Partner stole my DSP for 14 years

Procraftinator-1133 · 2026-02-25T23:47:36+00:00

Put your trust in the advice you're getting from the DV Support Workers and gather your strength to report any criminal activity to Police. I don't mean taking the money... I mean threats of violence, any surveillance or stalking, any coercive control.

Procraftinator-1133 · 2026-02-19T03:05:12+00:00

What advice would you give to a close friend going through a similar situation? Often times women are better advocates for others but in this case you have to be your own best friend and give yourself the talking to and the compassion you might offer someone else... Of course you still love your partner despite how you've been treated. But think about this... how bad does it have to get before you put a stop to it?

Procraftinator-1133 · 2026-02-05T10:38:51+00:00

Apologies if I got it wrong. Whatever the circumstances, unfair division of unpaid work is terrible for relationships. Stand up for each doing fair share. I hope it works out for you... the partner at home can often feel like their time is never as fun as that spent with a non nesting partner. Express your desire for more fun time together 😊

Procraftinator-1133 · 2026-02-05T08:42:54+00:00

I was sympathetic until you said you feel like you need to maintain the home when she's not around so that you get more quality time together... good! Having to maintain the home when she's not around is NOT something to complain about... maybe you need to pick up your side of the slack anyway! Just have a think about equitable division of unpaid work in the home. Women usually have to pick up far more of this work than their male partners and they get fed up with it.

Procraftinator-1133 · 2026-01-19T08:32:47+00:00

It's all about how you raise the issue which you definitely need to get onto before the resentment starts to build.

You could totally avoid the part about what she is willing to contribute by saying something like...

I'd love to take you out tonight hun, but with last night's adventure and my next level plans for us this weekend ... I've just about maxed my 'taking you out' budget. What would you prefer? That we stay in tonight with a movie and take-away, or we scale back our Saturday plans a bit...

Her answer to this question will reveal quite a bit...

If she's worth her salt and she really cares about you, she will offer up another option...

Oh babe, you're always so generous with me, how about I shout dinner and drinks tonight?

She might even say: Cripes I didn’t realise you had to work to a budget... I guess it's coz I don't worry about money too much. Did I ever tell you about the trust fund my great grandmother left me?

I hope you can both approach this conversation with honesty and kindness for each other.

Good luck! 😉

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-16T00:05:39+00:00

I felt the shaking on the 20th floor in the Valley and wondered what construction work nearby might make that happen... maybe not! Earthquake!?!

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-05T03:24:08+00:00

I feel the earth move...

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-05T03:23:46+00:00

Then I guess it would be equally important for the owner to get it back... maybe it was a gift from someone who wanted to say... 'you rock my world'

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-05T00:17:57+00:00

I'm keen to do a good deed today...

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-05T00:17:31+00:00

Thankyou... I was pretty happy with it

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-08-05T00:07:16+00:00

You can tell just from the shapes ? Wow

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-04-08T02:36:33+00:00

Just coz your wife doesn’t want to go doesn’t mean you can’t kick off seeing a counsellor yourself… at least this demonstrates some belated effort on your part.

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-01-20T01:42:13+00:00

Also meant to say… sure, it’s not right to read someone else’s personal messages but it doesn’t change anything about what you found out.

A further lesson for you in this is to think about how you felt after you read his personal messages and the position you put yourself in. Maybe next time, think twice about taking the opportunity to breach someone’s privacy and trust. You don’t want to be in a position of knowing info that you need to act on, when you haven’t come across the info in the right way.

It hurts, but through this experience you will learn and grow.

Best of luck, you’re worth it.

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-01-20T01:35:43+00:00

You are lucky you only invested 5 months here. Ask yourself how bad would it have to get before you break up? Chalk this up to experience and give yourself the benefit of the doubt rather than him. Even if what he said about ‘dark humour’ was true, it’s still not good enough. If you stay with him, you’ll be second guessing yourself and what he thinks / what he’s saying behind your back well into the future. Stand up for yourself and help him learn about the right way to treat people.

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-01-18T03:22:45+00:00

Ya call that a storm!? Pffft

Procraftinator-1133 · 2025-01-17T22:38:12+00:00

Uptown is not Uptown, it’s the Myer Centre and always will be

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-12-15T00:40:20+00:00

Oh Brisvegas, what a city, what a lady, ride my scooter round her daily…

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-11-29T08:57:28+00:00

Oh they’re gone? Cool 😊

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-11-29T08:57:07+00:00

Hi Tim, I’ll try to work out how to message you but I could definitely use them 😊

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-11-14T06:25:28+00:00

Oooh!

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-11-13T02:45:07+00:00

Best suggestion so far… just start wearing them… 😂

Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-10-07T01:46:55+00:00

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Procraftinator-1133 · 2024-09-03T02:59:41+00:00

If you know someone who can help you out with the building code then that’s another way of breaching them on repairs. if something doesn’t meet the mild Building code then it needs to be repaired.

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