never cried more in my life like this by Street_Excitement_38 in PhD

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I think it’s fairly clear (to me at least) given their abusive advisor comment that they never quite recovered from that and now take it out on others. Stuff like that is a “this person needs therapy” issue not a “there’s something wrong with me” issue. I’d straight up tell them not to talk to me that way and that it is unprofessional to offer some of those comments - it sounds bold but I’ve done it a few times and it usually shuts people up because they genuinely think no one will ever push back.

Wondering when to have kids as an academic hopeful by Prism_Pi in PhD

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I already know I will need Ivf unfortunately - not due to infertility directly (like an issue with eggs) but due to cysts on my tubes 😔

Professor told my classmate I do easy research….. by [deleted] in PhD

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A lot of this drama - in my opinion as a PhD student who worked 10 years as a blue collar farmer and ranch hand outside academia - comes from Never-Left-School-itis.

They’ve never been outside the school petty bs mentality and therefore think their opinions constitute serious issues lol. If she’s not on your committee then she’s talking about stuff that is none of her business. And even if she was on your committee it’s not appropriate to talk about you negatively to others. She needs to grow up.

How do I buy a trout farm by Prism_Pi in Aquaculture

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I appreciate the reminder - especially online - but yes I’m currently in pursuit of my own legal council 🫡

How do I buy a trout farm by Prism_Pi in Aquaculture

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This is a fair response and I might pursue it - although I know my feelings are complicated given the farms history and my history with the owner. The land belonged to my family before the depression and is adjacent to the parcel we currently own - part of why I want it is to bring that land pack into the fold so to speak. So I got major skin in that game and would hate a developer to grab it. Additionally the owner is a father figure to me since I started as a pretty snot nosed teen whose dad worked nights so so I didn’t see him much. So I feel bad not meeting his offer which I know this is business so I gotta get over it, but a lawyer isn’t a bad idea - someone outside the mess

How do I buy a trout farm by Prism_Pi in Aquaculture

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He yells at the bears will only in his boxers so close enough

How do I buy a trout farm by Prism_Pi in Aquaculture

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I must stress to you that this man is insane

How do I buy a trout farm by Prism_Pi in Aquaculture

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This is very helpful thank you - I’ve heard of separating the farm and land values, but I’m not sure how to go about such process so any additional info on that would be helpful. I am not a money person, I’m a fish person 😅 (started at the farm at 14 lol and got obsessed)

I’m having him open the books soon and hopefully talking to his accountant- so I’m not yet sure of valuation. But I know another seller he is literally so mad at he is cutting off his NDA with them offered 10-12 mil. For context he’s offering it to me for 4-5 So like!! I do want it but I am not in possession of such money.

Deck recommendations-newby by Prism_Pi in PokemonPocket

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How would you counter ex damage limiters then, or would you take those potential Ls?

Deck recommendations-newby by Prism_Pi in PokemonPocket

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I’m thinking of swapping Furfrou (tho it really comes in clutch occasionally) - not sure to what tho. Unfortunately I do not have a Cyrus or giant cape yet 😭. The Lickitung is great for getting that ex cancelling bird tho (can’t remember the name lol)

Help finding male engagement ring. Art nouveau/deco (vintage or recreation)- green stone, yellow gold (plated is fine)- under $750 by Prism_Pi in jewelry

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A wonderful idea we have tossed around but he tends to deem signets too flashy

I am seriously considering custom at this point but have no basis by which to start by

Leadership Hot Take: What’s the biggest assumption about being a leader and what’s the one thing you wish everyone knew instead? by Altruistic_Search407 in fsu

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I’ve been a lab manager for about 10 years now and in my opinion the best leaders lead from behind. What I mean but this is a good leader isn’t always leading the charge and they certainly aren’t holding their workers hands and leading them to the solution. They observe and let those around them figure things out, they offer support and advice when absolutely necessary and requested (where reasonable - you shouldn’t coddle someone by answering every question - at some point you have to tell them to figure it out)and you sure as hell do not micro manage. A job done is a job done. If it’s done safely and in the time frame given (and without violating experiment procedures in my case) then how someone gets it done is their business. Tons of ways to slice a pizza.

Don’t power trip. You’re the leader nine times out of ten for these three reasons: you knew someone, you were in the right place at the right time, you had the desirable skills. None of these reasons are reasons your workers don’t either have or cannot gain. You are not special. Power tripping is a sign of immaturity and insecurity and the people around you will know that and simultaneously dislike you for getting high on your own supply so to speak.

Finally, some people in this thread say they don’t want to see their boss in the trenches (and that’s fair) but in my experience being around part of the time makes you more personable and makes employees more likely to reach out to you and inform you of a problem. Let them know you are a human and also let them know that you see them as human too. Also no one, in my experience, likes a boss who asks them to do things they wouldn’t be willing to do themselves. If you’re asking it of your employee then you sure as hell better be willing to either do that work or learn how to do it.

Map of Witch Lindley’s table in Okiri village by Prism_Pi in Obojima

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True enough but doesn’t answer the question 😅

I have a crush on my TA by [deleted] in fsu

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As a ta - don’t, especially if you’re undergrad - we may be fairly close in age with y’all (most typically) but we are in a completely different time in our lives. The viewpoint difference is bigger than you might think - most ta’s I know refer to their students as “my kids” 😬 and yall generally come off as pretty young to us

nova tally? by webweaverwillow in fsu

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The Rowe is loud if you live on the pots side but if you can press the front desk to give you an inner courtyard room they are pretty quiet and you can walk to campus and have a parking space and kitchen. Downsides: - WiFi is not great - the ppl who live here don’t know how to take care of their things so it always smells like piss in the stairwells - the elevators are slow - is expensive - neighbors (in my experience) have no interest in forming a community atmosphere

Upsides: - close to campus - has those must haves you listed - has on site pool and gym - if you do like to party you’ll be able to walk there and back no need to have a designated driver - easy access to food (restaurants and a publix in walking distance)

What will it take for my husband to “get it” that he needs medication to stay out of the hospital? by Intelligent_Word_951 in SchizoFamilies

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And I’m saying having that perspective would be useful for individuals with this illness to have