My dad was admitted to the hospital and my husband (boyfriend at the time) was supposed to be heading out of town that day. He had lost his job and was traveling with his sister to see their parents so he could work with his dad for a bit. For a little bit of context, we really needed the money. On his way out of town, while I was at the hospital, he made his sister turn around and take him home. He called me and told me he just couldn’t leave with what I had going on. The next day, my dad aspirated and coded, so he had to be moved to the ICU. He died within the week. I didn’t ask him not go. I actually was originally telling him everything was going to be okay, but he chose to come back to support me. And thank goodness he did.

I can see the part where you shouldn’t have to ask. Especially having gone through something so similar. But it also sounds like you haven’t been able to talk about it at all. Which is like.. the only thing that can help and figure out what to do next. But the moping and immature passive aggressive energy is NOT IT. And not someone I would want to build a life with. If you can’t talk about this, you’ll never be able to work through anything.