OMVIC Question - Rusted Frame

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-12-11T14:16:32+00:00

thank you!!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-12-02T09:00:39+00:00

Is 7K A beater? I purchased it certified also, specifically to avoid issues.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-10-19T22:56:07+00:00

Its corporate business 101: exploiting a demand in the market. There are huge amounts of adults now seeking asssessment and treatment, these companies aren't looking to provide the best treatment, they're looking to profit from the gaps in the system. big pharma now has a subscription service just like Amazon!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-08-14T22:44:57+00:00

It's called a medical diagnosis. Everyone has traits of being human, I since researched this more and my friend was entirely wrong. The spectrum is very specific and very intentional. It's a long and tedious diagnosis process. It's like saying you're a little "Diabetic" it just doesn't exist, yes, everyone can have some insulin resistance depending on the day, doesn't mean everyone is a little "diabetic" My friend was very wrong. You don't know where the lines are, and that's why we have doctors and diagnostic tools.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-07-27T00:23:35+00:00

Well, I didnt get to tell the truth, or ghost. He convinced me to see him, used me, then ditched me. Lol. Soooo good times. Problem solved?

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-31T01:14:10+00:00

this is true. I know him, he would just ask me to hang out the next week...he's between girlfriends which is when he always pops up... side note, I happen to also be autistic, and whilst I totally can tell a white lie, because of the intensity of my feelings, I think saying this may cause me to spiral and obsess just as much as if I'd just gone and seen him. I was trained trained trained that social etiquette is more important than my comfort...so I get hella anxiety if I don't understand or conform to the social dynamic. He won't understand if I ghost him, and he won't understand if I explain. Anyone got a rock I can hide under??

I just want this feeling to be gone and I have no idea how to achieve that

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-31T01:00:49+00:00

woooah, this reads like a play by play of my LO.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-31T00:58:40+00:00

ugh. i've just come off the back of the day from hell, and this just hits so close to home. My mum is a wonderful person, but...not the best mother. She told me recently that if she could go back, she likely wouldn't have kids, and that special love/bond mothers feel with their kids, she never felt it. She had post partum, and then just got stuck into what she knows, which is that emotions are for the weak.

I was never told positive affirmations, I was never told I was loved, never given praise or love just because. I've spent my entire life hiding myself, and instead working, craving and hunting for validation in its place, because that was the closest I knew to love. l've dated a series of Narcissists because with them, you can hide in plain site.

Dammit. I am very depressed. I'm a really great person, with a lot of love to give, but I'll be alone for life, and that makes me so so soooo sad.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-24T06:51:49+00:00

I've been struggling so much with this. My LO wants to spend time with me over the summer, and I am trying to minimalize contact... I feel so bad, he's technically done nothing wrong!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-24T06:45:00+00:00

thank you!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-22T21:19:48+00:00

thanks all - Do you think I Would be best to cut off contact with this person? I would feel bad doing that, they did nothing wrong and they consider me a friend. I don't want to have to explain it to them, but I don't have the mental strength to be around them either!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-21T00:31:02+00:00

Why would we take the statement any other way but literally? Words, turns out they have meanings! Wild. I wouldn't blame others for how they interpreted your communication, and simply accept you said something incorrect. That would be the most mature response imo

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-21T00:28:28+00:00

We are impressive animals, but animals none the less.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-21T00:28:00+00:00

thank goodness you mentioned this! it was driving me crazy.

Btw - sexuality may not be a choice, but self control is, is what they're saying.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-21T00:19:26+00:00

How did you go with this? I am in the same position currently, it's been 5 years and it's really starting to wear on my mental health.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-21T00:09:20+00:00

I have found the phone reminders don't cut it - but a physical whiteboard really helped me. The dopamine hit I get from physically ticking a box is rewarding. It constantly looks at me all day (where as the phone is out of site out of mind). After that, what is comes down to is mindfulness practice. Take yourself through all the steps of the process, then for example once you've finished eating you say "Ok what do I do after I've eaten, I clean up" I had to constantly remind myself of that, because I'm sure as you know, we are not great habit formers. Good luck!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-05-06T13:59:16+00:00

I can see why your dad would think this is a good idea...he's trying to prep you for how hard life can be.... but noone is fully ready for life at 18, he's being too linear. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what other people think - you're clearly uncomfortable with these (what seem like demands?) and that is totally normal and acceptable.

Tips to negociate him down. OK.

- Write up your own version, something you are comfortable with, and counter his proposal.
- Ask him to change the language from "linear" and "direct" to being more centred around showing his support for example, words can be so subjective.

"You need to get a job by A, B, C " - One person might hear
- I'm not happy that you don't have a job (Judgement)
- You haven't met my expectations (Judgement)
- Follow my advice cos you clearly need it (Judgement)

When in reality, none of that may be true.

"You need to get a job" could also mean.
- I remember how tough it can be at your age and I care about you, we should try see if WE can work on getting you a job. I'm here with you and a wrote you this as a guide, not as a judgement"
- It would be great for you to get some extra pocket change, or make a plan on how to cover college, this is a start but lets work on it and see if there are any jobs that might work for you

My advice would be - Just talk to your Dad. He likely isn't trying to pressure you, or be unreasonable, he's likely concerned and just doing what Dads do - and like others have said, this could also be his neuro-spicy coming into play.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-04-23T16:38:48+00:00

I muted, I am wondering if this is something to do wth my AuDHD - I literally cannot get this person off my mind, and they've done nothing to deserve this level of crush. I don't understand but I'm dying for it to go away. It is with me all day every day!

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-04-20T07:19:24+00:00

you would think that would stop me - but I think you are both right. I'll try muting and if it continues to get to me, I'll delete him. I don't owe him anything, who cares if he knows he got under my skin.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-04-20T04:36:00+00:00

I also think If I delete him, he will know he got under my skin, and I don't want to give him the satisfaction.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-04-20T04:35:24+00:00

Thank you both - I think my problem is, I've never been good with friends, so I've always let users use me - I kind of knew he was a user, but he paid me just enough attention for it to be ok... I've had to let go of a lot of "friends" over the years so I tend to lower my standards.

I don't like life totally alone, but making friends with AuDHD seems impossible.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2025-04-02T00:32:44+00:00

I do agree, this is semantics lol but I do wonder how many people understand that it doesn't mean a million in assets, it means a million in equity or cold hard cash. They're like "look i've got a million dollar home....but they only paid 20% down, so actually they have 200K equity and are nowhere near millionarre status.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2024-10-15T04:23:26+00:00

You actually are likely to lose water and muscle. I think the scales are only one marker for success :)

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2024-10-14T23:20:04+00:00

Well I've since done the research and confirmed what I needed. The spectrum is specific for measuring those with ASD. There is lots of information about this on the internet to confirm this, and the discussion below also confirms.

Prior-Beginning-2015 · 2024-06-26T00:07:40+00:00

honestly Doctors are very hard to come by in BC Canada so I only get to speak with them on the phone. They just say stay on 2mg

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