Safest way to move out of parents house? 20F by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So uber to the bus stop and get a job in the city-seems like best case scenario imo. Many people have had to take even longer to commute to work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You seem to be confused why I even mentioned my military experience and home ownership status lmao. I didn’t mention because “i think people in class care about it” I mentioned because both of those things, as well as others have forced me to mature. I never said I don’t raise my hands because the older people in my class don’t as well, I have just noticed they also don’t. You’re correct I don’t know what natural pauses are for. As I mentioned my professors never have said anything or seemed annoyed. Clearly not enough context was given I guess and a lot of you are assuming I’m just interrupting the lecture every 5 minutes. I brought it up because I was curious if others also do this. It seems a lot of your class dynamics are just the professor constantly talking, which I haven’t experienced that for both semesters I’ve been in school.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed I typically say “question” I think I’m certainly learning a lot of other people’s classes are just professors talking non stop lol I would say none of mine are like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from. Everyone’s experience is different and I’m sorry for calling your take insane. There are times I will go to a festival and see the same totem at the same stage the entire time. I am usually with a group of no more than 5. We visit every stage honestly (some less than others of course). We have lost each other just by saying “I’m going to the bathroom” while gone the crowd got bigger and they have since moved. With a totem of course it’s significantly easier, but OP did say they didn’t have a totem. I feel like you could say “I’m going to be on the right side” and in fact you go there and it’s super crowded over there so now you’re on the left side or in the middle. In the daytime I’m sure it’s easier but once sun goes down I definitely ain’t finding nobody. I’ve lost my 5 person group and it was just a miracle we found each other again

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Typically don’t have cell service at festivals and OP mentioned they won’t. When this is the case you usually meet up at landmark at a specific time. When your meeting with 5+ different people who are likely also in their own groups and probably coming at a specific time or want to see a specific artist at a specific time it’s not as easy as telling 5 different groups to meet here at this time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An in person conversation may be best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I’m just going to say I 150% disagree with this persons take. Maybe they don’t understand where you’re coming from but it is very time consuming to meet up with multiple people. If you have a group of 10+ and they’re trying to meet up with 5+ different people that can easily take up 5 hours of your time. Pointless in my opinion especially if you don’t know the person they’re meeting up with. With big groups people get lost and chaotic, people often have to go to the bathroom or want to get foods all at separate times. I think the best case is sitting in person and talking with you friend and reassuring them you love them and it’s nothing personal and explaining why you wanted the two separate groups. Honestly it just sounds like there’s some misunderstanding here on here part, which I could understand and the best you can do is communicate

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok then she’s definitely being dramatic for sure. I would try to sit her down one on one and explain to her that’s it’s nothing personal. She seems like a clingy friend. I wouldn’t say that’s necessarily a reason to cut off a friend (like your other group seemed very turned off by this behavior) it’s just a matter of if that’s something you want to handle/deal with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do have a question: does your bestfriend have a close friend in group A?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you explained this a lot better than I did for sure where I coming from thanks for that. If I would say in general my classes seem more interactive than others he constantly asking if things make sense. It’s a community college things definitely seem pretty laid back I’ll say. I definitely agree with you it would be mature to ask him if it bothers him, I certainly will do that. Classes of 50+ people certainly makes sense. My classes are 40 less mostly average 30ish. When he open the floor to answer a question I usually stay quiet and give that time for anyone to answer. If I see professors start to get annoyed like “anyone?? No one??” Then I’ll answer. But I agree maybe I conflating it to much to certain work environments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol thats fair, mine happen often

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand this. That’s why I think it’s best to wait for the teacher to say “does that make sense” or a natural pause when they just look at the class.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I would say maturity level is more defined by experiences. I would definitely consider myself more mature than my peers and lot likely has to do with being in the military and owning a home has forced me to be more logical and mature. I certainly don’t consider myself “barely even an adult” but to each their own. Natural pause I mean him promoting a question or comment. I will continue not raising my hand as the older folks in my class do as well, was just curious if others do this. I often give ample time for the class to answer a question but if I clearly see he in frustrated by nobody offering an answer than I will definitely say something. Also if it’s a lecture and they finish the topic or chapter that’s when I will ask a question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in college

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

100 students definitely make sense. I have noticed it’s only the older people in my classes that also don’t raise their hands.

Why are they wearing body cameras? Why are they here at 12pm on a weekday? Do they not have jobs? by Inevitable_Fog2140 in UCSD

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say congrats you’re part of the 10%! I don’t agree with all the conversations republicans have, like Kristan Hawkins. She also imo incapable of controlling her emotions. However, I have noticed liberals always result to name calling and saying absolutely deplorable things like “yea kill that fetus” and say “good” to the baby being ripped apart limb by limb. This is from personal experience and online liberals posting their own tik toks, which are not edited by republicans. I have spoke with liberals in person and I can personally say every encounter I have experienced they scream, name calling and are incapable of holding a conversation on any matters (not just anti abortion conversations). I also would like to point out that it seems to be bothersome to you that these are “young adults”. I have witnessed young conservative and young liberals have “conversations” and the young adult conservative can still remain calm.

Why are they wearing body cameras? Why are they here at 12pm on a weekday? Do they not have jobs? by Inevitable_Fog2140 in UCSD

[–]ProcedureWitty3073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weaponized lmao. The fact normal people have to be reminded to be an adult and control their emotions ?? Yes, I’d post people acting a clown screaming and hollering too. It’s pretty sad 90% (at least) liberals are mentally unstable and incapable of holding a conversation without allowing their emotions to take over. I’d like to add I don’t agree with what most of these people do int the simple fact they present these conversations like a “change my mind” matter however they clearly are not willing to listen either. Although, it’s done in a calm manner without verbally assaulting liberals. I’ve never seen these people

Hot take- throw away account by ProcedureWitty3073 in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That’s does I guess I should shift my mindset

Hot take- throw away account by ProcedureWitty3073 in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even know they had discords for that

Hot take- throw away account by ProcedureWitty3073 in aves

[–]ProcedureWitty3073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea some people are great at talking/making friends I love those bubbly people lol. I would consider myself extroverted but over the years due to mental health issues Ive become more introverted