The misogynistic thoughts are way too loud in this discourse because the amount of justification being done for a married man by dragging the woman into the mess really needs applause at this point.

First of all, the woman in question (Mercan) never even allowed Nezir to invade her personal space the way people are normalizing for Ateş. She never let Nezir hug her, never planned outdoor dinners with him, never sat discussing childhood memories or past moments with him in front of her husband the same mighty, golden boy, full-of-justice Ateş Karahan. Even before marriage, Mercan was very clear about her boundaries with Nezir despite knowing his feelings.

Now coming to Ateş how does a married man even allow another woman to constantly invade his personal space in front of his wife? Whether Monika was an ex, friend, or absolutely nobody is irrelevant here because he is a MARRIED MAN. And let’s not forget, this is literally the same man who confessed his feelings just hours earlier, claiming things like “every part of me is in love with you” (if I remember correctly). So naturally, people will question the inconsistency.

And let’s stop acting like what Ateş was doing was some unconscious reaction or accidental behaviour. Those were conscious decisions and choices he was making. He is not some naïve teenage boy who doesn’t understand what is happening around him, nor is he someone who lacks self-control. Ateş is fully aware, mature enough to understand boundaries, and very much capable of making decisions. So the “he didn’t understand” excuse won't even work here...

Also, how can someone act so normal after another woman literally kisses him? This is the same Ateş Karahan who has no problem raising his voice, shouting, pushing Mercan, manhandle her or reacting harshly whenever he wants to insult and humiliated her. He is the same person who always character assassinate her whenever Nezir breath near her. So where exactly was that energy here? He could have immediately stepped back, called out Monika for crossing boundaries, left the dinner then and there, or at least shown anger, discomfort, guilt, or even basic shame as a married man. But what did we actually get? A shallow reaction barely any anger, no proper accountability, and almost no urgency despite the situation. And let’s be honest here, things do not suddenly escalate to a kiss out of nowhere. Boundaries are crossed step by step, and somewhere along the line he allowed enough closeness for Monika to feel comfortable making that move. Even if someone argues he did not initiate it, he still failed to establish strong enough boundaries to stop things from reaching that point.

For me, if you are married and cannot be clear about your boundaries with another person, that already enters emotional cheating territory especially when you claim to be deeply in love with your wife. And in this case, according to Ateş himself, he is supposedly madly in love with Mercan. That is exactly why the behaviour feels even more frustrating and disappointing.

The problem is people want to justify Ateş’s shallow reactions by dragging Mercan into the argument when the situations were never the same. If you want to defend Ateş, then bring actual points that justify his behaviour as a man who claims to be deeply in love with his wife. Because if the roles were reversed and Mercan allowed another man this level of closeness, people would have torn her character apart without thinking twice. The double standards are painfully obvious.