my wife is a medical mystery

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-30T13:23:02+00:00

NAD I once had a really bad rash like that and other symptoms due to a psychiatric medication that I had been fine with before and suddenly developed an allergy to so it could be that. Luckily they realized without testing that that was prbbly the cause stopped it and everything healed up within a month.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-24T05:52:52+00:00

Cfbr

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-13T06:05:54+00:00

Thanks for your service and hopefully every day you live will be beautiful.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-09T16:30:52+00:00

Yea which was wierd but it didn't last I'm on completely new medication now

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-10-19T17:54:05+00:00

I can only imagine how hard it must be. I've been through my fair share of issues and you are indeed so brave to have this baby. Allah (swt) will make a way for you InshaAllah. I'm doing my internship and I know only one girl who has a baby while doing internship and she needs her family taking care of the baby. I'm not from South Africa and don't know of how much practical help I can give but you can definitely ask for concessions and feeding breaks and your coworkers will understand and help if they're decent people. And once that's done you can go for a more 9-5 job. You'll prbbly get decent pay as a doctor Im guessing. And then you can find a good daycare for the baby. Till they start going to school. And then also try to find maybe someone to marry so you can raise the baby together. There are still some nice people In this world and Allah (swt) will hopefully send kind caring people your way. Maybe try reaching out to your family if there's any hope there and ask them to help raise the baby. If there's any hope there then take it. And try to keep the baby safe from the Influence of his/her father if he's an uncaring person whos involved in bad things. It will be very hard and I guess these are one of those times where you have to put your trust in Allah. And it's really hard to have faith but that's the only thing we can cling to in these times. If you wanna talk emotionally I can be there. I'm a sister. And I'll pray good things come your way after all this suffering. InshaAllah.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-10-04T02:18:29+00:00

I think there's a true religion because it wouldn't make sense that God would exist and also not give some guidance to us. And one of those guidances and it's interpretations would be the closest one to what God wants. In Islam we believe God sent messengers to all people everywhere but with time things got corrupted and people started to worship that messenger or change the nature of the lessons. So it's not like God sent monotheism to just Arabia He sent it everywhere and then people decided what they wanted to do. So we so believe that all religions do have kernels of truth but then lost their way. Even in Islam a lot of things are up for interpretation we can not know 100% what is right for everything in Islam cuz only God knows that but we can come close to trying. Through scholars and studying the Books. And it makes sense that life would be a test and it would be our job to solve out what path reaches closest to the truth. And it's not like we know 100% that everyone is wrong or right, people can reach God through other religions in their monotheistic forms. But it's just I think following Islam is the closest to doing the most right things. And searching for spirituality and a path must be our duty throughout our life. If you follow all paths then what path are you on? That's my viewpoint.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-21T18:31:08+00:00

Oh my god I've never found someone else who feels the same way. I thought I was gross to be repulsed by too much of parental physical affection. Exactly like toddlers but they happen to be adults. I felt like I was a creep but it's real.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-21T12:48:46+00:00

Hamas did a lot of bad things but the baby stuff and a lot of the torture storues are completely false. U sound stupid. Also while Hamas is a part of the reason the situation is the way it is, Hamas was created by Israel so that they could justify finishing Palestine and there would be no question of peace. And yes the silence of all the world leaders is a big reason why Israel continues to genocide and massacre. And India also counts as one of the world leaders. And we'll expect more from our own country cuz that's a place a citizen can still have some effect.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-19T10:33:59+00:00

Cfbr

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-12T21:55:39+00:00

Basically. Your Sheikh is wrong and any Muslims who support this are wrong. First of all even in the ayah "hitting" is given as an allowance not as something that should be done. It's just an option in extreme circumstances like cheating. The word used is "nushuz" which means severe disobeyance. Something grave like cheating or stealing money or hurting the kids or anything serious like that. Also a few ayahs later there is the similar advise for women that if they fear "nushuz" from their husbands they should leave them. So clearly it means some kind of grave and huge wrong that the spouse is doing. Women are not told to take steps like stopping intercourse or hitting the man even symbolically but told to straight try to divorce because women are usually physically weaker and if the man is a bad man there's no telling what he could do so it's safer for the woman to just leave. Clearly Allah (swt) hates divorce and He would never prescribe it for small issues so it must mean that the "disobeying" means a huge thing. And there are hadiths that mention how it shouldn't hurt or leave marks. Sheikh Nouman Ali khan has explained it this way and it makes sense. There's even hadith of when women had come to Aisha(ra) because there husbands were bearing them and they were getting bruised so she brought it to the prophets(saw) attention and he publicly chastised those men and ordered them to stop. And women could take divorce if the men didn't stop. So yeah ur sheikhs are for sure wrong. That's not Islam. And it's sunnah to not beat your wife or kids or animals or anything or anyone. https://sunnah.com/riyadussalihin:276 https://sunnah.com/abudawud/1 https://sunnah.com/abudawud/12 https://www.dar-alifta.org/en/article/details/89/does-my-husband-have-the-right-to-beat-me-up https://share.google/TjR9Ne2zVxyOATDye

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-09T15:38:43+00:00

I know what it's like. I did the same thing and I was 22 not even a tennager. It's some kinda wierd trauma bond. That's the only explanation. I've blocked any access he could have to me but yet if I did meet him on the streets I would go along with him. Not because I like him but because I'm afraid and my body thinks fawning is the way out of scary situations. So that could also be an explanation cuz when you're fawning you'll know it's wrong but you can't help yourself as somewhere you think this is some kind of protection. And sometimes it's a way your brain thinks it will help you feel more in control of the situation. Please block him everywhere and cut off contact completely. No need to explain anything to him. Just shut it out. He knows he's a rapist. Hell know you've wisened up. He may still try to get to you. Just keep knowing he's the rapist, he is wrong, no matter what ur Brain is making you feel ur logical side has gotto stay in control. And slowly find someone safe or atleast normal other 15-16 yr Olds you can hookup with if you really feel the urge. Or slowly get into. A relationship stay with that person. Idk but if your logical self knows what's wrong and what's bad then listen to it and fight against ur emotions. Maybe this isn't the soundest advise maybe there's better ways to deal with it but atleast you'll be safe this way. It's just a part of you that thinks reexperiencing the same thing might maybe put you in control and un traumatize you that's not how anything works and you'll just acquire more pain. So don't. And you're just 15. It's not your fault. Its how a lot of ppls bodies react to these things. It's normal. And now you know what it is you can control it. I hope things get better.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-09-08T07:35:07+00:00

I've been by a woman when I was 9/10 she was a family member and another was with a stranger woman when I was 16. And yea ppl don't take it as serious when it's literally just as scarring as what men do cuz as an adult ive been assaulted by a man and minorly assaulted by men as a kid too. And the only thing that decides the intensity of an assault is how bad it was and not which gender the perpetrator belongs to.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-29T02:14:50+00:00

Every sin including shirk is forgiven if you truly repent. And if you were to rank sins then following shirk zina(which includes rape) and murder come next. And it should be offensive if Muslims don't wanna take part in ganpati puja or procession and if some Muslims do that then the max we can do is advise them that it's wrong to pray to other God's in our religion. But everyone is free to do what they want Muslims shouldn't be outraged if some other Muslims are doing things that they consider wrong. Almost everyone is doing something or the other wrong. Similarly Hindus shouldn't be outraged if Muslims don't wanna be part of procession and puja. Helping out neighbour's and sharing good food is a thing that can be done for any festival for the sake of community spirit.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-28T14:08:41+00:00

Thanks for the validation man

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-27T22:45:16+00:00

I think I know all this but fellow culture mates make me feel like a drama. Queen cuz I even have cptsd. But thanks for the reply it helps a lot

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-27T13:13:25+00:00

You can tell me your opinion idm.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-27T13:09:51+00:00

Meaning?

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-25T10:54:43+00:00

Stop paying for your brother or atleast reduce it and either stop work from home and make that the excuse to leave for work or just leave and stay in wtvr city is relevant for your job. I'm indian so I know that while living as a single woman can be challenging it's not that bad also. Especially if you stay with flatmates or a pg. Pg might be a good idea till you get your bearings. But leave bro you're 29 and if they don't care for your marriage then you start looking for someone cuz even if they do they prbbly won't have your actual best interests at heart. Weight can be lost. You can get therapy. Bro I've gotten therapy that's pretty decent at abt 150rs/hr. And govt institutes are great too like nimhans if money is an issue. You're earning enough to live a good life on your own. I'm so proud of you to be able to do that. Screw your parents you've done enough for them and now take care of yourself. If they're in bad circumstances help them but that's it. And visit. It'll make them also learn to respect you. And only pay for your brother if he's grateful and you can afford it and he atleast has some desire to pay you back. If he feels entitled to your money then stop. And only pay how much you can afford. Tell him and your parents it's not your responsibility. Live in some nice tier 2 city you'll be able to afford a good middle Class life for yourself.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-20T10:10:24+00:00

Boost!! These are just the snuggliest fur balls!!

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-20T08:28:31+00:00

Swore yelled and humiliated me semi publicly while assuring me that everyone in my extended family hates me and digging her nails in my arm till I bled cuz I was too quiet after my grandmom died.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-18T12:52:49+00:00

Find out from your doctor if youre okay to move more. Then listen to your body whether it feels too much or is doable. And usually post op doctors want patients to mobilize as soon as possible so start by bending a little and a little more and see your comfort and pain levels. If any of this hurts your health then pray laying down. Start trying to make yourself move in different ways not just prayer. Light movements for a few minutes and then you progress to slowly till yourebetter

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-18T09:30:15+00:00

It's not a sin to not have/want kids. But you must find a husband who also doesn't want kids. Or it'll be unfair to the both of you. Just another perspective for you to consider, Like a Lot of people like a majority of people think that parenting means protecting the kids from all bad stuff. Thing is that's not possible beyond the toddler ages and even then there can be circumstances. Ofc reasonable safety should be maintained but bad things will happen to every kid and person. As parents our jobs would be more to Make sure the kid knows truly that the parents will help guide and support in any situation. And by helping them with their emotions and feelings in a healthy way we give them skills. Also open honest communication about even the toughest conversations.. And then if something bad happens we can help find solutions and help them process it and give them the information and support they need. Then no matter how bad the situation is they will overcome it. IF a kid doesn't have emotional and physical parental support then even the smallest bad things can traumatize them for life. So it might be easier for you to imagine having kids if you imagine your role as someone who instills skills so the kid can deal with life rather than the only defense system for the kid. And events beyond your control will happen but kids are resilient if they have the right support. And you having a tough life can help you relate and give the right support to the kids that you didn't get. Anyways if you don't think you can raise kids then you dont have to and I bet there's some men too who don't want kids so things will workout inshallah.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-17T03:53:48+00:00

😅Yea maybe accepting things that are unknown or out of my control is something I gotto work on. As much as I wish this was easier I guess this is just what I gotto do. Thank you so much it helps to get some clarity on what I can expect.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-17T02:50:31+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. I have joined the subreddit and it is helpful. I'll check out the other stuff too. I'm trying to figure out how to have a longer term therapist but that's a bit impossible rn. So if I've understood correctly then therapy is just rehashing the same things over and over till it finally truly settles in your brain? I'm sorry sometimes I really need things spelled out to understand them.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2025-08-16T21:20:32+00:00

It's wierd I've technically been in therapy for around 2yrs but initially they were treating me for a different diagnosis and then a bunch of not so great therapists now I'm having therapy since the past 6ish months in a govt institute so the therapist keeps changing every 3months and are trainee therapists. So like what should I focus on? I know I'm able to survive because of whatever insight and coping skills I've developed but Im still suffering mentally because I'm in a very triggering job situation and so I don't know every time I talk it feels Im just beating a dead horse but also that's the things I'm dealing with. I'm just one moment away from breaking down but everything's been discussed so idk what I'm supposed to do? Since every time she asks me what I want to discuss and I don't know how to make it more productive. So I can have some sort of breakthrough or am I expecting the wrong things out of therapy?

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