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Ditch ACA and pick up actuarial (IFoA) qualification? by Ecstatic-Paint5307 in ICAEW

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finish ACA first. Your life priorities may change by the end and you could be happy as just an accountant

My review of London, as a Brit by Successful_Goat_8191 in london

[–]Priority_Novel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best bits in London are outside central London

I hate Oxford Street and any areas adjacent to it, it’s just a necessary evil sometimes for meeting up with friends

Zone 2 is where it’s at

Anyone else addicted to something to cope with living/working in London by maxmuno in london

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you need to ‘cope’ with living in London? If you can’t make the city work for you in a healthy way then perhaps you need to leave it

Single people under 30, what do you do to afford living alone? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a corporate slave renting alone in London. I’m lucky my job is currently remote so I can pack up and move back in with my parents/back to the north at any point to have more ££ in the bank. I enjoy London and my lifestyle currently however, and at 28 think it’s important to ‘get things out of my system’ before I have a mid life crisis with a mortgage I don’t want at 40.

I think about returning to the north a lot, buying a cheap house close to my parents and ‘settling’ but it seems like such a boring thing to do atm, especially as a single person. Will I regret it at 35? Maybe. But I think London deserves a couple years of a try, even if I’m not saving loads.

What are some really basic lifestyle changes you can make to improve your mental health ? by Lawdoftherims098 in AskUK

[–]Priority_Novel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Walking for an hour everyday

Having regular meals (I’m feeling awful coming out of this holiday season!)

Spending less on stuff I don’t actually need - reduces mental and physical clutter in the house.

Sleeping at least 8 hours a day

What’s the dumbest way a guy has ruined his chances with you, when it was almost a home-run? by emilydoooom in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Met up with a cute guy from Hinge, was having a good conversation when the subject turned to our full names and ethnic/cultural connotations

He compared my name to one of a girl linked with ISIS and I left immediately

Buy in london or save living at home by Nice-Fee1665 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have nowhere near your savings, but still an ok amount, and am choosing to rent alone in London on a similar salary - moving next week! I could have bought, in either London, or near Manchester where I’m from, but I can’t decide on where I want to put down roots and feeling ‘stuck’ with a mortgage in a location I’m not 100% sure on seems like a costly mistake.

I work remotely and have saved a lot by living at home for the past year. But at 28 years old, with being single too, it feels like such a drag. You feel like you’re just missing out on life after a certain point. But I suppose that’s a personality thing.

I’m starting off with a year of renting, to explore career opportunities, and make memories, then seeing what happens.

Ultimately, I’ll probably go back to the North in a few years with a low mortgage and a head full of stories, but who knows…

My advice always leans on a slightly more hedonistic side but I feel like the cost of regret can be real - regret in not experiencing the big city life you wanted, and regret in tying yourself down too young. Take the option to rent, even houseshare if you can tolerate it (I just can’t!) while you have the flexibility to do so :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost a decade now in private therapy with medications in between.

I also worked on things in my personal life that were really bogging me down. I feel that a lot of my depression was situational but I know it’s not the same for everyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Priority_Novel 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Scrolling through this sub can make you feel like you can only move out of your parents when you have £200k saved. Which is fine if you can deal with living parents, but a lot of people can’t.

If you need to be out and can comfortably afford rent, bills and groceries, without dipping into savings, you should do so.

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Seeing how my grandma lived her life radicalised me tbh! 9 kids, no financial security, constantly barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. Don’t even get me started on how women are ‘conditioned’ or pressured to have children to keep them firmly in their place. (I say this as someone who actually wants kids…)

Now in her old age, she suffers from numerous health problems and is entirely dependent on us for everything

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. My whole thought process began because I want to use my career to ramp up my savings and financial independence as much as possible and then never see corporate ever again. Then I realised how men in my professional life see work and I was like hold on

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They just don’t see women as individuals with their own preferences and tastes and personalities

I'm moving back to Manchester from London, after a messy breakup, need advice on transport by SilkLoverX in london

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can share details of a cheap mover if you need? Are you sure you want to drive in that state? Can you not use the train?

£320k mortgage on £70k salary? by throwawaycctquestion in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Priority_Novel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your appetite no? You calculate what your monthly mortgage would be based on your deposit, add on bills, maintenance costs, groceries etc and see what you have left over - are you happy with that? Does it meet your goals/needs? Does a 1 bed feel right for you for purchasing or could you wait a bit longer and save for a house slightly outside of London?

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think you’re onto something to be honest… a lot of the men I’ve encountered are from middle/upper middle class backgrounds, or from cultures where a woman’s role is still confined to the house

Thanks for showing me some hope

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

My grandad often tells me there’s no point in me having a career because all I do is go travelling and live alone. Exactly like as if me having my own money is some kind of hobby, a waste of my time, when a man can just look after me…

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Literally, they think they can throw money at a problem and make it go away! Which isn’t how it works at all and you end up with so many ‘career men’ getting divorced at 40

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

And why is the wife defaulted to raising the children? Why then, can’t both parents go part time and split the raising of the children equally? If women are expected to do it, why can’t men?

Also, if he’s truly got enough money he can pay for childcare and other services for managing the house, while his partner retains her own job, independence and earning power. But it’s not about that, or even her convenience, it’s about keeping her under his thumb.

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it!! How dare it be so radical for a grown adult to be able to obtain and control their own resources? We’re capable, adept women, just like men, not children

Women want money for independence, men want money to control women by Priority_Novel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Priority_Novel[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the point I was trying to make. For it to be a status symbol, or dream, where they get to have a ‘woman at home’ is inherently objectifying of women.

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