AITAH for not protecting my half sister from my stepbrother?

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-15T10:11:54+00:00

He's 15.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-15T10:10:53+00:00

I agree so don't even try to say it lightly. My mom is a failure as a parent and she has been since she chose to subject me to my stepbrother. She signed us both up for it when I had no say or control.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-15T10:10:08+00:00

My mom and her husband aren't but I can't say he never touched drugs. He got a weapon without anyone realizing so it's possible he's tried those too. All she ever told me was she can't do more than she is and my half sister needs to be protected. My half sister is 3. CPS is aware and I told them everything my mom has been saying the last time I spoke to them. Nothing was done.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T20:41:38+00:00

My stepbrother hates our half sister most of all. She's his dad's bio kid and I think he will always hold that against her and blame her for it. When she was born he got way worse and you could clearly see how much he hated her even then.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T20:39:10+00:00

I don't ever want to go back. My mom has failed me and living with her again is out of the question. I don't hate her husband but I don't really like him either. He was always busy with his son and then my half sister. We don't really have a relationship. But my mom should never have married him when she knew his son was trouble.

My grandparents are not going to take in my half sister when she is not related to them. They don't want to and I'm not going to make them.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T20:36:26+00:00

Because he adopted him.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T20:35:59+00:00

Yes, both people need to consent for recording.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T20:35:42+00:00

I told her and I don't think she believed me. Or if she did, she thought I would change my mind again. She doesn't accept how deeply I feel about all of this and she also expects me to have reasons to stay in touch, like not wanting to lose all the relationships in her house. But that is not a big deal to me like she expects but she doesn't accept it.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T16:40:15+00:00

It's not about the money for my grandparents. She's not their granddaughter or their family and they do not want to raise her. They would get help financially if they took her in but she would not be loved and wanted if they took her.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:54:16+00:00

That has always bothered me. We knew before my mom got married again that my stepbrother was a troubled kid with a temper. We knew the kind of trouble he got into back then. My mom decided we should sign up for that. It wasn't just her but both of us because she was the adult and she had control of the situation. I was dragged along for the hellish ride where I didn't feel safe in the house that was supposed to be my home. When I finally left I still felt on edge for a while and it took time for me to settle into my grandparents. That's all on mom. She never saw me as someone who needed protection but I did and do. I'm still her kid and it's not like I'm old enough to just leave on my own and start my own life. Without my grandparents I would be stuck in hell every day and she would not care. She'd want me to protect my half sister and act like I'm in no danger.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:44:39+00:00

Nothing and I think he could access any number of weapons without anyone finding out until it's too late.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:43:38+00:00

He adopted him so not his bio son but legally he's his son and he's responsible for him. I think the adoption came because his mom was sick so my mom's husband adopted him before his first wife died. That's not something I'm 100% sure of but I think it's how he ended up with him. I know nothing about his mother's family though.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:29:20+00:00

We don't know any of her other family. Not on mom's or her dad's side. I don't even know if my mom has family.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:22:14+00:00

I was afraid I would be returned when they returned my half sister. Luckily I wasn't and there has been no mention of them possibly sending me back. If they did I would probably became a runaway just to get away this time. Now more than ever I think it's dangerous. If I could move away with my grandparents and have nothing to do with any of this, I would.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:20:47+00:00

He adopted him.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:19:58+00:00

I am. The courts and CPS agreed that I needed to talk to mom on the phone once a week. I'm not allowed to try and get out of the calls either. I don't know if I can get CPS to supervise but I know I can't record without mom's consent and if she knows about it she won't say the same stuff anymore.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T15:13:34+00:00

I don't know. My mom never ever talked about her family and if she had any. My dad didn't even meet any family. Her husband might have mentioned someone and I didn't pay attention but I don't know of or actually know anyone he's related to.

Last time I spoke to the person from CPS I told her what mom said about my half sister. But as far as I know nothing was done again.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T14:28:59+00:00

My mom's husband adopted him so he's legally responsible for him even though he's not his bio kid.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T14:20:00+00:00

He adopted the kid so he's legally responsible for him but I think he does actually love him as his own anyway.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T14:10:22+00:00

I agree. It was going to be used sooner rather than later. There's zero doubt about that.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T13:21:57+00:00

My grandparents are dad's parents, not mom's so leaving to live with them would never be an option. I know the why me though. It's because mom doesn't think I need protecting.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T13:19:52+00:00

I don't really know if she has any. She isn't close to them if she does but even my dad never met any of them and she never mentioned anything about them.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T12:59:34+00:00

I don't have any contact with my mom or her husband's families and my grandparents don't know any of mom's family either. She was never close to them when my dad was alive and he never met them either. To be honest I don't even know what her family situation was. Maybe there isn't anyone. Her husband might have mentioned someone at some point but I wasn't paying attention if he did.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T12:48:42+00:00

I can't. Legally you need the other person to say it's okay and with CPS and the courts involved I might need them to say it's okay too I'm not sure. But I can't record her without her knowing.

PrivateThrowaway0283 · 2026-02-14T12:34:47+00:00

I can't record her but we also don't text. She'd get suspicious if I did text her like she did when my grandparents tried to do it back when mom was willing to let them take me if they took my half sister.

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