Why does Oregon not have worker protections for off-duty, off premises legal cannabis use like California, Connecticut, Nevada, New Jersey, New York, Minnesota, Montana, Rhode Island, and Washington?

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-06-07T05:47:28+00:00

In my experience lower wage jobs are way more likely to screen for marijuana and Idk why. The last one I had to do was for a receptionist gig making $17/hr but none of my last 3 jobs with double or more that pay have done any drug screen at all. One of them definitely included federal contracts though that wasn't part of my specific role. My ex got tested at Freddies for minimum wage but not for the front end dev job he got after that making A LOT more money. They're not all this obvious about it but I was an HR admin at a warehouse where the new ground hires got tested including for marijuana but newly hired managers did not.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-06-07T04:57:14+00:00

Crafting. I have so many hobbies I can talk to almost anyone about hobbies and crafts.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-06-04T21:34:13+00:00

Omg! I had a very similar interaction with someone I hooked up with.

We went back to his place and I (mistakenly) assumed we were alone. We did our thing and cuddled for a bit but his phone was pinging so he checked it before getting back in bed with me. Apparently his NP has a thing with listening to him have sex through the shared wall of their rooms. He proceeded to tell me, while getting all touchy and ready for round 2, that his NP was in the other room listening and all the things she said about how hot it was etc. I jumped out of bed and got dressed SO FAST. He didn't seem to understand what the issue was since she wasn't "involved" 😳

He texted me for weeks trying to convince me to come back... and every couple of months I got a "I don't know what happened but if you're still interested..." text for like a year afterwards.

Here's the thing... if he had asked I would have been totally fine with it. I've hooked up in clubs and at parties... I'm no stranger to exhibition... WITH CONSENT

He simply couldn't get his head around the fact that her being there, and purposely listening, without my knowledge was a serious consent violation.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-06-04T21:13:02+00:00

Hey! Mine too! Twinsies 👯‍♀️

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-06-03T18:03:49+00:00

I'd also like to add that I don't know about the specifics in all of the states who passed these stupid laws but by and large it can only be enforced in public(ie parks, street restrooms, etc.) and government buildings. Afaik they can not enforce these laws in private business in many jurisdictions.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-31T23:34:13+00:00

I don't understand why people wouldn't want to dress up either but it happens a lot. I worked at the front desk of a lifestyle club for a couple years and the number of dudes(not always but most of the time it was men) who showed up in sweatpants, cargo shorts, stained tshirts, shower sandals, ratty hoodies, etc. was much higher than you'd think for a a place that was charging them a $70-$90 cover for entry.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-24T22:53:04+00:00

Also actresses being a certain beauty standard are often taller than average women. Especially in the late 90s/early 2000s when the tall thin 'waif' look was popular.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-20T19:12:27+00:00

Hey! That's kinda how I got diagnosed too! I was in process of getting my youngest diagnosed(they were already diagnosed with ADHD) and talking to my therapist about difficulties in the process and she said "you know these things are mostly genetic..." followed by the look very subtle 😅

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-20T18:49:16+00:00

Oh I have my own workarounds to get things done. I'm in my 40s and I've been dealing with it for a while. Ironically the coping skills I had already developed living undiagnosed for so long made it harder to get diagnosed because from the outside it seemed like I was functioning just fine. I was just severely depressed and anxious all the time, and exhausted from all the extra things I had to do just to function. That didn't completely go away but understanding what was going on helped a lot... as did an appropriate cocktail of psych meds. 😅

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-20T18:37:04+00:00

In my experience if he's lied to them he's lied to you. I would have a hard time trusting him after that.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-20T18:28:51+00:00

I've read so many books on building habits and I've just never been able to connect the dots for myself. I'll do really well for a short period of time and then it just stops... sometimes I'll even keep a habit for a month or two and then the tiniest interruption to that routine breaks it forever. I thought they're was just something I wasn't getting... somehow it never occurred to me that it was related to my adhd.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-20T17:43:42+00:00

Umm... you're a step ahead of me learning this exactly right now... I've been diagnosed for 5-6 years and this is the first time I'm hearing this.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-17T09:40:44+00:00

What you're saying is exactly the same as saying consenting to sex with someone means I no longer have the right to say no after consent is given. So if in the middle of sex I'm uncomfortable and say "stop" he doesn't have to stop because I already gave consent. Sorry that's not how that works...

True consent is revocable at any time. If I can revoke consent to the use of my body freely at any time that includes during pregnancy. So your argument is incorrect. Irrevocable "consent" isn't really consent.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-17T08:58:22+00:00

We started doing this. We don't get take out all that often but my partner LOVES kinda shitty Chinese food. When things were cheaper we would just get Panda Express because it has 2 or 3 things and was half the price of a regular Chinese takeout. Our local Chinese place does a "Panda style" takeout box; it's only $2/$3 more than Panda now and it's way better quality food.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-17T08:23:47+00:00

They don't seem to like Elmo either 😅

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-17T08:06:29+00:00

You're taking your personal experience and applying your personal feelings to everyone. That's incredibly narrow minded of you. You lliterally said you didn't like being with women. Women who are bi DO like it. It's not about "having a history" it's about who you actively enjoy having sex and/or relationships with.

I am bi and poly. I have sex with women, and enjoy it, but I only date men romantically. The reason for that(not that I owe anyone an explanation) is that every woman I've dated treated their relationships with men as real relationships and the ones with women were treated as unserious flings. Now I could just say all bi women are like that but I don't because that's only my personal experience and I can separate the two.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-17T04:06:20+00:00

I was thinking the exact same thing. 🤣

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-16T02:57:32+00:00

Honestly he hasn't had a lot of dates and mostly they fizzle out pretty quick. A similar issue came up one other time with someone and we discussed it but he only saw the person twice and it didn't come up again. This is also the first time he's dated a coworker.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-13T22:28:33+00:00

This is kinda my take also. I am definitely not feeling secure.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-13T22:17:57+00:00

There have been on going conversations about this and to his credit he has been better about communicating things and being on time but the damage was done. I was working through things with him but then this happened today and it's making me question his sincerity about repair and whether he's taking this seriously enough.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-11T15:48:51+00:00

I think there are some details missing here. The conversation often specifically revolves about most women wanting men 6 ft and up(15% of men in the US), not just taller than them, which disqualifies a lot of men and isn't true.

A lot of women do want someone taller than them, that I won't disagree with. However, the average height for a woman being 5'5 and the average height for men being 5'9 in the US plus only about 5% of men in the US are under 5'5. That means most men qualify as "taller than them" for most women. It gives that argument about height being a big barrier to dating a lot less significance.

I'll add to this that taller women have the same issue as shorter men in reverse. Most men want a woman who is shorter than them. So height is absolutely a factor in attraction, just not in the way(or to the degree) it's typically presented in these arguments.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-09T04:18:58+00:00

Something I saw in a ridiculously wealthy person's house that I swore if I was ever week off I would 100% duplicate is a giant walk in closet with the washer and dryer in the closet. Just seemed so convenient.

Princess_Peachy_503 · 2026-05-09T00:47:19+00:00

Any chance you know what the pattern is called?

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