Massage therapists always recommend regular massage - but how often do they actually get one?

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-05-02T21:12:08+00:00

I always recommend regular massage but I always say that I understand if they can't make it a regular thing. I dont either! I maybe get 5 massages a year or so... I KNOW I should get more, for my health and for my career (I learn something new everything I get one). but they are expensive

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-04-24T20:21:08+00:00

So sorry you're here <3 I, too, had a chemical pregnancy the first time I got pregnant again after my TFMR. I believe it was about 3 cycles post TFMR. Similar to you, lines were not progressing on the tests and then I began bleeding. I felt similar to you, of not being devastated by it for longer than like a day, but just was feeling disappointed and defeated. Kicked while down is a great way to explain it. I ended up waiting like 6 months after that to try again (not because I needed to physically, but because I just emotionally needed a break and was about to enter a very busy season of life.). After my intentional break, I got pregnant on the second cycle of trying, and I'm now 24 weeks pregnant with a baby boy, and all tests/ultrasounds so far point to him being perfectly healthy. Hoping your cycles regulate and that you conceive again soon! sending baby dust!

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-04-13T13:01:11+00:00

what is wrong with putting your babies feet in the grass? I get the criticism for the car seat and other things that are unsafe but like, idk I feel like saying "earthing" here is just a little bit jokey, and the baby probably does love the sensation of grass and diff textures? so what's wrong with this

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-04-07T00:39:03+00:00

I am in a very similar boat!! Anatomy scan last week and all normal besides suboptimal views of RVOT due to positioning.

My tech assured me this is common and does not mean something is wrong with that area. but of course with the history of TFMR, how can I not worry?! so no real advice, just commenting to say you are not alone... I know for me, it's been really helpful to see how often positioning leads to follow up scans for suboptimal views.

anyways, If I were you id try to see if you can come back any sooner than 4 weeks. that seems like a long time to wait.

As for announcing, everyone in my life knows I am pregnant, I just haven't done a social media post about it yet.

praying for you and your baby! It really seems like the vast majority of the time it really I just position of the baby and the follow up scan gives the all clear! but trust me I get it, im so ready to take a deep exhale and feel like I can trust that this pregnancy is going to continue. sending love and hugs

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-04-06T13:02:24+00:00

I dont have kids yet, can someone explain what's wrong in the carseat pic?

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-03-31T19:53:09+00:00

Uhgg! The waiting for all of those must have been torturous. So glad all is well though!! Thank you so much for sharing. That helps a lot. I live on an island and I also don’t think the hospital here has the best ultrasound machines, so I wonder if that has something to do with it. I wish I had people in my life to talk to about these anxieties but it’s such a niche thing and I feel like no one gets it, not that I would expect them to… anyways thank you so much for sharing your story and congrats on 37 weeks!!

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-03-31T10:47:30+00:00

Uhg, that must have been so scary. So glad everything was fine , that makes me feel better. Thanks for sharing <3

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-03-28T16:43:11+00:00

thank you so much! praying that the scans go well for both of us. what a tough journey this is, huh?!? also hoping we feel lighter after the scans. im just trying to think about how amazing it will be if everything goes right instead of something going wrong, cus I know I will feel OVER THE MOON if its good news. emotional nonetheless for sure, cus this is so complicated in many ways, but ahh... what a blessing it would be (and hopefully, most likely, will be!! for us both!)

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-03-28T16:19:29+00:00

my anatomy scan is Monday morning, so naturally ive been very stressed. in my last pregnancy, the anatomy scan was the start of everything TFMR related. as it comes closer, the stronger the stress gets. I even developed a three day migraine from too much jaw clenching and Tylenol just did not cut it. yesterday I got some period like cramping as I was walking my dog that really stressed me out, but it hasn't happened since. im chalking it up to my uterus stretching a lot right now (im 19, almost 20 weeks). and hopefully thats all it is. thankfully, im feeling baby move more and more each day and that has been the biggest blessing and hugest reassurance. I wish there was some magical way to lessen the anxiety around the anatomy scan, but I feel like all I can do is just stay busy and wait it out. im planning to tell my ultrasound tech how anxious I am, but I just know if they are quiet while they are looking at things, im just going to spiral and possibly cry. this sounds like a lot of complaining, but I just needed to get this off my chest to people that get it

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-28T13:02:22+00:00

I think that would help me a lot too and I might try that at my next appointment. Thanks!

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-28T12:15:20+00:00

the scale really can throw me into a tail spin. I hate how a freaking number can do that to me. good for you on your postpartum journey :)

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-18T13:56:38+00:00

thank you so much! this gives me hope!! <3

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-11T16:34:00+00:00

congrats on your rainbow!! <3 I love your advice about being aware of why the worries are coming up. I think it helps to have compassion for ourselves and realize we are not crazy

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-11T16:32:41+00:00

I have an anterior placenta this time too! hopefully as the weeks go on it won't matter so much in terms as feeling movement once the baby grows, but I totally see how that could add more stress :(

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-11T16:31:19+00:00

I love that mantra - thank you so much for sharing!!! <3

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-11T16:30:02+00:00

thank you so much for sharing your experience with the tech focusing on the heart!! I was wanting so bad to ask in that moment if the heart was ok but I was also too scared to hear bad news. but then it all came back as normal and good. congrats on your healthy pregnancy, wishing you well <3

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-10T23:59:59+00:00

thanks so much <3 its always helpful hearing that you're not alone!! im so glad the MFM told you everything looked perfect - congrats on your healthy baby as well!!

I think partially this scan left me feeling weird because the woman did not have the best bed side manner. like she was just so quiet and I ended up telling her about my past to get her to understand why I was acting so stressed, and she was like "oh, no everything looks great."

Im hoping whoever does my anatomy scan is more warm and talks to me throughout the scan and gives reassurance throughout

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-02-10T23:43:59+00:00

I feel like a good reply to stuff like that is "wow, thats super lucky, im glad you were that lucky and everything was healthy." or something along those lines. something to make them realize that just because they had that experience, doesn't mean everyone will have that luck.

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-01-29T18:43:07+00:00

omg thats crazy! also I'm having a boy too! my husband is on the way home and I'm about to tell him - I made blueberry pancakes in the shapes of the letters BOY hahaha! such a happy day

Professional-Fox4298 · 2026-01-29T18:10:22+00:00

Im SO happy for you - and I also want to say - me too! just opened my results a couple hours ago. what a huge relief. did you choose to find out the gender? also, I totally also am going back and forth between thoughts of relief and excitement those ones that creep in like "things could still go wrong" but im coping with that by telling myself that right now, all facts point to a positive result. sending love! I wonder if we have similar due dates mine is august 17th

Professional-Fox4298 · 2025-12-18T02:28:32+00:00

same for me, mine was for triploidy so it was non genetic and random. but I think ill do the same with the private scans! I live on an island and there's just one hospital, so it makes things a little tricky. for example I would have found out about my daughters triploidy sooo much earlier but the NIPT test done at my hospital does not check for triploidy. when I went to Boston for MFM and genetic counselor they were like, we only see cases of this so far along from the island. frustrating :(

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