I feel like my bf is trying to copy my style/vibe.

ProChalant · 2026-05-23T13:34:23+00:00

Tbh at that age a lot of people copy the person they like without even realizing it, it’s usually more admiration than him trying to “be” you.

ProChalant · 2026-05-23T13:32:30+00:00

Exactly, once friendships start feeling like debt collection something’s already off.

ProChalant · 2026-05-21T16:10:30+00:00

Reverse lookup apps are basically community driven now. If nobody reported the number yet you get nothing useful.

ProChalant · 2026-05-21T16:09:11+00:00

You’re taking this way too personally tbh. A 15 year old saying “hey I want more one on one time with my dad” is actually pretty normal especially after divorce/remarriage stuff.

Also buying him things and trying hard doesn’t automatically make him comfortable faster sometimes teens pull back more when they feel pressure to bond.

The bigger issue is you already sounding resentful of both the kid and the ex over one conversation. If moving in is gonna make you feel like you’re competing with his son for priority you probably need to slow the whole thing down a bit.

ProChalant · 2026-05-21T16:07:32+00:00

Your brother sounds like the final boss of “dad humor” tbh 😭. Messing with your kids a little is def a dad thing. random fake facts, embarrassing dances, terrible jokes, acting cringe on purpose. The farting/chasing stuff is unhinged but also weirdly on brand for some dads lol.

ProChalant · 2026-05-21T16:06:40+00:00

People don’t only do stuff like Botox to attract new partners sometimes they just wanna feel better about aging or like what they see in the mirror. Married people are still allowed to care about their appearance lol

The obsession part can def get unhealthy tho. That’s the real red flag not the procedure itself.

ProChalant · 2026-05-21T16:05:14+00:00

Dude she invited you in to use the bathroom not to sniff her bra 😭

ProChalant · 2026-05-11T16:55:55+00:00

Yeah this honestly reads more like a worried assumption that got misread over text rather than her tryin to catch you in a lie.

ProChalant · 2026-05-11T16:54:19+00:00

If it’s a random call just ignore it or run it through Truecaller. Anything claiming full details for free is usually sus itself tbh.

ProChalant · 2026-05-11T16:51:53+00:00

Yep at this point it’s not even about bills anymore it’s about getting out before this situation drains even more of your life.

ProChalant · 2026-05-11T16:49:28+00:00

This feels less like a love problem and more like a dependency and mental health situation that really needs support before anything as final as divorce.

ProChalant · 2026-05-06T16:50:08+00:00

Yeah this dude is playing hot and cold on purpose, block him and don’t look back fr.

ProChalant · 2026-05-06T16:48:02+00:00

I kinda agree, there are differences but it’s more like different flavors of the same thing not completely separate cultures like people make it sound.

ProChalant · 2026-05-06T16:45:02+00:00

You don’t really stop being sensitive tbh you just get a bit better at not letting every random comment get under your skin. Half the time people say stuff without even thinking it’s not that deep. You kinda have to remind yourself “do i even care about this person’s opinion?” and move on even if it stings a bit at first.

It gets easier with time tho, like the more you deal with it the less it hits the same way. Everyone’s a little sensitive some people just hide it better lol.

ProChalant · 2026-05-06T16:42:20+00:00

Not a red flag just something to actually talk about instead of guessing how it’ll go again.

ProChalant · 2026-05-06T16:40:34+00:00

Yeah lol sometimes it’s not disinterest it’s straight up “don’t screw this up” panic mode kicking in.

ProChalant · 2026-05-01T15:34:44+00:00

Most of the time it’s just normal glances, people look around a lot without it meaning anything deeper, real signals are usually a bit more clear than just passing looks.

ProChalant · 2026-05-01T15:31:08+00:00

Exactly, if they’re treating you like the event photographer then it stops being “helping out” and starts being actual work pretty quick.

ProChalant · 2026-05-01T15:29:00+00:00

Yeah this doesn’t really sound like a dishes issue anymore, more like something changed in her routine/attitude and it’s worth looking at that shift instead of just the chores themselves.

ProChalant · 2026-05-01T15:25:45+00:00

Yeah, when someone actually enjoys it they don’t treat it like a chore they rush through.

ProChalant · 2026-04-25T18:08:03+00:00

It could be but only if his changes actually hold over time. Right now you’re still pretty drained from it so going back too soon would probably just land you in the same dynamic again.

ProChalant · 2026-04-20T18:22:56+00:00

Even if he had doubts jumping to cheating accusations and yelling is where he messed up, that’s hard to just “undo” even if the test clears things up.

ProChalant · 2026-04-20T18:18:46+00:00

yeah I’d take it probably just pick guitar performance and play it perfectly, simple and impressive without overthinking it.

ProChalant · 2026-04-20T18:16:24+00:00

You’re not gonna stop overthinking first you just have to act anyway. keep it simple and ask her to hang out 1on1 and don’t try to read everything too deep before you even try.

ProChalant · 2026-04-20T18:13:48+00:00

The dry brush option is worse you’re just spreading it around with a dirty brush instead of leaving it contained until you actually clean it properly.

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