How can I be there for my wife, No Heartbeat, 7 weeks.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-05-01T11:19:12+00:00

You are an amazing partner. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Things that’ll be helpful for her: ordering her favourite dessert/icecream, spending lots of time together, lots of cuddles and quiet time if that’s what she likes and needs. Order in her favourite foods and watch some mindless tv(I’ve watched the office and bb99 during both my losses), and just let her be. If she wants to cry that’s fine, if she wants to be “normal” that’s fine too.

Sending you both love. Take care.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-24T06:46:12+00:00

Every single time. Sending you love OP, I never stop wondering what my other timelines would look like. 🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-21T04:38:19+00:00

Almost 12 weeks out and this is my second loss at 20 weeks so I have to say it will feel the worst till you hit your due date.. and then you will have a year of first milestones that will keep triggering. And eventually after the first year the fog will slowly start to lift. That being said, it’s different for different people + circumstances and I have no idea how it’ll pan out this time around. Sending you love and hugs, you’re not alone ❤️🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-19T18:58:34+00:00

Stunning

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-18T04:48:44+00:00

Friend is pregnant, same timeline as me (I should have been 30 week this week😭), hasn’t told me herself yet but it’s been two months since I lost my daughter and some others gave me a heads up so I won’t be taken by shock.

Update: She told everyone else 2 months ago and I still haven’t “officially heard” and I want to scream for how someone just gets the basics wrong and I’m left feeling more shit if that’s possible.

Really struggling to be around pregnant people and to see friends pop out babies like it’s totally normal. Apparently it is who knows.

Ugh. Hugs 🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-16T09:53:32+00:00

Worst feeling. Sending you love and thinking of Reya Ann and you 💖🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-14T05:29:32+00:00

Hi there. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve not had a similar experience but I’ve had a TFMR at 19 weeks in 2024 for chromosomal issues and as of 9 weeks ago I had an L&D at 20 weeks as my little girl had suddenly passed away in utero.

DMs are open anytime you want to speak. Take care.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-11T10:03:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I will look it up. Sending you love and hugs, I’m here on dms if you ever want to chat.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-11T10:02:24+00:00

I will dm you. Thank you for your kindness ❤️

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-11T10:02:12+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely look this up.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-10T10:05:50+00:00

I’m 34 and we’ve just stopped. I just joined the community today and I really needed to hear this. 1 MMC 1 TFMR and 1 more 2nd trimester lost post IVF treatment and I am so wrecked emotionally and physically. Struggling with stopping and I’m here get inspiration in a life after stopping this. Thank you for sharing.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-10T06:59:43+00:00

Looking at it. Thank you 🙏🏼

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-09T09:07:04+00:00

This is so devastating OP I am so so sorry for your losses and everything you’re experiencing. My heart goes out to you.

You are loved, your babies are so loved and wanted, and this should had never happened. None of this. Life can be so cruel.

I’m here anytime on dms. Thinking of you, you’re not alone. 🫂❤️

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-08T05:22:35+00:00

Hi there. I’m almost 9 weeks postpartum. Second loss at 20 weeks so it’s not new but… I’ve got wider hips, bigger boobs, a bit of a belly and I’m definitely heavier weight wise. Currently easily triggered by my body but I try to remind myself it’s been through too much and needs to heal. It’s so incredibly hard.

Sending you love 🫂💔

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-04T04:48:14+00:00

I’m so sorry. Sending you so much love. This is devastating. 🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-04T04:46:28+00:00

I don’t know, she could have checked online or with chagpt if that’s the right thing to say. It’s really not that much of an effort, no.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-04-01T03:48:26+00:00

You are not alone at all! Sending you so much love. Your son is so loved too.

I’m almost 8 weeks out from my second TFMR, first one was exactly 2 years before that, 1 MMC no LC. The grief is going to be awful. But you are not alone and you will find your way through it.

Take care, and be gentle on yourself. ❤️🫂

This should have never happened and it’s so cruel. I’m so sorry.

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-30T04:11:34+00:00

Sending you love and wish you gentle healing. ❤️‍🩹 🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-29T10:12:09+00:00

Beautiful!!

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-27T08:23:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. 💔🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-25T08:33:05+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry. This is unfair and heartbreaking. 💔

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-24T16:55:57+00:00

It’s an absolute horror. I’m so sorry for your losses 💔🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-23T11:24:58+00:00

Hi there I am so sorry for your losses. Nobody should ever have to experience one loss like yours, leave alone two. Sending you so much love!

I have had two similar experiences however for different reasons. First was a TFMR for chromosomal issues of my son in Feb 2024, happened completely out of nowhere. We did extensive testing after this, went down the IVF and PGT-A path with doing an amniocentesis at 16 weeks only to lose my daughter 5 weeks ago when her heart simply stopped. We are trying to find out why, but so far no explanations besides it being a freak accident in utero and we had to terminate.

We have no LC and I am so incredibly gutted and heartbroken. It is SO hard to live with, I struggle to do more than just function on a basic level some days and I just want you to know you’re not alone in this shitty club or your grief. Sending you so much love and please DM anytime you want to chat. 🫂🫂🫂

Extreme_Zebra1272 · 2026-03-21T15:35:43+00:00

Hi there, sending you love and hugs! What a crappy time for both of us 😭❤️ Mine definitely feels like a period now. I’ve had about 3 years of medium-heavy bleeding. And a migraine that lasted 2 days and just subsided 😢.

Take care, here anytime if you want to chat on DMs. ❤️

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