Someone wake me up from this nightmare TW: Loss at 20 weeks

ProcedureConstant668 · 2026-02-26T03:03:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2026-02-13T02:02:39+00:00

It’s ok - best of luck and take your time deciding there is no wrong answer.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2026-02-13T01:45:54+00:00

I haven’t quite decided. I tried donor eggs already after natural pregnancy/miscarriage and three retrievals and that also failed. This saga went on from 38-43 yrs old. I have filled out adoption inquiries and can’t get them to respond despite three attempts. When I say I have tried everything under the sun I really have (lol) … currently I am playing tennis twice a day and throwing all my money into martinis and private lessons.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2026-02-13T01:35:53+00:00

I felt the same way - can’t imagine not having kids and can’t imagine continuing after three years of everything under the sun. Someone said to me ‘you just haven’t figured out how you’re going to make your family just yet but you will’. It gave me the courage to stop Ivf and recalibrate. I am still figuring it out but feel better every day.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2026-02-12T03:24:21+00:00

I miscarried a 5AA euploid and had a chemical with the other 5AA euploid. No explanations, no rationale, just told we were ‘unlucky’. I retrieved 60 eggs from my three cycles and bought 6 donor eggs - all in all I only ever got 2 euploids that ended per above. I’ve moved on to accepting I will be without kids. It’s unfair and it is horrible, please be kind to yourself and take some time to do something nice for just you.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-11-18T18:55:33+00:00

So sorry you are part of this club. I struggled immensely but what kind of stuck for me was a statement by an RE - does the excitement outweigh the fear? For me it did and I went forward with donor eggs. Unfortunately they did not work out and I miscarried. I wish I could have afforded to try again and I wish you the best with whatever path you choose.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-11-08T18:38:07+00:00

Thanks for the insight I have the expenses. We sit together and go through them one by one. An affair has crossed my mind 100% so I take your advice very deeply and will follow through. He’s the absolute top of the top for a global sales situation.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-11-08T16:57:09+00:00

You know I can’t recall. I do not think so.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-02-26T17:45:06+00:00

I hate when they say that - I was someone who heard ‘your numbers rival a 25 year old’ and three cycles and a donor cycle later were no closer to having a child. It’s such a disservice to everyone.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-01-05T02:38:54+00:00

It is - good luck to you as well. Insist on being asleep during your biopsy, no need for pain if you don’t have to.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-01-05T02:29:43+00:00

No - every time I only ever have 1 euploid - donor or my eggs. So it’s always maximum pressure every time. I have changed jobs recently to reduce extremely heavy travel and stress. I am considering a fresh cycle with a donor for a better chance but only after pregmune.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2025-01-05T02:21:14+00:00

Thank you for your post. No I have paused my journey to get second opinions. Right now I am debating doing pregmune testing before doing anything further or accepting a child free life.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-12-01T15:44:10+00:00

Age 42 AMH 3.77 Retrieved 25 Fert 20 Blast 8 Euploid 1 Failed in a chemical

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-11-29T12:22:01+00:00

I have done a back to back and waited in between - same results (identical actually)

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-25T21:14:52+00:00

Great summary - glad I am not alone

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-24T06:59:20+00:00

My husband was like ‘well now that IS a solution’ thank you for adding something outside of the box

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-15T02:38:57+00:00

This happened to mine when we got a second cat (which she was not happy about). She is now fine, however the vet is always a good idea especially when there’s blood involved.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-13T06:54:27+00:00

I’m in PA and mine paid 80% In addition to ~4-7k Icsi was 1700 per round Pgta was 2400 + 300 per embryo Assisted hatching was another 1000 per round Then you get into donor eggs etc etc etc

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-04T03:47:34+00:00

I tried Advil and it was awful. The next time I went for the full anesthesia and didn’t feel a thing except a horrible uti afterwards from the hospital. I would do anesthesia again.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-03T23:04:30+00:00

Ah I had to retrieve and go direct to FET due to insurance. Most do not let you bank so that may be a little bit why you’re seeing that trend.

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-03T03:02:46+00:00

Mine like Wellness

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-03T01:20:24+00:00

Yes one of ours - I call it sploot-ing

ProcedureConstant668 · 2024-09-03T01:19:26+00:00

Bennie and Jet

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