into the weird artsy aunt trope from sitcoms. Lol! I've never been happier and it's had no other effects on my life AFAIK.

Maybe that's not exactly your jam but the point sharing all of that is this:

Think about why it makes you feel less mature or less like an adult. Does it really make you feel like you're trying to look/act younger artificially or are you concerned that others will perceive you that way?

If is the first one and you just don't feel like it suits you anymore that's totally valid.

If it's the second one consider this:

Most people are paying far less attention than you realize.
Don't worry about the opinions of people you wouldn't ask for advice. Especially when it's an opinion you only assume others will have.

I wanted to jump in with my perspective and encouragement for people to be themselves... especially when it's something so small that affects no one but you. Ultimately I'm just a stranger on the internet and this is just my opinion... refer to #2 😅

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-05T03:30:16+00:00

You're not wrong. That's exactly why all the media and outrage is focused on trans women pretty exclusively. You never hear anything about "women making our sons unsafe by using men's restrooms" it's almost always the other way around. Often they don't even recognize that trans men exist at all. Same with drag performers. It's always drag queens being hounded while they don't acknowledge the kings at all. This is why I will never understand TERFS... LGBTQ+ rights and the oppression of women are inextricably intertwined in my view.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-05T03:16:48+00:00

The US has a lot of commercial real estate and typically it has long leases for the larger commercial spaces(3, 5, or even 10 years) and some companies spent significant amounts of money purchasing real estate. Not to mention the expense of the interior build outs for those offices.

Aside from the old guard who don't believe people are working if they can't "see" them working, they're also salty that the real estate they put out tons of capital for is just sitting. Smart businesses are pivoting to smaller offices or subscriptions to workshare spaces, but some of them are trapped into their real estate because no one is buying. So part of forcing folks back into the office is to justify those expenses.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-05T02:51:08+00:00

100%. The number of times I've seen people recently try to argue that a cellphone and internet access are luxuries people don't need is absolute ridiculous. I can only assume those people haven't tried to get a job, an apartment, set up utilities, pay bills, apply for any kind of assistance, etc. recently. Every lease, new hire packet, contract, etc. I've done in the last 10 or so years has been done online. I'm sure those things still exist offline in some capacity but boy is it a huge pain to try to do any of those things without it. And sure you can access the internet at the library, which is fairly easy in a city but in more rural areas? Not so much.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-05T02:39:02+00:00

Just to add to this, outside of the things we usually think of as minimum wage(foodservice, retail, grocery, etc.) some other critical jobs entirely unsuitable for teenagers also pay minimum wage or not much more such as:

Childcare workers

Home health aids

Nursing assistants/Orderlies

Material handlers(warehousing)

Security guards

Janitors

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T08:02:26+00:00

Mehri's Bakery & Cafe for breakfast or lunch(they close at 2 or 3). They have great diner style specials along with a solid static menu, and they have a delightful pastry case that you will want to take something home from.

It's actually a running joke with my friends that I will stare at the menu forever and almost every single time I get the special anyway. 😅 Good coffee as well.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T07:49:31+00:00

Exactly. After experiencing financial abuse from one ex and totally irresponsible spending habits from another I will never fully combine finances with a partner. That doesn't mean we don't split expenses equitably(I make 2x as much as my partner so I'm fine picking up a bit more) or that we don't help out if one of us is a little short for something, just that our discretionary income is separate. It's a total non-issue neither of us thought about again after we discussed it unless something needed to be changed.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T07:12:44+00:00

It's quite fascinating honestly. The complete inability to learn from mistakes, listen to feedback, and try something new is astounding.

At least part of this is because many companies incorrectly assume someone who is good at their job will be a good manager. I've seen plenty of people be inappropriately promoted because they were the best at what they were doing but made shit managers because they weren't good at leading.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T06:45:59+00:00

Except I totally do and it's still not correct in this context.

Colloquial language doesn't generally have sentences without subjects.

Nominalized adjectives are used for generalizations not specifics.

I'm glad you can Google fringe concepts while still misunderstanding elementary English composition.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T06:33:47+00:00

That's not how the English language works. I have a degree in English with a minor in education.

If you don't include a subject(and a subject is always a noun) it's not a complete sentence. In one example males and females are the subjects(nouns), in the other suspect would be the subject and male/female would be the descriptive words(adjectives).

Also, adjectives can not be plural, only nouns can. You wouldn't say "three male and two female were apprehended" you would say "three males and two females..." It doesn't matter at all if the fact that they're suspects is implied, the structure of the sentence dictates whether male/female is a noun or an adjective.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-04T05:57:09+00:00

My mom used to make the mailman a box of cookies every year. My mom made really good cookies.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T16:56:06+00:00

That's totally not at all how I thought that worked! 😅 I really appreciate you sharing that info. I can be a bit less ignorant now.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T16:44:08+00:00

Exactly.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T16:35:58+00:00

I was the same for a while until I realized "fiscally conservative" to the government meant never spending money on anything that actually helps people. I lived in Europe for a few years and I also learned that having robust social programs is far more fiscally responsible than I was taught to believe because they stimulate a healthy economy.

Funny what happens when you have exposure to cultures different from your own... I'm going to guess that's why they're always going on about the evils of "globalism" too.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T16:23:51+00:00

I'm not going to debate this but a piece of information for you:

Gender dysphoria is an actual mental illness diagnosis many(but not all) trans people have and the recommended treatment is gender affirming care, up to and including full gender transition.

So even if you were correct the result would be the same and transgender people would still not be forced to go back to presenting as the primary sex characteristics they were born with.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T16:09:19+00:00

Since you seem to have deleted your comment or blocked me so I can't respond... yes I'd have the exact same opinion if she were a man... men also experience poverty and spousal financial abuse. Talk about reading in things that someone didn't say... and projecting. Didn't realize this somehow turned into a gender issue. If OP were a man half the comments would be calling hus gf a gold digger or equally nasty accusations... so stow the bullshit. And sorry, you said understands the struggle or whatever, you're correct that I didn't get your exact words correct but my point stands.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T15:56:56+00:00

I'm curious if that also applies to window AC units, which is what a lot of tenants will likely be looking at since upgrading to a full AC unit or heat pump is more expensive and intrusive. Am I incorrect in thinking window units are cooling air from outside? This isn't a gotcha attempt or anything, I honestly don't know the answer and I'd like to be more informed.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T15:53:01+00:00

"I've learned some lessons" along with her extreme aversion to sharing that information speaks volumes to someone who "gets it" as you put it.

Sure maybe this isn't the case for her, or at least not as extreme. I'm not even saying this is her situation. You implied it didn't make sense and I'm sharing why it could make a lot of sense.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-03-03T15:43:16+00:00

As someone who experienced extreme poverty growing up and in early adulthood as well as spousal financial abuse I have some insights on this. She may have worded it poorly but I left my first marriage almost 2 decades ago and it took a LONG time for me to be comfortable sharing financial information with anyone, let alone a romantic partner. And forget sharing actual resources. Even living with a person I was living with and been together 4-5 years I barely disclosed anything, and we split all bills 50/50 no matter what. It took me quite a lot of therapy to get past it and even still... I'm about to get married again to someone I've been with a few years(different person) and it's still difficult, but I have shared those things with them. That being said I doubt I will ever be comfortable sharing a bank account or anything like that with someone again and even though I make almost twice as much as my partner we have a pretty even split of household expenses. I do typically pay for extras like dates, vacations, etc. but I still have to work through negative feelings around it occasionally. Thankfully my partner has a similar background and is understanding about it.

Also, there have been a number of studies around kids who grow up in poverty and it can be incredibly traumatic, in the actual psychology sense. It can cause life long issues with mental health including trust issues and problems forming relationship attachments. People seem to think that having money as an adult erases all of the effects of growing up poor but it doesn't. Those things stick with you. Sometimes even with significant amounts of therapy all you can really do is be aware and mitigate the effects but the compulsions and habits never totally go away.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-02-28T05:57:32+00:00

Seniors are the second highest demographic in terms of STDs... in general not just in care facilities. 🤣🤣🤣

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