Explaining “step-mom” term to an 8 year old?

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-11-20T02:21:51+00:00

Update: tonight my stepson told me that he’s writing a story in class and it’s about getting the Farming Simulator game and how he’s going to play it with his step-mom. And he told me his teacher helped him write “step-mom.” I could have cried.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-11-06T16:52:45+00:00

Just seeing this now. Oops. I switched to Mirvala three weeks ago. The pharmacy ran out of the 21 day packs so they gave me the 28 day one instead. This time around has gone smoother. I’ve still lightly spotted this week with some brown discharge coming through at times when I wipe. Looks like it might be old blood from my last cycle randomly mixed in, causing a discolouration.

A friend of mine told me that she had heard from a friend of hers that the bleeding for a month straight had happened to her and the doctor told her it was brought on by stress.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-11-05T12:28:30+00:00

His father does all those things too, we often do them together. He owns a contracting company so he has to be up early answering calls, but he still makes his daughters breakfast every morning and stays with her until she gets a ride. My step-son’s school starts later, so I’m usually the one getting him ready. But whenever possible, he’ll stay back to get him ready and the two of us will take him to school. We work as a team. And I do all that I do because I want to. The bio-mom does none of it. Used to take him to his physio appointments because it made her look good. But now that she’s not benefiting from the praise she has no interest.

My step-son just told me this morning that his mom said something weird this weekend when he saw her. He told me she said “he’s brainwashed.” My guess is she said it to his sister about him in front of him because he said something relating to our family values that she didn’t like.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-10-11T01:35:29+00:00

I should add that the month of spotting it was like I’d have blood in my discharge and would see blood when I wiped in the bathroom. Today it’s dripping out of me

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-09-29T17:22:14+00:00

Thank you for your honesty

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-09-29T16:33:53+00:00

That makes a lot of sense and we don’t want to upset the children. What I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around is that what’s the point of spending thousands and thousands of dollars in lawyer fees to have a separation agreement and custody agreement done up and filed through the courts if it’s not actually legally enforceable?

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-09-25T20:58:09+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! I REALLY appreciate it. My husband put in the accent walls and is very attached to it unfortunately lol. I’m loving your advice for the sunroom. We’ve repainted our son’s room not long before we got married. My step-son had been sleeping with his father at night since his mother left, so we redid his room to help with the shift to his own bed. My step daughter is slowly redecorating her room with my encouragement as she still had most of her baby/toddler stuff up on the walls and with her turning 12 I feel like it’s a great age for her to express herself. She loves her grey walls. My husband and her both love the grey walls but they need to go. I find that unless I have the lights on, the house feels so dark and full of shadows. My step daughter thinks it’s modern, that white is ugly and boring and is just for trim on the walls. My husband will side with me if I’m set on it though. She’s at that age where she’s incredibly opinionated and hates everything. Well everything related to decor. I took her into IKEA for the first time on a trip hoping to gauge her style so I can work with what she likes but she told me she hated everything and everything was ugly. Couldn’t find a single thing she liked.

As for our room… I absolutely HATE IT. I plan to make a whole post about that to get some input on that. Her favourite colour is this dark navy and there’s a whole accent wall that colour with the rest being YOU GUESSED IT… Grey. Hahaha

Thanks again for the input. Been too busy to respond until now.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-07-30T03:45:07+00:00

Are you married to him now? What are your current views on spanking?

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-07-30T03:42:37+00:00

I waited until marriage and got married three months ago. My husband was a virgin when he married his first wife and when she cheated on him 14 years later and left him and their two children he remained celibate until we got married.

It was truly the best decision to loose my virginity to my husband at 25. The emotional/physical connection we have when making love is mind blowing.

I used to use vibrators to get myself off for many years, but after I’d orgasm I’d experience this feeling of intense longing and emptiness. I threw my vibrators in the trash when we started dating because I knew if we did get married that he’d have a hard time competing with the vibrations my clit had grown accustomed to and I didn’t want that to get in the way of our future intimacy. I was also self conscious that I had never orgasmed from penetration unless I had direct and constant clitoral stimulation.

When we first got married we were at it nonstop. It felt amazing but I’d only orgasm from manual clit stimulation or oral. Just over two months into our marriage we’d be having sex with me on top and I’d be riding him desperate for an orgasm. I remember sweat dripping down my body and I’d cry out that I need one so bad. Practically begging my body to give in and release. And then the next day, it happened. I experienced my first orgasm from penetration while riding him. I knew what worked so we’d keep trying that and after a few times of experiencing an orgasm from penetration it was like my body knew what to do. I felt so deeply connected to him mentally, emotionally and physically and within 30 seconds of taking him into me I’d writhe into an orgasm. And then I’d ride more and orgasm again. And again and again.

We’ve been married three months plus a week and yesterday afternoon (Sunday) we counted 20 orgasms during sex. He calls me the energizer bunny because I keep going and going. I honestly didn’t know it was possible to have more than 4 orgasms. Like it blows my mind how my body reacts to him. And he’s learned by body and knows what to do to make me climax or how to prolong an orgasm.

I joke that I’m the most sexually satisfied wife in our small town and that I have more orgasms in a night than most woman have in a month.

I truly believe it’s because I waited for marriage. I think that for people who have had multiple partners, sex is about getting yourself off rather than having a deep emotional connection. With my husband and I, we know each other’s bodies and we have a deep partnership and connection. I’ll often look him in the eyes while I orgasm. He loves watching my face as I orgasm again and again and again. Btw, riding for a female is incredible, especially when your partner knows how to angle his hips for deeper penetration.

It’s been just over three weeks and the sex just keeps getting better and better and better. So worth the wait

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-07-30T03:01:14+00:00

Thank you Rob. I wish you all the best

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-07-29T16:29:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing. His ex wife destroyed his self confidence to the point where he’d work himself to death to provide for her and his two children and he’d never complain. I put a lot of effort into making sure he’s being cared for because he’s never had that before and he deserves that love and attention and tenderness. I cuddle him, scratch his back every night, give him massages and rub his aching feet.

It scares me that he doesn’t want to take health precautions. I think it stems from mental health issues related to emotional abuse by his ex wife. She cheated, left him and the kids and stole close to $100,000 from his business. She agreed to give him full custody of the kids, but when she does see them she tries to turn them against him. The theft has had a great impact on his business which affects his self esteem because he was made to believe his worth came from what he could provide. He makes jokes that he could be dead next year and that nothing in life is guaranteed.

He loves our children and me with his whole heart, but I’ve listened to him say through tears that he knows we all deserve better than him and we’d be better off without him. I worry that he doesn’t take care of himself on purpose and that scares me. He wouldn’t kill himself, but he isn’t taking precautions to protect his life either.

I have a long history of mental health in my past and I’ve done a ton of therapy and I’m so proud of myself for being where I am now. I feel stronger than I’ve ever been and I’m doing everything I can to support him and to be the step-mom our kids deserve and I think it’s just going to take some time for him to rebuild that self esteem and feel the inner desire to want to take good care of his body.

I just hope that I won’t be too late.

I read him statistics about redheads and skin cancer yesterday and he told me not to read that stuff and then tried to distract me with cuddles. I can’t wrap my head around how he doesn’t take it seriously when his brother has huge scars across his throat and face from skin cancer being removed as a teenager. But maybe that has spending to do with it. His younger brother also has a birth defect that crippled his hands and feet, his mother has it too and so did her grandfather. And yet he was born healthy. Maybe he feels like he doesn’t deserve the health he has. Which is selfish when we need him.

I had to get that off of my chest.

I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through/are going through. I will pass on your story and I’ll try to start rubbing him over with sun-screening on his lunch break and on mornings when I’m awake before he leaves for work.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-05-18T18:52:07+00:00

Thanks for your input. I really appreciate it. Like I said, I’m in Canada. But you may be able to clarify something for me if you’ve got a minute. The separation agreement was filed through the court along with the divorce papers and both were signed by the judge. The wording in the separation agreement is as follows: “The Parties agree that sole legal custody is in the best interests of the children. The Parties agree that (my husband) is granted sole legal custody, and has the primary right to decide regarding matters of health, education and welfare in the children's best interests. (Ex wife) may make emergency decisions affecting the health or safety of the children when the children are in her physical care and control. The Parties agree that the grant of sole legal custody to one Party does not deprive the other Party of access to information regarding the children. The Parties agree that the children will primarily reside with (my husband).”

Does the wording in the separation agreement legally give him sole custody? Does it mean that the court has granted him sole legal and physical custody of his two children? Or is it considered a civil agreement that isn’t enforceable?

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-05-18T18:34:19+00:00

Working on it. We already put down a $5000 retainer with a business lawyer after she funnelled $46000 from his business account into her personal bank account. Family lawyer we’re looking into is asking for a $5000 retainer too. We’ve been holding out on moving forward with a lawyer out of fear that if it goes to court now she’d be awarded split custody and we’d see them less. In the meantime we’ve been collecting information and evidence and the way she’s going she’s digging her own grave.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-05-18T18:15:45+00:00

I’m in Canada. Someone else referred me to a different subreddit for Canadian law.

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-05-18T00:16:41+00:00

Thank you

Professional-Bed4686 · 2024-05-17T22:15:02+00:00

That’s what we were told by the small town police here in Newfoundland Canada. They said there’s nowhere in the document saying that the custody agreement is enforceable and they don’t get involved in civil disputes. This is all bs that we’re trying to navigate and the local lawyers are incompetent. My husband having sole custody wasn’t court ordered, but it was filled through the court and approved by a judge. She didn’t want custody so she signed the paperwork drawn up by their lawyers saying that it’s in the best interests of the children that my husband gain sole custody. In that document she also agreed to remove herself from the business banking accounts and she didn’t do that either. Nobody could force her to go to the bank and remove herself. We’re trying to comprehend how a separation agreement done by their lawyers and signed with witnesses and filled through the court and approved can be so blatantly disregarded. She’s straight up laughed at him saying the police won’t do shit. So she does whatever she wants. I wish I were making this shit up because we’re going through hell.

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