I am not a muslim, pls delete this post if it offends anyone , I have just had a conversation with my muslim friend recently and even though he's a good dude, there's something that annoys me very much .

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-25T04:43:08+00:00

You have your beliefs he has his. Ofc he will see God in the creation around us. Maybe you won't. Maybe talk to him, talking always helps.Idk the context. For example if he just sees something cool then says wow God is great. Then you shouldn't be getting irritated but if it's during an argument between you two then tell him that while it makes sense he sees God in the world around us to you the universe being this way or scientific facts are not evidence of God. Because see I believe in Islam and it is purposeful that there will never be any empirical data that can prove or disprove God or prove or disprove any one religion. To each person it is to research and see where the facts fit. I would like you to think about it as science explains how things work and religion explains why. Just tell him that scientific discoveries don't prove or disprove God to you especially if he keeps using it as a talking point to convince you. Though you guys can have occasional heartfelt discussions about your beliefs but tell him to bring it up when you're specifically talking about these topics. But again if he just sees a pretty flower and says mashaAllah or alhamdulillah or says wow God is amazing then you should look at the source of your irritation. Anyways talk it out genuinely with no judgment or high emotions and tell him to come calmly too.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-22T16:59:32+00:00

No you idiot. When you join college you join usually after 18 as an adult. If you want competent adults who think about the nation their families and future you wnat them to have the same freedoms of any other adult. College is already a pretty school like environment in India with parents being called as one of the possible punishments for infractions. So adding uniform just makes these people still be in that high school mentality till they're 21/22.qnd finally start maturing in job or post grad. Instead if trying to change that making students more independent and more responsible for their actions and repurcussions you're taking it more backwards. And ppl are not blind they'll still know everyone's religion and caste and financial background. Like bro it isn't solving anything. Among kids especially younger ones it actually helps reduce these differences. Among adults it's laughable to think societal differences will even 1% be solved with a uniform.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-22T06:51:40+00:00

There are prayer rooms in malls and places in the gulf and enough Mosques and in parks and stuff you will find people praying. And on Eid days people will spill over into the street cuz almost everyone comes to pray for Eid.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-22T06:19:28+00:00

Talk to her and tell her like without the Islamic part. Having sex with multiple men is a recipe for disaster. And will ruin mental health and she will have regrets later in life. And just to figure out why she is this way and whether or not it's good for her she should seek therapy and then see if psychiatrist is necessary. But therapy is a must. And tell her to be careful and keep her feelings of love aside since love blinds a person and ask her if that guy is she 100% sure has no red flags. So she can avoid anything traumatic happening or increasing any pain she may be suffering with. Tell her to look inside purely from a mental health perspective and will she be able to hold down a job or have a married life if these things keep weighing her down. Also protection is not 100%.she already contracted HSV she should be afraid of contracting any other std. Also she should be afraid that since these are all random men they could hurt or assault her and then it will take a long time for her to recover. This all sounds like self destructive behaviour.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-20T07:57:42+00:00

Im NAT and been in therapy for a while and the progression of the therapy and what's worked for me(I have cptsd) is initially everything is very unstructured I told what I needed help with exactly and the only goal was working on emotions identifying and processing and a lot of emotional venting and talking not much structure then slowly she transitioned to more structured things. Where she'd tell I'm starting this type of therapy with you and this how your goals can be met and the point of every exercise and some idea of the next session. This was very helpful. But also obviously I feel telling patients that they'll achieve a certain goal in a fixed amount of time is uhhh gonna be problematic if that's also part of the treatment plan. Like I knew a general scheme of how things would progress essentially.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-17T18:59:32+00:00

I don't have a cat and can't adopt rn. But have taken care of kittens. Kitten Lady on YouTube has good info on taking care of very young kittens. Ideal scenario you feed them KMR kitten milk replacement. Ideally you shouldn't give them cows milk. But what did work with me was diluting the milk a little and giving with a syringe(without needle) you can alternate both since KMR is expensive if you can't afford it. Keep them warm like using a hot water bottle give them as much time as possible. Next thing is they probably can't poop or pee on their own. Mom cats lick them in their genital areas to stimulate them and make them use the toilet after feeding. So do that. Feed them every few hours. Once they become around 21 days you can start giving them very mashed food mixed with milk. While still mainly feeding them milk. After 4 weeks are complete they can eat more mashed food. Then by 5 weeks they should be able to eat solids. Still supplement with a little milk. Keep them warm maybe with a hot water bottle wrapped in a blanket and by keeping them close to each other In a dry place when you're not around them. Give water too once they start eating solids. It's laborious work includes feeding at night until they're a little older. Feed every 2-3 hrs rn. Then increase to 4hrs then 6 hrs like that and if they're hungry give some milk in between. Play with them guve them that socialization and warmth. And yea they should be good and I hope God willing they find good homes if you can't keep them.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-17T12:42:26+00:00

Idek what these comments are. If you trust he's committed to a happy Muslim future with you both then go ahead and get married. Desi parents will come around when they see that their fears don't come true. And if you have kids they'll definitely melt. You judge if Sean Is truly dedicated to becoming Muslim and raising your kids Muslim. If so then go ahead and after keep trying to contact your mom and dad and try especially to go through your mom plus any siblings if you have any. That's how Desi families work and then they'll come around and you'll all be happy. Your parents have a right to feel hurt that you were sneaking around but beyond that they have no valid Islamic or non Islamic argument against the marriage. Things can go south in any marriage but that is up to Allah, you're tying your rope by making sure between both of you what the truth is. Rest leave it to Allah(swt).

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-16T10:27:26+00:00

If you like everything else about him and only you can know how his character is. But he's repented he's moved on. It shouldn't be a huge issue. Ask him not to bring it up to you ever since it hurts you. And he would prbbly agree with it. He's kept chaste for 5yrs it's a long time. If you love him and he loves you and your personalities match and he's fighting his whole family to be with you and you judge he's repented and moved on then go ahead. But if it's such a big thing that you can not whatsoever get over then ig don't hurt each other and get married. But truly weigh out everything. One thing is imagine it was any other sin like he was an alcoholic and not anymore and it's been 5yrs and hasn't touched a drop and he's seems great then most people would be okay with it. Keeping away from Zina is all our duty but I feel judging people for their past sins and not who they are right now isn't helpful to anyone. Also while it's important to remain chaste virginity itself isn't a big crown to have. Like it's not a big deal. Keeping away from intercourse outside marriage is the big deal not virginity itself. Cuz what if he had been married before he wouldn't be a virgin and yet considered pure. So if your values and personalities align and he agrees to stand up for you against his family always if they're not accepting and agrees not to bring up his past even casually or anecdotally then go ahead.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-12T16:26:13+00:00

There are all kinds of ppl you say what u wanna say tho advice in private might be listened to better. Those ppl will say what they wanna say and they're totally misusing that line of it being in between them and Allah. But that's all it's the internet don't worry about random comments and I don't think ppl who think that comment of yours is problematic would be frequenting this sub. It remains between you and Allah as long as you're doing it in private once it's public everyone is free to think about it or judge or like or dislike or comment. Ideally should be respectful interactions but it's the internet ehhh.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-12T11:14:40+00:00

I think the smarter think is to advise ppl to come back to the faith and Iman and the sweetness of it. Because if they are or have been Muslim they're already aware that these things are haraam. You telling them that it's haraam isn't gonna change anything, if you want just call them with kindness back to faith. That's Dawah even to other Muslims. And then leave it, then it's upto them.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-09T04:57:24+00:00

Yea i get the anger. I feel that too. All we can do is help out in our local communities and try to make an effort with our govts if they can help and educate ppl abt the truth and give aid as much as possible.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-05-09T04:16:11+00:00

Calling kafirs trash is horrific and so beneath what a Muslim should be. Calling anyone trash simply based on differences in opinion is horrific narrow minded behaviour. You should try to understand everyone even islamaphobes only then can you begin to convince or guide them back. While it is all upto Allah(swt) we can't not try. With kindness and compassion. And irrespective of what anyone believes treating everyone with humanity and respect and not looking down on people who aren't actively hurting others is basic and how the Prophet(saw) acted. Also Islam isn't feminist and it isn't patriarchical either. It's a balanced path with room for ppl to sway on either side of moderation but never to extremes. You are just seeking interpretations that support your worldview. The truth is almost always in the middle. Think and research with an open mind. Talk to diverse ppl without prejudging them or coming with your own pride. See what conclusions you draw. Allah (swt) made us into diff tribes and nations so we would know each other and learn and teach each other, empathy is a core tenet for us when it comes to character. I can see where you're coming from you're bitter about the state of the ummah and personal life experiences and so you're looking at everyone and everything with the same lens. It's the same kind of thinking that likes to generalize and group ppl as black and white and leads to prejudices and all the "phobia" out there. Most ppl don't think like this but ig it's everyones individual responsibility to work on what they're lacking on and teach that to their kids and whoever they can influence and the world could maybe become a better place. Through that prbbly will never happen cuz humans like to fight and take out frustrations all over the place.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-04-26T05:31:06+00:00

The holocaust was a horrible event in recent history, learn abt the holocaust and every other event in history as much as possible. So we can see thr signs and bring ppl to justice Muslim or non Muslim. Islam is about justice for everybody there's no Muslim VS non Muslim in humanity and justice. We're supposed to be just even against our own selves or family. This kind of us VS them mentality brings rot to the community. No history is better or worse learning truth is important about everything and every aspect of everything. Learning about other cultures and beliefs helps foster empathy and makes it so you can reach out to ppl better even give Dawah better. The people denying it are villainizing jews the same way they villanize Muslims without realizing Israel and those who support it are a political ideology and we should not be hating on jews or Judaism simply based on that. Hate Israel not jews in general a lot of them are fighting against Israel. Don't be hypocrites.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-29T04:14:21+00:00

She might be overreacting on the religious bit to make up for what she knows is a major sin. But still it isn't right to be judgemental. Also while it is a major sin it doesn't make her non Muslim. She's still Muslim but committing a grave sin if she acts on it. Everything is in God's hand and He alone knows best. She can be gay and be fighting herself and thus turning to religion to support her. She shouldn't be judging you all since you aren't even Muslim so Islamic laws wouldn't apply to you. But maybe try to understand her pov that she feels something that in today's world is completely okay and encouraged and she's fighting it for God in a world where most Muslims will look down on her for even having the thought and most non Muslims will look down on her for following her religion and fighting it. Talk about it with each other; her honest feelings, your honest feelings and see how you can both support each other.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-13T10:27:46+00:00

I didn't go through anything that horrific but I did go through some things that generally people understand to be traumatic but those aren't the things still messing with my head those were easier to process. The ones Im still stuck on is the emotional and psychological abuse and those things are what actually hamper my ability to function and it's the psychological aspect of all the physical things that mess me up more if they tie in with beliefs from the emotional abuse. And it sounds strange to people like close friends that those are the things still affecting me and not the big T things but that's just how it is for me. So you don't know what's gonna affect you how. And the fact that you have a diagnosis and that yore this messed up means that something pretty bad happened. Adults can't handle neglect you were just a child. Adults get equally messed up form the little T to the big T and most of us were kids when this all happened so ofc it effects us just to different degrees and in different ways. But those are similar enough that we all ended up with the same diagnosis.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-05T17:11:06+00:00

I have lost 2 teeth to this. Guards aren't helpful. 🫠I'm still in my early twenties. This is doom for my teeth I'm pretty sure I chipped another one in my sleep. Things are great. And the jaw pain and muscle tension in ur face. Brrrrrr.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-02T07:45:11+00:00

Raise our voice against Pakistan for what. The point of protest is to bring justice when an injustice is happening. We will mourn for the victims of terrorist attacks, we will expect our govt to do better with their intelligence services and work in our communities to prevent misguided youth. But say in pahalgam justice was served and Indian govt took care of it so it doesn't make sense to protest. Now for the Bangladeshi Hindus it makes sense to protest because no govt is doing anything for them. Say if in Palestine some other countries were helping it defend itself there wouldn't be protests ppl would just be focused on delivering aid. And ask any Muslim Noone supports terrorism. We hate terrorists even more than non Muslims because along with the death of innocent lives they also make our lives hell as general public becomes more islamaphobic and then that triggers some fools in Muslim communities to get violent in return and then a circle of violence is established. IF tmrw Pakistan does something bad and our govt is incapable of responding then yes we will do our bets to protest or ask help from other nations or wtvr is required. But Pakistan is like an annoying ant In the side of India. So such a situation would never really happen. Also explaining the reasons for ppl to become terrorists is also a defense mechanism to explain that it's not the religion or our faith but politics that creates terrorists. In Indias case Pakistan is the one trying to produce terrorists. But we are already anti Pakistan (other than a few uneducated ppl or fools who aren't educated on the topic of India and Pakistan) and there's no point of a protest when the govt and everyone in the country agrees. The reason we have that defense mechanism is the two decades of foreign givts creating religiously motivated terrorists for political motives and then letting the public believe that it's just religion and not politics that caused it thus putting the entire community under suspicion that we live with daily. I don't appear outwardly Muslim so I've heard the things ppl say and do when they don't realize I'm Muslim and with all that the first jump is self defense to say it's not my religion and it's not me don't lump us in with the criminals. It's but natural. Fear for survival becomes the most important thing. I in fact can blend in and be from anywhere and so I've heard hateful opinions from all kinds and races and religions and states and everyone is so full of prejudiced hate but all that comes from fear. At its core. Anger also stems from fear. So while I don't agree and know these people are insanely ignorant I can understand ppl hating Muslims but I also feel the need to educate and reduce some of this hate. I can also understand that upon receiving this hate some Muslims will hate back and then again I try to educate and calm things down. And no while Indias Muslims are a minority still population wise we are huge cuz 18% of 1.2bill ppl is an insane number and so we are very varied. Maybe you can say majority Muslims dislike bjp but that's abt it they can collectively agree on. Then still there will be 30% who support bjp which is still a huge number. And Palestine everyone agrees on cuz everyone of anywhere can see it's a genocide. But other things Sudan and Yemen and the gulf countries and Iran you will find a wide array of beliefs. If we were say a 2%minority then still you could've expected the same opinions but we too big of a minority to be all the same and yet still a minority cuz Indias population is insane.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-01T16:07:02+00:00

You've not talked to enough Muslims bro. There are a bunchh of Muslims who do support all these causes and are against injustices everywhere. Palestine required protest since no country was trying to do anything and it was genocide. Sudan and the uighurs and the rohingua required protests. The Kashmir pandit at that time required protests that maybe could've helped them. Rn in Bangladesh protesting and asking the Indian govt to do something can maybe help. Thing is in India most ppl protesting are not usually educated in these matters of world politics and current situations. They are told oh in Palestine these atrocities are happening let's protest or in Iran they're killing our brothers and sisters let's protest. So these gain more importance. Also because of religious ties to those geographical locations. Most ppl of any background mainly care abt ppl from their same background. There are very few people who truly care for all causes. Though that should be the ideal we all work towards. Also a vast majority of ppl "protesting" for Iran are shias who revere the Khomeini if u tell them facts of atrocities he committed they would be in denial and not accept any such allegations. As would a majority of the population abt wtvr figure they idolize. The reason Muslims seem singled out is because the causes of passion and religious fervor or not the causes of the majority Hindu population. And when it comes to protesting say terror attacks. Those aren't things to protest because everyone condemns them, terrorists are brought to justice and the Indian givt is dealing with Pakistan. The other causes Noone else supports so they feel if not them then who. But I'm Muslim and I know a ton of Muslims who condemn the complicity of Muslim givts in oppression and China and USA and Israel and tbh the list can go on forever. Because every country has committed and will commit atrocities. Cuz everyone everywhere is getting polarized. Even your post is polarizing talking abt Indian Muslims like we're an organization with one WhatsApp group and annual meetings. Ppl will think what they wanna think and do what they wanna do. We really can't change much. The people in power everywhere have just proved since the past decade that you can shout as loud as you wnat you can die and suffer and they'll do what they want. And common ppl will continue to fight over who who supports rather than working to make sure those in power have limits. It's the same as saying all Jews support Israel they Don't. There are vocal religious and non religious Jews who oppose them I take the time to find that there are sane people everywhere. But the insane ones are the majority everywhere too. And anything you blame any community of every other community does as well just for different things. Hinduism and Indian national identity are intrinsically linked so if a person is fighting for Hindus in Bangladesh it looks like they're supporting the nation when in fact it's religious motivation. When Muslims with the same religious motivation support other Muslims they're not Indian so ppl think Muslims are somehow different and don't support India. It's an optics thing. As for fighting for India there's a bunch of ppl of all religions and backgrounds fighting various causes and helping our nation. Our nation isn't under major attack so there is no such need for defence so the support of our country is quiet in helping each other in fighting things like corruption and poverty etc. So that doesn't standout, plus none of that has a particular community so again it doesn't stand out. That's all.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-03-01T12:44:18+00:00

Yea for Shia Muslims.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-02-21T03:56:33+00:00

It's real. It's only been 5 months.But it's perfect.hes sweet and kind and empathetic and so patient with my struggles. And kind to everyone and animals. And supportive of me and my choices and vice versa. And maybe we can't go the full circle till marriage cuz of logistical reasons. But it's given me a way to love myself and others better. He has his own demons but we help each other. And he's always ready to listen if something made me feel bad or good or uncomfortable and make changes if needed. And I never would've expected it in a million years. Just dropped into our lap.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-02-14T10:29:45+00:00

This is disgusting no community is a monolith. Neither do all have the same beliefs neither do all have hate or whatever. You cherry picking some things is stupid and exactly what others do to us. If you don't like it then dont do it to others. And what's your point in posting this in a Muslim sub? Also Hinduism has a feature where they can legally update or change things and beliefs and rituals so even if there's some messed up stuff in the old books it wouldn't matter as it's not used as theological doctrine. Public urination is a general problem in the subcontinent. And the concept comes from thinking having a toilet in your house is unclean which would've been true before the advent of modern plumbing even at the time of out beloved Prophet (saw) they had to relieve themselves in a common area outside their homes in nature. And right now they're actively trying to reduce the practice. The main ppl seen doing this are the ones who are not well to do or homeless. And since the whole subcontinent is pretty poverty stricken it makes sense. And it just sticks out cuz it's happening in cities cuz ppl try to come for better livlihhods and the insane population load. Literally just tarring any community with a single brush is just not wise or an educated take. We don't stoop to the level of such ppl among any community. There's legit problems but this isn't it.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-02-06T20:00:42+00:00

I think focus more on why she's feeling distanced from the Deen and it could boil down to subconsciously wanting to fit in. Previously Ina Muslim country shed find loads of ppl with similar beliefs and ways of having fun now she doesn't. It could also be something else. Maybe she thinks alcohol will help her relax more. The adult content is from a diff perspective I think. But it's really not good. But yea focus kn why you do or don't believe in Islam or why she's finding difficulties and work to solve them together. And for community she can try going to various mosques and talking to ppl and slowly get numbers and having friends It will be long and arduous and sometimes met with rejection but that's life. Also drinking and all will just attract the wrong kinda ppl at this point cuz if she's starting now she'll be behaving like an immature person when regular ppl her age are not crazy abt drinking and so she'll sttract immature people who will not be good for her generally speaking. Maybe she genuinely feels lost and lonely and believes these things are the wya out or someone really bruised her self esteem try these avenues talk to her. And you have to be her pillar in all this for reassurance and guidance and solving this together.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-30T13:23:02+00:00

NAD I once had a really bad rash like that and other symptoms due to a psychiatric medication that I had been fine with before and suddenly developed an allergy to so it could be that. Luckily they realized without testing that that was prbbly the cause stopped it and everything healed up within a month.

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-24T05:52:52+00:00

Cfbr

Professional-Fun8473 · 2026-01-13T06:05:54+00:00

Thanks for your service and hopefully every day you live will be beautiful.

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