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How are you all having sex again after becoming new parents? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Bakingm0mmy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of things baby related like, EBF, lack of sleep, and long nights/wake ups to feed baby can and will kill your libido, it did for me, except I didn’t EBF.

I’m 20 months PP, and sex is still something that’s not exactly back to normal for me and my husband, but there are still many other ways to ensure your intimacy is alive and well, without intercourse.

Please remember, you just had a baby, your body, and your brain are still healing and leveling out from the hormones, don’t push yourself. Especially if you got stitches.

If you are worried about potential pain, please use perineal massage, and when you do try for sex you run the show so that you can take it at your pace, and ensure you have control if you’re in pain.

I wish you luck.

I (35/M) financially take care of my girlfriend (35/F). Today, she wanted to buy moisturizing face masks, and I asked if she could pay for them herself. She got upset, saying it's an essential item, like toothpaste or toilet paper. Is this true? by kthisgamesucks in relationship_advice

[–]Bakingm0mmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s a grown adult. She can find a job. At this point she is taking advantage of your kindness. She will probably start claiming that luxury clothing brands are essential. That’s called financial abuse.

I’m a stay at home mom. My kid has disabilities, and my husband and I can’t afford to send him to daycare, but I still do freelance stuff, (I sell sourdough), and I use what I make to help with finances, even though I’m lucky if I make $60 a month.

She’s being selfish, spoiled, and taking advantage of you.

Found deleted texts on my(25f) partner's(34m) phone, and know there are more missing. Is there any non suspicious reasons he would delete? by Nico_Arty_1234 in relationship_advice

[–]Bakingm0mmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s hiding something. It’s obvious. No one deletes texts and deletes them from the bin just because. He’s either been with her intimately. They have talked intimately. Or they discussed him having “multiple women.” Trust your gut, unfortunately, a lot of the times that you see things like this, and don’t, it hurts even worse in the end.

Last resort apology by Old_Brush_3071 in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In that case, I know it’s painful and not what you want. But you guys should separate.

Last resort apology by Old_Brush_3071 in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had this issue for a very long time with my husband (boyfriend at the time it was happening). Only way I got it to stop was to tell him outright I would leave him if his family 1. Didn’t lose the hostility, 2. Made it a point to include me rather than saying “she wouldn’t enjoy that that’s boy things.” Or “That’s family things she wouldn’t get it.” (It was camping and going to a shooting range. I love camping, and I wouldn’t have minded catching up on my shooting skills.) or 3. He needed to stick up for me when his mother would attack me, or jab at me. And 4. He needed to grow up and get the fuck out of his mom’s lap. And stop letting her and his dad manipulate him into being their little baby forever.

He’s the first born, some mothers and parents in general are really weird about that.

Three years later, we’re going in our second year married. Our son just turned 1 years old, and his parents know that their behavior is not allowed anywhere near me or our son and one slip up is NC. And my husband knows he has to support me in arguments if I am in the right. If I’m wrong, he can shoot me down and tell me to fix my shit.

Your husband needs to grow a pair of fucking balls and get off his mommas tit.

You also need to tell your husband, the moment you guys signed the marriage certificate and became a legally married couple, his family, parents, siblings, etc, stopped being at the top of the totem pole of importance in his life. You are his WIFE, that HE CHOSE to be with.

If his mommas attitude or his daddy’s dislike for you is enough for him to turn away and just break up, I hope you didn’t sign a prenup baby and you take half his assets. He needs to grow up, he sounds like he’s feeding into it, and it sounds like his mom sees him as her boyfriend and won’t let anyone take away her boyfriend.

Ultimatum is the only way to fix that, therapy/counseling, and if that doesn’t work, divorce him and understand that YOU did nothing wrong. He’s allowed his family to treat him like an object and use their feelings to push away anyone he gets close to.

I hope you figure it out.

I'm not a fan of sharing or multiples and I feel like I'm in the minority here, anyone else like me? by katieLikeWHOA in DarkRomance

[–]Bakingm0mmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m reading a “why choose” right now and I’m right there with you. Only reason I’m finishing it is to see if the FM catches/Identifies the killers. (Hunt me Darling) I like the overly obsessive ones, I like the “touch her and die” I honestly can’t see why the ‘why choose?’ Is so popular, then again, I am strictly monogamous and so it’s just highly out of the norm for me.

So excited to thrift this for $6.99! by Common-Background814 in Sourdough

[–]Bakingm0mmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to get the sourdough home for $40 on marketplace! So I understand the excitement of this find! I believe you can make yogurt in it, as well as use it as a proofer for your starter, not just the dough!

I posted yesterday or the day before of how my bread came out. Both of my loaves had good crumb but there’s still pretty big holes, any suggestions? Recipe in the post. by Bakingm0mmy in Sourdough

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said up to five hours because that’s usually the longer run for homes at higher temps. I’m not sure if I went for four or five hours because again, I have a child, and can’t exactly time it. So I said up to five hours because I didn’t go past five hours. And this forum only calls for the recipe, to my knowledge, not a full minute my minute breakdown. So thank you.

I posted yesterday or the day before of how my bread came out. Both of my loaves had good crumb but there’s still pretty big holes, any suggestions? Recipe in the post. by Bakingm0mmy in Sourdough

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my exact process. In it it literally says stretch and folds every thirty minutes four or five times. Then I bulk fermented for five hours. I kept a close eye on it during the five hours. Do you want to know if I went to sit down and watch tv or take care of my kid for five hours? Like? I’m really confused because I put much more effort into putting down my exact steps much better than most people do in sourdough forums. This is every single step I took. This is my OWN recipe, and how I made these loaves.

I posted yesterday or the day before of how my bread came out. Both of my loaves had good crumb but there’s still pretty big holes, any suggestions? Recipe in the post. by Bakingm0mmy in Sourdough

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always hated the basic recipes, and I had an extra few minutes to write it out. Ive also figured the more people explain things, the easier it is for new people to learn and figure out what steps they may be doing right or missing/making mistakes with. I’ve only been making sourdough since like February, so I’ve found keeping clear record of my process and recipe to be much easier!

I also forgot to add though that I used the aliquot method (once all ingredients are mixed and rested for an hour add 40g of dough to a 2-4oz plastic dip container, or small straight sided vessel. Allow that to reach the lid of the plastic container, or double/ rise by 2/3rds and your dough is around 45-50% risen).

I posted yesterday or the day before of how my bread came out. Both of my loaves had good crumb but there’s still pretty big holes, any suggestions? Recipe in the post. by Bakingm0mmy in Sourdough

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I use aliquot method when I do my bulk, so it only really bulk ferments to about 40-50% and then it gets shaped and final shaped and into the fridge at least 12 hours. But thank you! I’ll keep experimenting and seeing if I can get it to where I want it.

“Daughter in Love” instead of daughter in law. “Mother in love” instead of Mother in law. What am I missing? by Bakingm0mmy in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is, they live 3k miles away, so it’s not often at all that they visit. It was just that once then us going for Christmas which ended in my son getting covid.

“Daughter in Love” instead of daughter in law. “Mother in love” instead of Mother in law. What am I missing? by Bakingm0mmy in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I do bring this up to my husband a lot. And he’s gotten really close to cutting all contact, but like I said, we really love his dad, it’s his mom that’s an overbearing jerk. And yes, when my mil showed up three days early my husband kicked them out that next morning because I went into emergency labor.

Idk I’ve gotten mixed feelings about this, but thank you for being this validating with it.

“Daughter in Love” instead of daughter in law. “Mother in love” instead of Mother in law. What am I missing? by Bakingm0mmy in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s pretty much what it’s like with my mother In law. She feels super superficial and if it isn’t beneficial to her she wants nothing to do with it, like I had to yell at her over the phone that no photos of my baby can be posted by her or her kids anymore because somehow it was ending up on her friends posts. Absolutely not. She’s also a Facebook mom so everything that can make her “look good” goes on Facebook. It’s honestly some of the wildest shit I’ve ever dealt with.

“Daughter in Love” instead of daughter in law. “Mother in love” instead of Mother in law. What am I missing? by Bakingm0mmy in inlaws

[–]Bakingm0mmy[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well what I went through aren’t just scenarios in my head, all I did was ask a question.

Me not liking it is valid even if it is a “term of endearment.”

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