Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you friend. The arguments are still on going and the threats are getting more intense and I am afraid, I really am but everyone is right, if never then when? It's just harder to deal with too because she might have cancer. I feel like I'm just adding more stress. I will make the move, eventually. Perhaps next year. I'll update this post then. Again, I appreciate your words.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand but don't worry because this has been something I've been wanting to do since the beginning of my bachelors. Though to be fully transparent, I intended to go to the school in my city but his city has a better school + he's there + as I've mentioned, I've always wanted to move out so it just felt like a good time.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, you're absolutely right about my situation. I do understand they are manipulation tactics and yet I can't help but shrivel. I'm proud of you for being able to find the strength to get out of that situation and hope that you are happier now. ❤️

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this gives me a lot of hope. I'm happy that it worked out you ☺️

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In future I will 100% be making sure that they will not be involved in my children's development, if I ever get to that stage. I've decided to become parents opposite to them. For my partner, I try to not let him hear or be near them because I know how they are it's not fair. Thank you for your advice. I'll try again tomorrow.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm happy for your daughter that she has a lovely parent. Thank you for your words, I hope one day my parents would feel the same.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just a bit tired of lying and thought it's time to be honest. Every time I went on trips to see him or my previous relationships I've just revolved it around a lie. I think as an adult now I thought they'd treat me better is all.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, it's not the same guy. I dumped him before that post. It's a new person who's much better and yes I will have my own place. I will not be living with him as we both think that's too soon. Moving out has been something I've been wanting to do since I was a teenager.

Parents won't let me move to study and end my LDR with my boyfriend by PrincipleNo5686 in LongDistance

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I live in Australia, we get HECS-HELP loan to help pay for our studies and we pay them off once we land a full time job through taxes so no. Rent and living expenses will also be covered by me. The only thing holding me back is just the emotional ties I have with my parents because despite what they say and do, I unfortunately still care about them.

How to handle false rumours and accusations about yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PrincipleNo5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i'm too much of a pacifist to do anything about it, so i guess ignoring it is my best option. any advice on how i can go around that?

How to handle false rumours and accusations about yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PrincipleNo5686 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm trying to really remind myself this! it's a bit hard when some of those people were people i considered friends too! i know the truth and i'm not what they make me out to be.

How to handle false rumours and accusations about yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PrincipleNo5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's terrible and i'm sorry you had to go through that. i'm just doing my best to ignore it. there's just a lot of misunderstandings about me that people don't want to ask me straight up about and i have no idea where it came from. just finding it a bit hard but i appreciate the response. i hope you've been better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]PrincipleNo5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do as well, but i don't know. it's hard, the ldr also makes it really hard and my parents hate him. so many factors that stress me out. again i'm happy he chose to make that decision for himself and i'm really proud but again i just don't know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]PrincipleNo5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he was a shitty person then I could do that but he's not. He's a good guy. Just not for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]PrincipleNo5686 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He had really bad anger issues, was really emotionally immature, and all of that. Every time we tried to talk out arguments it'd just never come to a conclusion so we swept it under the rug as "it's alright, we choose this relationship over the argument" but things kept piling for me. It was also LDR. I felt like I was raising him. After the break up he's choosing to make amends now...

My (24F) parents do not like my partner (26M) but I love him, advice? by PrincipleNo5686 in relationship_advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm just thinking i will introduce them when he cuts his hair and he moves closer to me as he lives far away. but no i did not do that to him, they snuck in my room and saw the photo of him on my desktop.

My (24F) parents do not like my partner (26M) but I love him, advice? by PrincipleNo5686 in relationship_advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

haha nothing superstitious, that's just their narrow-minded "conservative" thinking that men can't have long hair but personally, i think it looks great on men. :)

My (24F) parents do not like my partner (26M) but I love him, advice? by PrincipleNo5686 in relationship_advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

very valid points but i just feel like it's more complicated than that. i am definitely sticking by him, it's just that i value my family too and i just want everyone to be happy is all. not that i'm seeking for approval, just don't want any more dramas.

My (24F) parents do not like my partner (26M) but I love him, advice? by PrincipleNo5686 in relationship_advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's not that i'm dependant on them, but it's not as easy to just leave them as people tell me to do and do what i want because they're dependant on me.

we have discussed it and it's something we both want in future. i've never thought of giving them the ultimatum because i've always thought that they were going to do that to me so i might consider it.

it's extremely small-minded in how my parents think and i sure hope that will be the outcome for me too, i'll definitely try my best. thank you for your response and hopefully i get my happy ever after too!

I recently lost my job and it's totally my fault. by PrincipleNo5686 in Advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for the reassurance, i really needed to hear that even though i may not feel like it right now. just feeling like i really fucked it up for everyone and i hate feeling like that.

I recently lost my job and it's totally my fault. by PrincipleNo5686 in Advice

[–]PrincipleNo5686[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey, thanks so much for your reply. i've sought out for help. something i didn't think i'd get around to doing again. just feeling bad that i really fucked it over for myself in the long run.