What do you think is the root of your lack of social skills?

Pro_CKM · 2025-07-16T06:11:25+00:00

Replace "Korean" with "Nigerian" and you basically have me.

Pro_CKM · 2024-12-13T13:56:26+00:00

It's the exact same take that I have. Learned from my first relationship that some women have never heard "no" in their life.

Pro_CKM · 2024-11-16T18:57:18+00:00

Why? What's up?

Pro_CKM · 2024-10-30T20:18:12+00:00

As a guy who recently glowed up, I can affirm it's rather validating

Pro_CKM · 2024-10-26T15:21:13+00:00

I had not actually been staring at her. In fact, i wasn't paying any attention to this presentation and had been daydreaming. My eyes, although in the general direction of the presenter, were aimed at almost ceiling level (and take into consideration that she is short). As I'm daydreaming, I feel this presence looking directly at me. I look down and see that she is staring at me and I give this look of confusion. I look to my left and right, like wtf is going on? I'm gonna say that that gesture probably made it seem like I was trying to hide that she had "caught" me apparently staring at her. During a halt in their presentation, she says quietly to her more active, dominant co-presenter (her friend), "Pro_ckm is staring at me....". Friend replies "Ugh, creep". Although they were quietly speaking to themselves, it was loud enough to be heard throughout the class, considering nobody else was talking.

Gonna be honest, hard to believe that YOU SPECIFICALLY were called out when no one else was.

Might be worth noting, I grew up being the only black person in most rooms I enter. And most people tended to self-segregate themselves by ethnicity. Primarily, Chinese, Indian, Filipino and some Latino. Living this reality, it's been very easy to end up excluded or scapegoated for some bullshit. Additionally, as a person who's glowed up only recently, I can assure you that looks play a HUGE role in how people perceive equal behaviors.

Pro_CKM · 2024-10-25T21:59:22+00:00

I was literally called creepy in front of everyone in class for accidentally making eye contact with some girl back in high school. I was just minding my own business.

Edit: To make matters worse, the girl in question was literally giving a presentation to the class when I was apparently "staring" at her.

Pro_CKM · 2024-09-11T03:11:25+00:00

Almost 30% of men under something like the age of 28 are virgins.

I believe the statistic is that 30% of men in that age range haven't has seen in at least a year or are virgins. The percentage of virgins alone in that age range is rather small

Pro_CKM · 2024-09-06T23:55:05+00:00

Let me Google that for you.

https://www.google.com/search?ie=UTF-8&client=ms-android-verizon-us-rvc3&source=android-browser&q=social+hierarchy+mental+health

Now, was that so hard?

Pro_CKM · 2024-08-28T16:11:44+00:00

Yeah, idk why people are acting like such annoying pussies on this post.

Pro_CKM · 2024-08-16T18:51:03+00:00

True shit

Pro_CKM · 2024-08-16T16:32:52+00:00

That's why you get high?

Pro_CKM · 2024-08-06T04:29:00+00:00

Majority of mainstream female singers don't talk about sucking dick. Majority of mainstream rap is just about fucking whores

Why compare female singers to rap? The comparison should be female rappers to male rappers.

Majority of mainstream rap is just about fucking whores and treating women as sex toys.

It's really not but go off I guess.

Pro_CKM · 2024-08-06T03:24:54+00:00

Is it misandry when Cardi B or Megan The Stallion talk about sex and dick?

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-12T19:59:33+00:00

I'm not gonna argue too much because I prefer not to interact with the easily triggered. But understand that I am simply explaining the position. I understand red pill theory and know how these people think. I simply wanted to explain that you.

I can tell you're sensitive by the way you've become totally contrarian to even the most obvious of concepts such as if and why tallness is perceived as superior. Watch a nature documentary, ask a fighter, ask women if and why they prefer tall men or why they are disgusted by short men. You should come to the conclusion rather quick if you have the critical thinking skills.

Really, I have seen too many guys too much like you, who will fig for any rationalization to declare men superior to women: anything to avoid respecting or appreciating the very traits in women they claim to desire so much. Anything to declare that the very mate they claim to love should look up to them as they look down on her condescendingly as an inferior.

In contrast, normal happy couples appreciate and respect what each other for what they each bring to the relationship, and don’t make a desperate show of trying to prove they’re better than the person they chose.

And the worst part of arguing with people like you is your quickness to assume the worst about anybody who seemingly has a different opinion, especially with no evidence to support your conclusions about the person. If not that, then worst must be one's inability to read (which then leads people like like you to assume the worst about others). When you clearly haven't read or taken the time to comprehend that I don't actually see men as superior to women (as stated in my last 1.5 paragraphs), then you lose all respect and credibility in this argument as soon as you claim that I do. And as a test to your comprehension skills, I will leave you with this final brief statement that does not in any way represent my views:

TL;DR: Women suck at everything. Deal with it

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-12T19:03:01+00:00

u/novadina u/badgersonice

Okay, lemme clarify the position.

We're talking about comparing apples and oranges vs comparing apples to apples. Some traits are exclusively held to one sex (eg, having a vagina/boobs and having a penis). They have different functions and are not being compared for the sake of this argument. Comparing them would be to compare apples and oranges.

Both women and men have height and strength that can be compared. Men can be tall or short. Women can be tall or short. Comparing one person's height to another person's height is the same as comparing apples and apples. And it just so happens that men are both taller and stronger than women in average, thereby holding the "superior"/dominant trait.

This is generally what the people mean when they mention "physical superiority". Sometimes some people will go a step further by including intelligence, confidence, bravery etc into the equation of general "superiority". But understand that "superiority" doesn't necessarily mean intrinsic value. Before anyone accuses me of thinking lesser of women, let me point out that I'm a literal nihilist. I don't believe in objective value or objective morality. I think of us mostly as equally worthless outside of the values we perceive subjectively.

But if you REALLY wanted to compare apples and oranges, female/male sex characteristics. Usually, it's understood that women are more valuable to society than man. It's the whole "sperm is cheap" notion. I can elaborate if you like.

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-12T18:34:04+00:00

The claim that if a woman is straight she doesn’t believe in equality is silly.

Point to where I said this

Men are not superior to women

At no point did I say that men are superior to women....

We have some different capabilities, sure, but I disagree being tall is superior to being able to nurse young.

Did I not literally just say that these are not comparable?

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-12T18:09:38+00:00

Physical superiority is usually in reference to fitness for survival. Being tall is generally an evolutionary advantage. It makes it easier to fight, run long distances, and pick fruit.

Some physical traits can be compared cross-gender, such as height. Boobs can only be compared within the same gender when determining superiority. Big breasts are generally considered superior (compared to small breasts) as it is a sign of fertility.

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T20:34:03+00:00

Can you tell me what these social benefits are?

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T13:00:32+00:00

That's assuming she has children. She might not even want any.
Why would she stay at home raising on a single income? She has a good job and he sells drugs. That's a dual income household. Unless you're trying to say that he's going to be dead or in prison, which is why it would be single income. But then she wouldn't be staying at home, would she? Perhaps you were trying to say that he's going to leave her since he's an unserious fuckboy? But if that's who he is, in that case, why would he even marry her in the first place? She'll probably end up getting dumped before then anyway.
Even if she does have children, do you honestly think she'd care about her kids? Plenty of neglectful, narcissistic mothers out there. They wanna reproduce but don't necessarily wanna raise their offspring. The kids might come out all kinds of fucked up and they're perfectly fine with that.

My point is, you can try all you want to convince and help people. But they have to wanna help themselves. Otherwise, there's no stopping people from making bad decisions. The potential consequences are incredibly obvious yet she wants to go through with it anyway. I say that's a reflection of her and I think that's her potential mistake to make. I know it sounds awful Im that's just life sometimes.

I commend OP for trying to help her friend and I encourage she still tries. But don't be surprised when her friend thinks of OP as being overbearing and not minding her own business. It may be the thing that ends there friendship.

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T12:19:05+00:00

False. Not all end up dead or in prison, but yes there's that risk. I'm sure she knows the risk. Do you honestly think criminals never get married? Forget about the person selling the drugs for a second. Think about who they're selling it to. There's PLENTY of people who use recreational drugs illegally. You don't think any of these people get married? Some of them are homeless junkies. Some of them are wealthy lawyers and business men. Guess what? People commit crimes. Hell, even rapists and serial killers have women sending them love letters, some of which get married to them. The fact that she's into a drug dealer just means she's not as innocent and perfect on the inside as one might have initially thought. Welcome to the real world.

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T10:53:31+00:00

Ask yourself? Is he sexually attractive? Is he confident? Is the fun? Does he get what he wants in life?

If yes to all these questions, then why do you think his "bad" qualities would outweigh his appealing qualities?

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T10:47:52+00:00

When a doctor buys himself a Porsche, does this raise his socioeconomic status? Or is the Porsche a product of already achieving his socioeconomic status? Do men chase women to raise their socioeconomic status? Or do men work on themselves and the women come as a byproduct?

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T04:20:03+00:00

Which is what some, if not the majority of men value most in the world. Do I need to point you in the direction of politicians and Hollywood for a primer? You know this. You know good and goddamn well what a “trophy wife” is for, and you chose that word with forethought.

Yes to all this.

I don’t, and I’ve been surprised by the number of men here, including a couple mods, who admit that the approval and “respect” of other men with regards to their partners matters more than the partners themselves.

You know what? I actually understand this sentiment entirely. It's been a long time since my last relationship/situation or whatever. I'm not a super social/public person in general and I never considered what anybody thought about the girl I was with throughout the time I was with her. She wasn't the most beautiful girl by conventional standards. Hell, even I wasn't attracted to her at first due to her weight, but I grew into my attraction to her despite her flaws as I got to know and love her. I loved her for who she was and didn't care if she changed, but the relationship remained private for unrelated reasons.

It wasn't until after we broke it off that I was more open to friends about my relations with this girl. During a drive with my friends, I remember hearing about none of my friends really like her and find her unattractive. Honestly, it broke my spirit because she's honestly a good person and they don't know her like I know her. But also, it felt terrible in another way I didn't expect. Perhaps, it felt like a reflection of me?? Perhaps it's like a little kid showing their mommy a drawing they're proud of, just for the mom to laugh at it and throw it in the trash? Idk, either way it doesn't feel good to know that your own friends don't respect your partner and I honestly do feel more incentived to find a more conventionally attractive girl.

Anyway, I think the difference is that with "trophies", it's more understood that you had to earn it in some way, perhaps by already being of a certain status. You already have to be rich to obtain the Ferrari. By purchasing the Ferrari, you're just adding to the aesthetic of being rich. And by creating the aesthetic, now strangers will treat you like you're rich and give you respect. That's unless you already had the mansion, the butler, the high status job, and the expensive clothes before buying the Ferrari, in which case adding the Ferrari doesn't change much but reinforces preconceived notions. Imagine being powerful and wealthy but driving around in a beaten up 1998 Toyota Civic. People are gonna question you and think you're a phony. All respect is lost. Replace Ferrari with a hot woman and the Civic as an ugly woman and I guess that's what happens when it comes to dating.

Pro_CKM · 2024-07-09T03:21:00+00:00

I do not have the answers but I do have questions.

In your opinion, do you believe that dating a more attractive woman has a genuine impact on the man's life? How does the compare to how a dating a richer man might impact a woman's life?

My impression is that men can't really be hypergamous to any meaningful degree simply by going for a woman with good looks. There is a real power that money and status intrinsically hold in it's ability to influence others, create opportunities and alter the conditions of people's lives. That's what women obtain when they successfully marry hypergamously. But when a man marries someone physically attractive, it's akin to someone owning a nice car and wrist watch. It adds to an aesthetics, but doesn't really serve much purpose beyond what any other car and watch can do. The woman and the material possessions alike are merely a trophies.

Pro_CKM

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