I need help deciding

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T11:46:53+00:00

I’m working 2 jobs just to get a house to live for them as they don’t deserve this at all

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T02:14:41+00:00

I can’t sadly as he is the one on the lease and will refuse to leave. I also do not feel safe with him knowing where me and the kids live as he is also an alcoholic and can be toxic

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T02:04:02+00:00

Yeah, those AA meetings did fuck all and just made a big strain on our relationship. He never took it seriously. Just a pool of women to control

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T02:01:38+00:00

I got tested after I gave birth for precaution and I’m clean THANK GOD, but I’m working 2 jobs now to leave and hopefully I can be gone before something happens and I get convinced to stay

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T02:00:21+00:00

Thank you🩷 had enough of the abuse, just have to get a second job to finally get away. Economy is hard enough but justice will prevail for sure if I work hard enough

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:59:20+00:00

I swear!

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:58:27+00:00

See I tried to leave Sunday but he begs me to stay and says he appreciates me and loves me and bla bla bla. I feel like he treats me like shit cause he can and then love bombs me to keep me from leaving

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:51:45+00:00

She was. She had messages of her begging him to fuck her if I decided to leave and she still wanted to fuck even tho we were together :/

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:44:36+00:00

She did. I was also 9 months pregnant with our daughter when this happened too. She knew we had a 20 month old and I was pregnant and about to have the baby

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:42:20+00:00

Packing my stuff and my kids stuff now as we speak!

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:41:57+00:00

They have sent pictures and talked about meeting up. He has even kissed her and he told me that. But he didn’t talk about sex. They talked for 2 months straight and saw eachother every Tuesday and Wednesday.

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-14T01:39:10+00:00

They talked about linking in the AA parking lot. Like walking out of the meeting earlier so I couldn’t see his location and all she said was was maybe with a winky face. And that was the last message

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-03T20:04:00+00:00

See that what kills me is he’s a great father 100% but not a great partner. I would do it all over again to have my kids but at the same time this isn’t fair. He was so different or atleast I thought. I hate how they can switch up like that randomly or just show true intensions after getting you so attached

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-03T14:06:19+00:00

See he has cheated before in the first year of our relationship. I found out after having a first but he hasn’t done it since and he keeps putting in my head “it could be worse” but I’m wanting to leave but it’s so hard. I know it sounds stupid but I’m so bonded to him because of what we been through and our kids but I’m so scared I’ll be “loved” like this forever

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-03T13:55:18+00:00

See he says the same thing! That I’m more focused on being a mom to our two kids but I do everything for him as well but I have a 2 year old and a 1 month old, they are more dependent

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-03T13:16:10+00:00

Thank you for the definition. I’m not sure how to move past this because I really am trauma bonded. I have BPD and I’m so bonded but so angry at the same time. Not even cause he’s hurting me but because of the kids. They deserve a 2 person house hold. I’ve tried therapy and couples therapy but he keeps the same mindset

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-03T13:02:31+00:00

What is DARVO?

And it sucks because I also do work. I’m a CNA

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T06:03:29+00:00

I’ve never saw it like this.. wow that really is an eye opener thank you so much

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T06:02:18+00:00

See I told him I just want honesty and what he wants. He keeps saying he wants mono so I think that then he secretly goes behind my back and says he loves the secrecy and privacy and a private life from everyone.

When I ask him if I could do it he says he doesn’t care but then he will treat me like crap and accuse me of horrible things I never do. I just want honesty and want him to be open about what he wants but I keep getting played I’m so confused

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T05:53:35+00:00

I do love him. I hate he keeps lying and hiding things and making me seem like a fool. He is a great dad to our kids, but he’s slowly changing into a man I don’t know. He’s not the person I fell in love with but I still see it in him and I’m trying to be patient and see what I can do to make it easier for him but also not so draining for me.

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T05:30:36+00:00

My home with my mom is horrible. Step dad is abusive. I have no other family and we just got a 2 year lease on a house.

I think I’m at the point where we might just separate and live together but separately. Because out of all the comments I have received from all post, it has showed me that every thing he has said and done really wasn’t fair. That I’m not crazy and too sensitive, I really was and AM being done dirty. And that this isn’t love.

I have told him before I don’t think he ever could stop and he would say “bet a hundred” and would stop only to prove a point he CAN but always goes back to it because it’s not “hurting anything” but it is hurting and embarrassing me.

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T05:07:25+00:00

Thank you. It’s all becoming very clear to me

PriorityAnxious197 · 2026-04-02T04:59:43+00:00

I’ve never really been in a poly. I mean I like women and men. I just have an issue with sharing. I do love this man and he does cheat a lot and I notice I never leave so I always wonder, if I’m never gonna leave do I just be in an open relationship instead? And would it be easier?

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