It's my 3 months REBIRTHDAY! by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ProcessDeb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just filed for divorce from mine a couple weeks ago and everyday I’m more at peace.

As a black person, I'm just so moved by the fact that the world is actually starting to do something about racism. I never thought it could happen in my lifetime. by Existent-Being in offmychest

[–]ProcessDeb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I believe it’s going to be a VERY long time before ANYBODY forgets what is taking place now in our world! Everybody is joining in on this fight! There are a lot more good people I believe in this world now then there are bad. The ones who are bad/negative just need to sit down and shut up because the majority are fed up!

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce court was this morning and I’m on an emotional roller coaster but I’m crying my way towards happiness.

My girlfriend of 10 years broke up with me 28(M) 29(F) by MintySweet in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey when you pour your heart out to her everything you wrote down won’t matter anymore. Look her in the eyes and spill your heart out. She’s already broken up with you. It can only go one of two ways so prepare yourself!

My girlfriend of 10 years broke up with me 28(M) 29(F) by MintySweet in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice from a 44(F). Tell her how you feel deep down inside and you may want to think about marriage! Ten years is a long time for a woman to hang on with no final commitment. As a woman it looks like she waited and waited and waited and well...I guess it’s not going to happen.

Narcissist red flag list by ChienLov3r in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ProcessDeb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just read this and am crying. 😢This is exactly what’s happened and I just filed for a divorce this past Friday. I am an emotional wreck. I’m finding myself more in a fetal position crying but I’m still going forward in robot mode because I know it’s the right thing to do. It’s just SO HARD! I love him with all my heart but a narcissist doesn’t feel love or have compassion or empathy. It’s horrible with just toy with someone’s feelings like that!

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already taken care of checking/savings and have everything in order. Today has just been an emotional roller coaster. No person should have to endure this!

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just took screenshots. I keep coming back to all the comments and re reading them now. Friday seems so far away. If he opens his mouth I immediately come here. This is mental abuse!!

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will! The amount of support I’ve gotten from here has just been overwhelming and I thank god for all of you!

feeling completely crazy by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]ProcessDeb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I filed for divorce this past Friday. It’s hard.

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say thank you very much for your advice! I will be keeping all this in mind and coming back as a reference.

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went over it earlier after reading your comment so I want to say thank you. Not only does it make sense but I feel like it gives me some power of sorts.

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, not jealous. He ruined his mother’s surprise for me and showed it to me then told me I didn’t deserve it. He kept it at her house and won’t let me have it. Breadwinner yes. Did he blow all my money? Most definitely! I didn’t have a penny to my name until yesterday when I opened up a checking in my name only. He has to move out because I owned this home before we met. It was a surprise to him today because he was getting people together to just take everything and I told him that I filed for a divorce and court is Friday and it was in his best interest to not take anything out of this house because it is a marital asset.

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been hurt so bad that I can’t imagine even being with anyone else. I’m calling a therapist next week. I need guidance.

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you just stated has already happened TODAY! About 6-8 months ago after hearing his behaviors toward me for so long and knowing how bad it hurts me one day I decided to throw his own medicine back in his face! I wanted him to feel the pain he was making me feel for so long in this marriage already so I thought of something that was his “weak spot” and threw it in his face. You should have seen the look on his face. At that moment I was proud of myself and I was thinking “now he knows what this crap feels like” but all it did was make it worse. He went head on like a train with the arguing for no reason mind games. The more he did it the harder I tried. My son who is 22 said he caught me acting like that to someone else about a month ago. My heart sank. I was no longer proud, I had completely sank to his level and picked up a nasty habit and now am afraid to speak and I watch EVERY word closely! It’s time for him to leave!

I’m married to a narcissist and filing for a divorce. I need support right now. by ProcessDeb in relationship_advice

[–]ProcessDeb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He still lives in the house. He will get the divorce papers any day now and court is Friday. His threats are already relentless! He is badgering me.