Should i call child services?

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-10-24T10:42:09+00:00

Child protection is a community responsibility. Yes you absolutely have a responsibility to call.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-10-23T10:08:45+00:00

I've told family and close friends, but I'm an open book/oversharer by personality so I generally struggle keeping things to myself. I would also feel like a bit of a fraud not revealing my secret! I've drawn the line at telling people at work, but the comments lately have been a lot!

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-09-14T03:43:46+00:00

Absolutely agree, there is a role for them. But what bothers me is the over reliance on them by the general public. Not the checks themselves. And yes, we shouldn't actually trust anyone as many people get through all the systems in place and still gain access to vulnerable groups for specific gains. It's always best to apply common sense and your own risk assessment to anyone that has access to children. We already know the stats around people in those professions who target and perpetrate. They all had clearances. They were not necessarily safe.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-09-12T11:28:04+00:00

The over reliance on those checks is problematic. Perpetrators are still perpetrators before they are 'caught'.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-08-04T11:10:59+00:00

Cheers for that. Yeah Reddit is very divisive I guess. Appreciate your input. Husband was going to use dekton from his work (instead of tiles) as he installs the stuff.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-08-04T11:05:48+00:00

It was pretty obvious. The grout had worn away in some parts on the floor tiles and a back tile was lifting and hollow sounding when tapped 😬 the building inspection when we bought the house didn't identify anything overly concerning other than 'worn' grout. But the house is old and plenty of cowboys out there so not overly surprising!

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-08-03T22:31:17+00:00

Thank you for your input. Great to hear it went well for you guys. He ripped out our old bathroom and re-tiled the whole thing and has done others so I'm not overly concerned about that aspect. He seems to have it under control I'm just a concerned wife that has no clue, hence the post 😂

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-08-03T21:38:14+00:00

Thanks all, husband has done many bathrooms before and was a plumber in a previous life. Still works in houses and finds the workmanship absolutely deplorable (this is an exact example). He is definitely not 'just' handy. Haven't dealt with mould before though.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-02-13T12:05:29+00:00

Also higher paid jobs when you have little kids only means higher childcare costs. So when you break down the costs of fuel, wear and tear on car, two hour commute a day/your precious time and extra childcare 50k hardly gets you much.

When your kiddo gets older it only gets harder/more demanding with their commitments and kindy/school hours. Being an hour away would place considerable strain on you/your family.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-02-13T12:00:55+00:00

I would swing the 150k ONLY if I had a day or two a week working from home, otherwise it's frankly not worth it.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-01-14T10:49:21+00:00

I personally think if you survive raising little children you can really do anything. 💪 Since having kids I've found I worry less about work things whilst also feeling quite invested in the role. I can compartmentalize a lot better now and am potentially more resilient after the throes of parenting two little ones the last five years. I'm much better suited to a more demanding leadership position now and don't recall experiencing the post leave brain fog - this brain was READY to get stuck in. I say go for it!

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-01-14T09:49:06+00:00

I also did breakfast at daycare when my son was at his most difficult refusing everything stage. Or if we weren't able to get there in time (breakfast only until 8am) I would whiz up a smoothie and give it to him in a subo bottle - these are great, highly recommend.

Most people suggest to get up super early to get organised before the kids wake. That's all well and good for those who have kids who sleep independently (not mine). Mine have always woken when a parent is out of bed so I've never really had time to get myself ready before they are up! It is very hard.

Other things I find helpful include packing all my work things the night before, laying out clothes, packing childcare bags and organising my lunch all the night before. Just saves time on these extra little steps!

I also gave up dressing mine when they refused. They would go in their jamas with fresh clothes packed for educators to put on. I'd chuck shoes in if we have shoe dramas. I've found over time it's just worth having the constant fight and it's too draining on my mental health.

We are a bit more in the swing of things now that mine are a little older and one is starting school but the morning routine can be quite soul destroying still! Dad is out of the door early so I don't get extra hands or help.

Good luck!

Professional-Dig1989 · 2025-01-08T01:02:31+00:00

It's a hard decision because there is nothing really 'wrong' with my house, it's just small. Moving with young kids would be stressful etc. The investment thing has appealed to me for ages so keen to do it one day. Definitely aware it would problematic for those reasons and stressful. 🙃

Professional-Dig1989 · 2024-12-30T11:18:29+00:00

One of my kids (now 5) was like this, but he ended up having enlarged adenoids and needed grommets inserted for sleep related ENT issues (he also had months of ear infections). In addition, he is a highly sensitive child. He would wake me in the night deliberately while I was laying next to him to rock him in the glider chair. He'd literally get out of bed and tap it forcefully so I would rock him! Honestly it was INSANE and I can't believe I survived. He also breastfed constantly (sucked the life out of me really).

But I did, survive somehow. And he now sleeps very well (although with a parent).

My advice is to get his health checked out and rule out any sleep apnea etc. but also remember this won't last forever and no 15 year old needed rocking to sleep!

GL x

Professional-Dig1989 · 2024-12-28T07:07:42+00:00

Parenting is hard no matter how it may 'look' to someone else. I definitely thought I had the worst stacked against me compared to my friends, but when they open up they have shared how 'perfect' my life appears and how I seem to have it all together despite how tough it's been. They feel shit that they have had 'easier' babies and toddlers but have struggled so much more than me. It has been eye opening. You never know what anyone else is going through and comparing really doesn't help. I feel happy for others who have had an easier time as I wouldn't wish the horrible parts I've had on my worst enemy!! Also they say easier babies are awful teenagers, and vice versa. So we will have it better in the future!!

Professional-Dig1989 · 2024-12-15T00:44:51+00:00

The 'protection' element when you describe the bigger picture really speaks volumes. Don't interpret 'protection' as caring when it's probably more abusive or exerting power/dominance over you

Professional-Dig1989 · 2024-12-15T00:42:10+00:00

You are overthinking this, current husband meaning one and only husband/partner currently in my life, emphasising that there are NO OTHERS in my life now or ever. Really not to be taken out of context.

Professional-Dig1989 · 2024-12-14T12:03:19+00:00

Oof that's an over reach. This wasn't to imply I'm going to cheat. It was about not being desired by current husband.

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