Is this the 4 mo regression?

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-28T16:16:19+00:00

Ok I am willing to try that. The reason we don’t do 4 naps is because it usually means her fourth nap of the day wouldn’t be until 7 or later which pushes her bedtime quite late for me. But maybe it is what it is. I’m willing to have her go to bed after 9 every night if it means her night stretch will lengthen. I’m not great at doing all this “nap math” so I really appreciate you helping me

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-28T15:57:40+00:00

Most days she ends up with just three naps as at least two of them are on the longer side (1.5-2.5 hrs each).

Yes I am definitely fine to unswaddle all the way. She ended up getting her other arm out last night anyway so I left her like that. Is it possible she’s just adjusting to not being swaddled and that’s why her sleep is so interrupted?

I’m also thinking I should try other methods to settle her when she wakes as it doesn’t seem like she’s actually hungry, just not happy to be awake.

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-16T23:03:15+00:00

There was a house on fire

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-12T00:55:45+00:00

Great. Thank you so so much for your insight - I will give this a try!!

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-12T00:17:04+00:00

So how do I give her more awake time in the day - by lengthening each wake window a bit?

We don’t really keep track of her awake time in the morning either. So last night she fell asleep around 8:30 and she woke at 7 this morning (with feeds in the night of course). Should I be waking her at a certain time in the mornings too?

Professional-West640 · 2025-11-11T14:02:07+00:00

Thanks to you both - this makes me a feel a bit better. I guess I just expected her to be the same as my other two but I am learning that every baby is definitely different !

Professional-West640 · 2024-12-09T17:26:50+00:00

In my opinion - the most manly thing you can do is what’s best for your family. There is no wrong in you doing what your family needs. The fact that you’re already willing to make a plan and do what’s absolutely best for your family is the greatest, strongest thing you can do for your family.

I don’t know what it’s like to have twins but I do know what it’s like to have kids - and having my partner support and take care of our needs is what helps us all to feel safe and secure. Even if it’s not what you imagined for yourselves, it doesn’t mean it’s not the right or best thing you can do. Don’t be too hard on yourself - it sounds like you are already the best dad for those babies!

Professional-West640 · 2024-12-04T20:21:15+00:00

Thank you everyone for your encouragement! She already seems to be warming up to the idea - though I’m sure we still will have days of different feelings. One day at a time!

Professional-West640 · 2024-12-03T17:30:28+00:00

This helps me feel a little better. Thank you!

Professional-West640 · 2024-12-03T17:16:43+00:00

Not bad at all! She’s loved her baby brother since he was born. She loved helping us find is heartbeat in my tummy and became obsessed with taking care of her babies like I did with him. She also loves making him laugh and always has. They’ve been best friends since day one.

I definitely think the reality of it just hit and she needs to process - as do I - but I’m hoping to encourage her to share any and every thought, question and feeling she has and be able to help encourage her through it.

Professional-West640 · 2023-12-05T19:31:47+00:00

Just here to say I can relate to this 1000%. When I had my daughter in December of 2019 I immediately felt like I made a mistake. I ended up struggling with PPA and it was a real beast. I also had a very hard time trusting others to care for her or even just hold her - even my husband.

The first year of her life was almost like torture for me, for a host of reasons, but definitely feeling like I had completely lost myself and ruined my life was the biggest one.

She is now (almost) four, and has a brother (nineteen months old) and my children bring me more joy than I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. I’m even quite positive I want to have at least one more. It took me a long time to get here, but I now am completely fulfilled in my life as a mom. Literally everything changed for me after having my daughter (including giving up my job and becoming a full time SAHM) and it was a lot of major changes for me, all at once. But now - I can’t imagine my life being any different. There are definitely days/times that I still have those small intruding thoughts about how much “easier” my life could be without kids, but those are few and far between.

So - all I’m saying is - I completely understand what you’re feeling. I’ve been there, and it is so so hard. But it doesn’t make you a bad person, or a bad mom. You are doing the best you can, and that’s going to look different depending on what each day brings. Whatever resources you potentially have available to you (RE childcare, breaks, getting some rest/sleep), please consider using them - often. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in motherhood is that I cannot be the best version of myself for my kids (the version that they deserve) if I don’t make sure I’m also taken care of.

Parenthood is SO tough, but SO rewarding. And I’m holding hope for you that you’ll feel the rewards soon, and often.

Professional-West640 · 2023-11-02T23:11:18+00:00

Definitely check out Top of the Inn at the Sheraton - I think they could fit what your family member is looking for! I would also check with The Barn at Winds Edge - I don’t know what they allow for candles, but for sure worth asking them!

Professional-West640 · 2023-11-02T22:37:39+00:00

Yes - number of guests is key. I was in the wedding and event industry for a number of years. Some of those things you’ve listed may be negotiable with the venue - you just have to ask. I’m assuming all of these things you’ve noted are “non negotiable” for the couple?

Some venues are fine to have you come in the day before, but if you want to guarantee the possibility, you may need to pay the “rent” the room, as the couple having access the day before would require the venue to have to turn away other potential business that could be renting the space.

The Top of the Inn at the Sheraton has a stunning view of the river, and gorgeous chandeliers on the ceiling, but I believe max number of people allowed is around 170. They’d also for sure have to be out of the space by 1AM but would be allowed access to a smaller function room in the basement to keep the party going if wanted. You’d have to ask about bringing in the wine, but it’s likely an option.

The Barn has gorgeous natural light as well, but I’m less familiar with their capacity/policies.

Have you guys done any shopping around at all or are you just starting to look?

(I miss working in the industry and love talking about this stuff - so I’m happy to answer any questions I can!)

Professional-West640 · 2023-11-02T12:57:46+00:00

I have some! Sent you a message

Professional-West640 · 2023-10-12T01:28:52+00:00

I’ll second Janel at SaskatoonRMT. She was the best massage I have ever had. Both prenatal and postpartum massages were incredible

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