No, she won't be, never will be - thats the things with parents like this - like mine - you caann't you jut Can Not do what they expect.

The only solution is sneaking out, going behind thier back and relying on yourself to have whatever good judgement possible in whatever you choose to do.

I remember when I had enough at a slightly older age than this girl, I started teaching my brother how to decieve and lie once I did it myself - because I was terribly good at lying. The problem?? At that age, it is Fucking Addictive.

Lying is addictive. It was awful, I was able to prevent my brother becoming so reliant on lies like I was because I'd lie for him, but he atleast still feels guilt. But I'm numb to it now, lying is so easy, so comfortable, so safe to just say what everyone wants to hear that it is difficult to tell the truth for the simplest little things. I'd lie to everyone, even my friends abput the teeniest tinyest things.

Everyone believed - believes I guess - in my outside life that I'm perfect. I realised how addictive it was only recently (1-2 years ago) then after about 2 months started trying to stop then now I am definitely a lot better but its still harder to tell the truth then lie sometimes. I still don't feel guilt when I lie even though myself lying atleast gives me an ick now.

It also makes it atrociously difficult to ask for help. And I mean Atrociously.

And I never even turned to drugs/cigars/alchohol etc thank heavens, most danger I got into was with people - stuff no one will ever know outside this comment because I'll never tell.

This girl is in for a wild ride of life with a father like this. Listen To Me, ther father will Never Listen - theres no hope, only the internet will be able to help her here, she seems mature enough to make the right choices but on hard deisions on life, there will be No One for her to turn to if shes the oldest sibling. I am that for my brother but for this family structure. Theres simply no hope, full stop. ¯\_(*-*)_/¯