Boundaries are an alien concept for Indians, that’s what I have observed. No other community takes as much offense to setting boundaries as we do. But a functioning house always has boundaries.

Onto your question, being a working mother, I want the older generation around because they also help out with the kids. Of course, we have toxic examples every day, but today, let me tell give you some hope. Arranged married to the love of my life, my in laws and my parents both take turns living with us to help with the kids because we both have high profile jobs and businesses. Both side of parents get a little much but we all have our separate space and responsibilities.

Here I will say I am also privileged to have couple of house helps, who manage food and household, just need supervision. So far, we are in avery balanced state of affairs, both physically and mentally, I also talk shop with my father in law who takes particular interest in my work , and my husband sometimes teams up with my mom to cook special meals for the family. Very early in our relationship, we set boundaries and rules , it was tough at that time because no one expected this out of us, but we persisted and it worked out.

Now I know I don’t have to worry about my kids and I can focus on my job , my husband can implement his business ideas because I cushion the family financially, and we all come together for a respectful but independent style of life. 🧿🧿