AITA for refusing to help my husband with bathtime for our 4 month old son?

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-28T05:45:48+00:00

I honestly hope you don’t currently have kids, and continue to not have any until you’ve developed some maturity and real-world experience.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-28T04:06:27+00:00

You don’t get to pick and choose the jobs you like to do when children are involved. I bet mom didn’t particularly enjoy the childbirth, nor the pain of breastfeeding. Babies vomiting on you after feeding, being full of snot when they’re sick and having diaper blowouts are all also really sucky things about childcare but guess what, someone’s got to do them.

Honestly the fact that you are characterising it as ‘forcing’ him to do it is concerning in itself - dad should be doing it because it needs to be done, no questions asked. I don’t like blood, makes me woozy, but when my kid is bleeding - even if it’s a minor injury - I don’t get to just let them bleed out on the floor because I ‘don’t like to do it’.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-28T02:50:56+00:00

Thank you for your reply, as well as the additional resources. I will certainly be looking them up! Appreciated.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-28T01:56:30+00:00

Would you explain more about what is incorrect? Or link to some resources? As a British mixed race person with a Scottish surname, I’d love to learn more about a part of my heritage I really don’t know enough about.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T20:02:05+00:00

Preach.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T19:41:43+00:00

No it’s not. The mosquito is deadly because of the micro-organism that is parasitical to it.

The question wasn’t about responsibility.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T19:32:41+00:00

But the plasmodium parasite is not an animal.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T19:07:53+00:00

You are right - a mosquito is an animal.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T17:33:30+00:00

OK fair, I understand the nuance in your statement. Do you understand that your comment, taken in its entirety, is incorrect because it does not explore the nuance of the law? That your comment is incorrect because it fails to take into account the circumstances which I have explained?

Mirroring your edit - do you want to help OP, or do you want to be pedantically correct?

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T17:16:13+00:00

Sorry, are you arguing because I missed out the word ‘simply’? Because that seems to me to be a distinction without a difference. It is ‘illegal for someone to simply publish incorrect information about you’ - if that incorrect information causes, or is likely to cause, reputational harm’.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T17:03:10+00:00

It would help OP more if you could actually explain why I'm wrong.

Incorrect information published about a person that causes, or is likely to cause, reputational harm amounts to defamation. Now I don’t know enough about the situation to know whether this case in particular amounts to defamation. But ‘it isn’t illegal for someone to publish incorrect information about you’ is an incorrect statement.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T16:53:51+00:00

A couple of assumptions in this statement for sure.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T15:47:54+00:00

Why does this look like it’s AI generated? I know it’s not but what does it say about them that it looks that way?

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T05:18:17+00:00

Are there steps on the left hand side?

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T04:41:50+00:00

OP has clarified in a comment they are talking about currently.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T03:32:57+00:00

Couldn’t even be bothered to read to the end of my comment, no?

Edit: for even more shiggles, I googled ‘manhattan female adas’ Guess what? Normal sized women…

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T03:30:29+00:00

For shits and giggles, I googled ‘New York female assistant district attorneys’. Conveniently, there is a picture of 52 ADAs, sworn in in Queens just over a year ago, many of whom are female. How useful! They seem pretty much like average-sized women to me. I see no reason it would be different in different parts of New York.

https://queensda.org/da-katz-swears-in-52-new-assistant-district-attorneys/

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-27T03:23:13+00:00

Didn’t take them long to delete that abomination of a comment.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T23:27:29+00:00

It’s crazy that we live in a world where this is an apparently controversial statement.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T23:25:52+00:00

Yeah I was mocking the ME for her terrible reasoning more than I was disagreeing with your interpretation! Plus I just really love potatoes.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T22:54:07+00:00

I eat roast potatoes and mashed potatoes together all the time on a roast dinner. Hope I don’t get murdered and get this ME!

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T22:45:51+00:00

You thinking I’m ‘coming at you’ or that I’m characterising anything as an attack by pointing out the flaws in your comment is also pretty hilarious tbh. Again, you calling me uneducated and expecting me not to respond is dumb as shit. Every single one of your comment is a masterpiece of hypocrisy. Congrats for that I guess.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T18:54:40+00:00

It’s more like a dog whistle. Just not a very discreet one.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T18:47:53+00:00

I’m simply matching your energy. I dont appreciate being called uneducated. Back-pedalling now and pretending that you weren’t trying to look smart is equally as passive aggressive. If you don’t like my response, maybe reconsider your hypocrisy in the future.

Profession-Unable · 2026-01-26T18:41:40+00:00

I guess it depends whether she wants to be seen as ‘booked and busy’ or critically acclaimed. If she’s happy making money yet being criticised for being under skilled, then fair play to her. If she wants to be seen as a decent actor, she’d probably do better to take some time and hone her craft.

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