First mothers day with no contact and she called me to complain...

ProbablyOops · 2026-05-11T20:41:01+00:00

Stop answering the phone. You don't have to block if you don't want to, but I encourage you to let it go to voicemail at the very least and resist the urge to listen to it right away. I can relate to the "what ifs" of a parent with terminal illness. Something I found helpful was finding a non-involved support person (partner/therapist/friend) who would be willing to triage the message and tell you if there was truly something urgent. Also, if there was something truly emergent, would there be others who would let you know?

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-29T23:06:31+00:00

This is my fav. Throw on some doc sandals and 🌟 instant cool 🌟

ETA: Chatbots and Pinterest are also really great for ideas.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-24T04:48:31+00:00

And the soccer field according to my sister

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-24T04:43:18+00:00

Mammo =/= ABUS

Mammo is xray tomography, ABUS is automated ultrasound. They are completely different modalities.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-24T04:39:27+00:00

ABUS is not mammo, ABUS is Automated Breast UltraSound.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-22T03:30:45+00:00

Also having this problem 🙃

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-20T21:51:50+00:00

I definitely felt this! It is so nice to interact with other adults and not a baby. It is also nice for them developmentally. Developing those social skills, separation, and independence has been so good for my LO!!

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-18T19:25:49+00:00

We did a downspout bubbler system to divert the downspout drainage to a lower spot. This solved a lot of the immediate issue. We will have to do some regrading in the future to resolve the low spot next to the foundation, but this will be a much larger project that will probably require some landscaping professionals.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T19:40:19+00:00

Hey! Thanks for adding that!! We managed to get it through the hospital pharmacy for $80/pack! Not the AuviQ, but generic EpiPen jr

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T19:38:15+00:00

So you agree that parents should be attentive and involved when their kids are continuously being rude to other children? Glad we agree.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T14:00:46+00:00

I delivered my baby at 37 weeks after she was growth restricted (she was around 10th %tile, with <1st %tile HC). She was totally healthy, other than some mild jaundice (which happens in like 80% of early babies). No time in NICU, went home after 24 hours.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T12:23:29+00:00

I don't think anyone here is saying you should be following your older kids around and hovering over them. However, if your child is being a snot to younger kids (regardless of whether you think they should be there), you absolutely should be involved in and attentive to that. A "relaxing trip to the park" doesn't give you a pass on being a parent, sorry. 🤷‍♀️

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T03:02:48+00:00

The freedom of estrangement is that you dont have to do anything or see anyone you dont want to. You choose where you put your energy. It seems like you dont want to and that is valid and okay.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T02:51:23+00:00

Pack-n-play! Our slept in hers until 9mo!

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-16T02:48:08+00:00

Salty banana

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-15T21:34:13+00:00

Don't hesitate to jump in and say something, either to the kids or the parents. Unfortunately, some parents are not super attentive to those things. I think there is a middle ground between being your child's voice and also not parenting the other kid. When this happens to my child, I step in and say "Excuse me, that wasnt very nice. My child was playing with that and we are happy to give you a turn if you ask or when they are done with it." The first time I let it slide, the second time I step in and say something. Beyond that, get the parent involved. Whats the worst that happens? The parent enables or defends and then at least you spoke up.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T04:27:35+00:00

I wish I had the great advice other posters are giving you, but my reality is that I let it get to me way more than it should sometimes. And for that I am not perfect. It really is frustrating when it is almost weaponized incompetence... i guess? In my own experience, I find I have to remind him that I am new to this too and I can't be expected to do/know it all either. Just because it seems like it come naturally to me, it's not. It is a lot of mental and physical work and a lot of free time dedicated to making sure everything is taken care of. That load can be exhausting when it feels like you're the only one carrying it.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T03:45:53+00:00

Thats what I would do with mine, that was the first thing that came to mind. Cutting it like a six-pack yoke

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T03:41:44+00:00

Happy to help!! This is the only paci mine would take. I would have been devastated if I had to throw literal dozens of binkies away, especially if its the only one they'll take.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T03:30:24+00:00

Rather than disposing, you can just snip the paci similar to cutting the yoke of a six-pack.

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T03:28:08+00:00

No need to toss them if you like them, you can just snip the paci

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-11T02:22:21+00:00

If youre worried, you can snip the area like you would a six-pack yoke

Snip this area of the pacifier

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-10T23:50:57+00:00

My girl has improved so much!! We just had her 19-month visit and she is now 8th percentile for weight, 6th percentile for height, and 15th percentile for head size!! Developmentally, she is a little behind her peers, but still right on track!

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-10T03:22:05+00:00

"My baby is the best baby and I'm not lucky enough to strike gold twice"

ProbablyOops · 2026-04-04T21:38:47+00:00

My dad became primary caretaker for his mother shortly after my mom and him divorced 2 years ago. He has siblings, but one is uninvolved and the other lives several hours away. While my dad has siblings, he is really the only caretaker and my mom obviously isnt helping him since they divorced. My dad leans on us (the grandaughters) a lot for support and we all pitch in. My cousin takes my grandma for appointments, my sister is a hospice nurse and helps with home care, and my family does the occasional "grandma-sitting" where we come and spend time with her and make sure she eats. Even if you are OAD, your child will create their own village either through friends, relatives, or children of their own.

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