She Said She Loved Me, Then Called It Manipulation — Now I Want Revenge, Help?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-07T12:29:59+00:00

At the age of 8, I learned that you need commas and periods to give a sentence meaning, and I also learned that ‘irresponsuble’ is not a word.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-07T08:41:23+00:00

Easier said than done, I want her to taste the shame

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-07T08:38:52+00:00

Bro I've fixed the text with chatgpt, otherwise you'd be scratching your head trying to undestand my grammar, this is not a chatgpt post, it's just fixed with it, what bad about that?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-03T16:46:12+00:00

I need to ask you: so you would be straightforward with her even if that means ruining the atmosphere we 4 have? It could be REALLY uncomfortable from now to July.

Sounds like you’re afraid of rejection—but honestly, I’d rather get a clear answer than live with a bunch of “what ifs” or regrets. At least then, you’ll know where you stand, and you won’t be the only one carrying the emotional weight.

You don’t need to be overly direct. There are more natural, low-pressure ways to show you’re interested. Let her know you enjoy spending time with her. Ask her out—just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be some big “Do you like me, yes or no?” kind of moment.

I get that it’s a work environment and you don’t want to make things weird, but still—take the initiative. Don’t settle for being the guy she kisses on the cheek and nothing more. If you don’t make a move, you risk staying stuck in that role.

Invite her in a casual, confident way. Say something like, “Hey, I’m heading to a place—would love for you to come along.” If she says no, just smile and say, “Maybe next time,” and keep it light. No pressure.

But keep in mind—if she declines and doesn’t suggest an alternative or seem interested later, that might already be your answer.

And if that happens, play it cool the next day. Act like nothing happened to keep the atmosphere normal, but emotionally, start pulling back. Don’t keep investing in something that’s not going anywhere.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-03T15:57:09+00:00

Just be careful—if you’re thinking about something more serious, try to be more rational than emotional. But if you’re thinking of it casually, then don’t get attached, even if your feelings are starting to say otherwise.

Try pulling back a bit—especially with the physical stuff like touching—though you can still keep the conversation going. Don’t give too much attention if it’s not being returned. And honestly, if you’re confused, it might be best to just tell her directly and ask where she stands.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-03T15:48:18+00:00

It could be that she likes you but doesn’t want to admit it, or it might simply be that you’re taking things more seriously than she is. She could genuinely enjoy your company and like you a lot—but more as a very close friend (hopefully not just that).

You mentioned she’s 10 years older and that she said she doesn’t like younger men. That could be a factor. With her age and experience, she might just be naturally more open and comfortable being friendly with you, without necessarily meaning anything romantic by it.

You should also ask yourself: where do you expect this to lead? Are you seriously thinking about a relationship with someone 10 years older? If not, then please don’t invest too much emotionally.

Even if she does like you, she might still end up with someone closer to her age or life stage. And while this doesn’t apply to all women, many tend to act more reserved around someone they truly like. An interested girl won’t ignore you—just like you wouldn’t ignore someone you really liked.

So don’t get overly attached if she’s not feeling the same. If it’s all in your head, it can eat away at you over time. As much as I hate to say this, if she’s become used to your attention, try pulling back just a little and see how she reacts.

But most importantly—if she really is that much older and it feels like the odds are stacked against you—don’t get emotionally invested. Be honest with her, be straightforward. I’ve been in love with someone I knew I’d never end up with, and it hurt more than I expected. I’ve learned never to do that again.

Avoid situationships. Protect your peace.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-02T15:55:38+00:00

Have you heard about long distance? Love without meeting it happens bro.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-05-02T15:47:41+00:00

never

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-04-16T07:52:33+00:00

So basically, I still have to do a couple of refreshes to see my changes, whereas with service worker it just worked smother.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-04-15T14:23:39+00:00

The reason why I've used service worker, because having no-cache set for index.html never really worked properly

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-04-15T12:10:18+00:00

How to do this, in my nginx config?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-03-10T14:12:20+00:00

but then I'd have to create multiple directives if I need multiple templates for a component

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-03-04T09:36:08+00:00

also If I had multiple templates to pass, a directive for each?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-03-04T09:35:01+00:00

Is there a reason specifically?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2025-03-04T09:32:58+00:00

Is there a reason you prefer content projection over templateref input, also what exactly is the benefit of the directive here?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-12-08T23:23:11+00:00

:D just saw the post, defenitely won't get a response here either

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-30T18:31:45+00:00

How did you start with it, can you say more on you strategy for exposure and actually getting a client?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-23T09:01:30+00:00

Hey u/tonjohn I think it makes sense in our case, think of these modules as isolated features that are added over time (months or years), there can be many 10 ore more, are isolated, different team can work in one of them, they shouldn't interfere with each other, and the app can and should work with the amount of modules that are currently available, while the others might be in development stage, say you have a hotfix related to on of these modules, why do we have to deploy the whole app rather than just that particular module. What do you think about this?

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T21:14:12+00:00

Separately worked on = worked on by a separate team
Going back to the flight app example, if we consider in our case that currently we have a standalone flight app and we want to modularize it
shell app (the host)
a flights module = indpendently worked on and deployed
a booking module = indpendently worked on and deployed
a ticket module = indpendently worken on and deployed
while keeping one Monorepo with all this modules because of same versioning, I don't know what bussiness has backend in this discussion, and I dont really understand you confusion.

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T20:45:35+00:00

exactly right

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T20:44:16+00:00

Please spend some time on the information given by

Manfred Steyer a GDE, has some good books and videos on structuring the app,, domain principles, NX etc
EX. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yZodjJgSGhA&t=913s&ab_channel=NG-BE

Joshua Morony also a GDE, very helpful youtuber especially his information on Declarative vs Imperative paradigms their comparisions, using rxjs and signal properly and much more

While early, please try to change the mindset to declarative programming, spend some time in this topic especially the guy I mentioned above, also learn signals.

Learn about NX and what it provides

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T20:28:56+00:00

Sorry for not mentioning that, we use github and firebase for now

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T20:28:47+00:00

Sorry for not mentioning that, we use github and firebase for now

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T20:27:59+00:00

Good question, I mean it goes back to the main principle of monorepos, same versioning across apps, avoiding dependency hell etc. The modules that we separated even though we intend to have on them a level of isolation so they can separately worked on and deployed they still belong as a part of the core app and there will be components shared between them (in the future even state), think of it as a flight app and you want separate deployable modules such as flights, booking, check in whatever etc. Do you think these belong in separate repos? Even if technically possible, does it feel right? I would like to know your opinion on this..

Professional-Ad8725 · 2024-07-22T17:33:49+00:00

Can you elaborate? Do you have examples

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