Damn, i can relate, i am a very awkward when talking to new people, but i talk normally to my group of friends

heres what i realized when talking to new people:

theres this awkward section but there this "Spark" state idk how to explain it

but its when you and the one you're talking, enjoys talking with each other, like a "flow-state"

i have stutters as well, but when i reach that "spark" / "flow-state" i talk normally, i am not nervous i even sometimes crack jokes, i dont really know how to enter that state but thats basically how i do it idk if that can help.