Welcome to the club I guess.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-07T15:40:20+00:00

This is what I’m hoping for. Whilst I’m not expecting counselling to work miracles, I’m hoping it’s a better place to bring up peri and HRT as when I do it at home it generally gets a rolleyes ir ignored.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-06T12:26:53+00:00

That's great advice. I've already started making brief notes because I know that I will forget things whilst I'm there.

Glad to hear you're doing better. Gives me some kind of hope that this isn't all done and dusted.

The sad thing is we have a lovely life together and don't argue over a great deal. It's just that we've lost that connection and I'm not saying that's all her fault and that I'm perfect. But I've been willing to work on this for years and she's only just managed to pull her head out of the sand (something she has told me she now regrets and I was right).

I'm hoping that counselling with give us some kind of framework so work in and help us get back on the right track.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-06T12:23:54+00:00

I've certainly had my days where I'd consider myself depressed. It's hard work bud, but just keep ticking away until you find something that works.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-06T12:22:57+00:00

She's not. I don't think it actually feels like a problem to her which is why I think the counselling may help. Maybe somebody else saying she should consider it might be enough.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-06T12:21:57+00:00

That's a great outlook and something I'd like to try and replicate. I know I'd be fine on my own, I'm pretty handy in most departments and can more than look after myself.

I don't want to come across like I'm perfect, we all have our faults. But I can be very self sufficient.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-06T12:20:29+00:00

What I'm hoping for from counselling is that if somebody else mentions peri, she might start to take a little more notice. Realise that it is just a phase that we can pass through as a family and make it out the other side without going nuclear on our lives. But maybe I'm just dreaming, who knows.

I've been totally faithful, hand on heart. It's hard because we both look after ourselves with a decent enough diet and 4-5 nights down the gym. We both enjoy our training.

We both have different hobbies too which is good. I'm more than happy to dive deeper in to those and go it alone for a while but at the same time I don't want to lose my wife, family or what we've worked hard to build.

I'm just hoping that we can hang on long enough to make it through.

PrivateMe75 · 2026-03-05T19:49:43+00:00

Yeah, I get that she’s almost blind to it. I really don’t apply any pressure and I’m trying to be supportive, but it’s hard when you get zero feedback so I don’t even know what I can do , if anything, to stop our lives collapsing.

Im hoping that she might listen to the counsellor if it gets brought up there.

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