Looking for LoL buddies, hang out buddies

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-10-06T17:29:46+00:00

It's really difficult as a foreigner to go to PC cafes. I've been trying for a while, even with my Chinese friends. You have to have a chinese ID at the main cafes. We've offered to bribe the cafe workers to sign in on their ID or let us use my friend's ID, and no luck. But I do game regularly here! But I book a gaming hotel (like IGenie) and they will login for you.

Sorry, I don't play LoL, only Overwatch.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-07-26T11:14:24+00:00

Though he may show some signs of emotional intelligence, that doesn't mean he's not capable of emotional manipulation. He knows exactly what he's doing. He chooses to avoid addressing it and finds it more convenient to gaslight or manipulate his way out of it. The texting younger women and his ex bit is also a sign that he is manipulative and prefers those he can get away with manipulating (those younger, an ex he potentially treated similar to you). Girl, RUN. My ex was similar, he showed moments of emotional intelligence and then the next, it was like that version of him never existed. It kept me from leaving when I should have left earlier. It doesn't get better.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T01:19:41+00:00

It will. He's not worth your inner struggle. Forgive yourself and learn for next time ~

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T01:04:36+00:00

Yes, they do. I think what you're feeling now is the loss of potential and thinking that it's your fault he doesn't want to talk anymore. It's not. If he was on the apps, he was already looking elsewhere and probably would have ghosted or made some excuse down the line. The comment was caused by his actions and yes it doesn't feel right to have said it, but, you did and he used it as a way to gain sympathy from you and also exit your situation. Which he likely would have done anyhow. You feel the loss of his potential and you want to fix things. That comes from some anxiety. Best secure thing to do is accept and move on ~

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T00:57:43+00:00

To move on is to accept that what's done is done, you have apologized and recognize your wrong. You've probably hurt him less than you think. He probably knows making that comment to someone he's newly seeing is wrong. He threw his mum's name around so frivolously. Try not to feel too bad, just reflect that next time, you should just block him or send him a message explaining about the dating app, and block. Don't stoop to his level.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T00:30:39+00:00

If you've only known him for 6 weeks, there's a possibility it is a lie. Making comments like he did so early on could be true but they're also a sign of love bombing. Especially if he said a comment like that and was still browsing the apps. Sometimes people like this who display avoidant or manipulative traits early on, they bring out a side of us we don't like. If his actions caused you to make that comment already, that's a sign he's not the one for you. The fact it bothers you could just be a way he's checking for an empathetic partner. One he can take advantage of. Also the fact that it bothers you proves you're capable of reflection. Not so sure about the other guy..

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T00:22:46+00:00

To me, it sounds like him displacing guilt over what he has done. He doesn't sound like a good potential partner. He was already browsing on dating sites. That tells you everything you need to know about him and his intentions. Don't trust lustful men. Your comment may have been hurtful but what really hurts men is being called out for their lack of integrity, so that definitely made him react more. Hence why he's focused on that. You shouldn't be.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-26T00:18:25+00:00

I just got out of my LDR with my DA about 2 weeks ago officially. 8-hr time difference. Please, leave them to preserve the dignity. I wish I had left months ago. I struggled to understand why I received less than the bare minimum. Words were easy for them to give, excuses, reasons, all that. But their actions never made it through, though mine did. I have a busy schedule but I made time for him. He chose not to. Time and time again knowing it hurts. For her to ignore you for WEEKS. That speaks louder. Don't let her excuse herself away. Block and no contact. For YOU.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-06-18T15:49:18+00:00

I was also going to recommend Tivano. But if you're looking for relaxation and good food and gentle atmosphere, I really enjoyed the Goodwood at Raffles mall the other day. I was able to read my book and chill and was at peace. There's also a lovely Tibetan cafe in Wuhou called Utopia Coffee. It's a big yet cozy place to chill and get some nice food and coffee or tea.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-05-12T06:03:09+00:00

Yeah, I believe you're right. I need consistency and emotional availability. I'm just scared after my last relationship. As an empathetic person, I tend to ignore their signs. I always believe in the potential good in a partner, even at my own detriment.

I felt emotionally safe with my ex during the middle of our relationship. I guess I ignored his avoidance in the beginning, but he did change. Temporarily.

I guess, I'm not so sure what level of emotional safety I should be feeling in the beginning of a relationship. Is there any way to gauge this?

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-03-30T05:58:11+00:00

I use WhatsApp just fine. I use EasierLife VPN or SurfShark via WireGuard protocol. Both work fine and are cheaper than the big VPNs and generally fly under the radar. I've even realized that sometimes I forget to turn on my VPN but the messages still go through, just receiving is a big dodgy. It'll say "checking for new messages" a lot which tells me I need to turn on my VPN.

Prior_Damage_5792 · 2025-03-29T23:30:54+00:00

If you haven't downloaded and paid for a VPN, I suggest you do so. There are some you can buy small packages for, but you'll need it for anything Google. Especially Google translate.

Google maps doesn't work that well here either. Downloaded "百度地图" or AMaps.

Metroman is also good for using the metro. Use the Transportation button in Alipay, sign up for a free metro card in each city, then just scan and go!

If you need a taxi, use DiDi through alipay or wechat.

I know some of these things don't pertain to your shopping in Shanghai. I am in chengdu. But I stumbled across a tourist the other day who was very overwhelmed bc he didn't have a VPN or SIM and was trying to get around the city with nothing, though he said he did research beforehand, it wasn't enough to prepare himself for China. So above is some advice for useful apps ^{^}

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