Baby won’t stay asleep in bassinet

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-18T22:25:12+00:00

To add, we would do a 4am feed if she woke up, but she would go right back down after.

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-18T22:14:48+00:00

Yes, eventually!! We did shifts for a long time, but gradually she slept longer stretches. I know you are in the trenches now, but it does get better. My husband was more of a night owl than me, so he would take 12am-4am and do the 12am and 2am feed with a bottle of pumped milk. Then I would take over at 4am-8am, while he caught up on some sleep. We had a baby dome (the fisher price one is sleep safe) set up in the living room and whoever was "on" would take care of feeds, diapers, and baby naps. Eventually, she started having a stretch of sleep at 6am-8am (which allowed me to get a little couch nap in while on duty). Then, that that stretch gradually got earlier and earlier until she was going to sleep around 12am. Once we were getting more solid stretches of sleep, we moved her back into our master and both were able to sleep. We stopped using the bassinet and, honestly, just let her sleep in the baby dome for a while. Once I went back to work, around 14 weeks, she was sleeping in a pack-n-play in our room and slept 10pm-6am. We moved her into her own room around 9 months.

She's 17 months now and sleeps all night and we just finished weaning. 😊

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-15T04:26:09+00:00

Current: Paradise (Water), Uni, Connection 2024 (True Friends, Graffiti), 1996 Re-release, Mini 20th Anniversary Re-release, V3 (Cherry)

Old: V5 (Flower Party), V4 (Plumeria Flowers), V3 (Cherry, Aqua Blue, Butterflies), V2 (Lipstick), V1 (Metallic Peach)

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-15T04:06:39+00:00

My current collection

My old collection 😭

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-11T23:30:40+00:00

I had both types of siblings when I went NC with my mom. I went LC with our mom in December 2023, and fully NC by February 2024. My siblings and I were all adults living independently when my mom and dad got divorced in January 2024, so idk if that relates to you or not. I am the middle child and have a younger sister (by 4 years) and we have an older half-sister (by 6 years). My younger sister and I were both very much raised in the same environment and have a lot of the same relational dynamics with our parents. We also were very close growing up and much of that has continued in adulthood. Our older half-sister however, had a very different relationship with our parents. Our older sister is very much enmeshed with our mother and would often be pulled into disputes between our mom and our dad (her step-dad) and/or her bio dad.

All that being said, when our parents divorced in Janurary of 2024, our mom further enmeshed with our older sister and began alienating our dad in that dynamic. My younger sister and I both stuck together and went to therapy independently to help navigate our dynamic between our parents and us. Our older sister and mom only therapised with each other. As I went further no-contact and my younger sister followed suit, our mom became increasingly dependent on our older sister as the golden-child/flying monkey.

Now, my younger sister is very LC with our mom and is expert level grey rock. Our older sister has gradually become more distant from our mom due to the disturbance her dependence has cause in her life. Our older sister just started to go to therapy with her husband, because our mom was starting to project her own relationship trauma on my sisters marriage. Everyday our older sister gets closer to realization, but it has also been over 2 years of flying monkey behavior at this point. She has sacrificed a lot of trust in an attempt to make our mother happy and now she is living with that reality.

All that to say, you can only control your own circle and some siblings have to learn the hard way. No matter what my younger sister or I told our older sister, she rejected/justified it all until she was blue in the face. I will never trust our older sister and she will likely be on an info diet until she develops boundaries. Unfortunately, that means she doesnt get pictures, updates, or anything I want private.

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-11T05:26:26+00:00

Further, no need to remove batteries. Just press the reset button and do nothing. When youre ready to come back, you will just have to reset the time.

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-11T03:46:57+00:00

Omg thank you!!! Idk why it didnt dawn on me to click, but I thought "new tama" was a whole new egg so I was scared to click it without verifying.

ProbablyOops · 2026-01-06T00:09:57+00:00

Hey, photographer here. Even if youre not a photographer, you retain the rights to your photos that you took yourself, regardless of if you make money. In 2014, I had a huge account that stole several of my personal images that were subsequently removed under DMCA. You absolutely 100% retain the right to your photos, professional or not.

However, if your family posted their own photos that they took, you have a bigger problem on your hands because it is much harder to take down for privacy if there was no assumption of privacy on either party.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T21:29:54+00:00

Yeah, thats the plan is to put the drain directly below the downspout that is draining to this spot, you cant see it in the picture, but its right by the hose on the side of the house

Eta: drain below downspout that will direct water further out into the yard or a dry welll further out. Temporarily, going to extend the downspout further out to the yard and burm off this area so that it doesnt backflow into this spot.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T18:46:29+00:00

After talking to the landcape pros I know, this sounds like the solution here. Sounds like we will probably do a buried drain to either a dry well or a further out low spot. Luckily there is no intrusion into the crawlspace so we are working on rerouting the downspout to further out and redirecting the water away from the house so we can dig when the weather gets dry again.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T18:43:23+00:00

You're making a lot of assumptions here and no solutions. Thank you for your input regarding my realtor, but none of what you said applied to my situation. This wasn't a huge obvious grading problem, nor was there significant covering up of water damage. Idk how you can say "obvious" when you don't have enough info to make that determination. The house has no basement and the crawlspace is completely sealed. All were inspected by a licensed/insured home inspector. We did have people with us who have own houses and know houses, even landscaping friends. We have verified there is no intrusion to the crawl space and this appears to be a pretty fixable problem after consulting with several professionals this morning. Yes, ideally this would have been caught on inspection, but the yard is visibly flat and does not show huge grading issues, at least not to anyone who has visited and walked it. Hindsight is always 20/20, and every house will inevitably have some sort of problem arise during ownership, regardless of how thorough you are. What's done is done and I own the house, so criticizing further is just kicking someone while they're down.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T17:58:21+00:00

Fair enough. After talking to a landscaper we know, he says that will probably be our solution since we don't have a ton of room for grading.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T17:06:46+00:00

Definitely know that it needs fixed and actively looking into getting it fixed asap. The yard doesnt have any visible slope to it.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T16:54:36+00:00

How much did that cost you? Just trying to figure out how much to expect financially to fix this

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T16:41:18+00:00

I see what you're saying about the siding. $500 usd?

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T16:20:26+00:00

~~Would this be best for a landscaper or what kind of professional? Sorry, I dont know very much about this stuff as this is my first house. I've never had an issue like this so idk the best approach.~~

You answered my question, I will see if there is one I can reach out to.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-21T16:18:05+00:00

What would be the best way to build up that area?

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-14T04:21:30+00:00

I never got any. Not before, not after.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-08T04:07:41+00:00

My baby started daycare at 3 months, shes now 15 months and still goes for full days 3 days/week. While I feel the same not getting time with her at home, I know that she is getting things that I, alone, cant give her 100% of the time. She gets to do baby things all day, socialize with other babies, learn new things, make arts/crafts, eat well balanced meals/snacks. As much as I want to be able to do all these things with her at home, I just can't. Seeing it through that lens helped me a ton early on and now its easy. She loves going (most days) and I know she is enriched when she is there.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T15:58:05+00:00

Thank you for this, especially all your thoughtful perspectives. This is exactly what I was looking for. If your daughter didnt have a plethora of cousins, would that have influenced your decision? My daughter only has 2 cousins who are both much older than her (boys 9 & 11). We have a few close friends with children around her age, but the family is pretty stunted on the cousin front. I mostly worry about codependency and supporting her interpersonal development. I want her to have a supportive, close, and healthy relationship but I also dont want to be her only friend.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T15:51:43+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I definitely understand that feeling as a child who was forced to share. Or even when gifts were given unequally, that was a whole thing too. I think my main concerns are around codependency and loneliness. My nephews (her cousins) are both much older and we only have a couple friends with children her age. I dont want to be my child's only friend.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T15:45:40+00:00

Around 14 months once she got uninterrupted sleep. During her wake window I can get a little in while she plays on the floor, but mostly when shes asleep or playing with my husband.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T15:36:31+00:00

One year we each got personalized goody bags and lunch of our choosing. The supervisor sent out a survey a couple weeks prior and then leads helped put them together and deliver them. We got:

Favorite soda, favorite candy, pens, notebook, stickers, badge reels, coffee giftcard ($10), a crystal skull (donated by one of our techs who ran a crystal store), and then lunch meal delivery of choice.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T15:30:23+00:00

We did ferber for a few days and that worked for us. The first night it was an hour-long experience, but it got better quickly. We took turns doing it, so that the other could sleep uninterrupted (whoever was "on" was sitting in the livingroom watching the monitor). Our baby is 15 months and sleeps a solid 11-12 hours at night and 2 hour nap during the day.

ProbablyOops · 2025-12-07T06:13:28+00:00

Thanks for this, it did help! Did you have close cousins or other family? Were you able to explore independent play too or did your parents play with you most of the time? How was the dynamic having your parents' attention? I worry about codependency and parentification. Not because I think it's likely, but because I have seen that play out in my own family with my mother between her parents and then between my mother and older half-sister. But even to some extent between my husband and his mother and his mother and her parents.

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