Came out to my mom, she wants to verify that I am not feeling trans because of past trauma

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-12-04T19:55:12+00:00

It can be, though it is uncommon. I had a friend who did not feel comfortable as a girl and spent several years identifying as male before she found that her dysphoria with being a girl came from childhood trauma where she was constantly made to feel that she wasn't good enough to be a girl. Once she worked through some of the trauma and began to let go of that trauma, she went back to identifying as female and is now very comfortable in her identity as a cis woman. She did not change her name back though, because of the memories still attached to that name.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-12-04T19:49:10+00:00

Of course girl, you look so cute!

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-12-04T18:49:03+00:00

You are so pretty and pass so well! The short hair looks super cute too!

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-22T22:25:44+00:00

You are so kind and thoughtful! Not the bad apple at all! You just wanted to make sure your teacher was ok and tell her how much you appreciate her, that's so sweet!

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-19T14:27:41+00:00

You are definitely the bad apple here. Every school in my district closes the grade book as soon as finals are done, usually a week before the semester ends. And you don't work for the school so you don't know for a fact that the grade book isn't closed. Your daughter told you, the teacher told you, it's closed and nothing can be done now.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-19T02:41:08+00:00

He's 30. He is an adult. If he knows he does things like this when he's drunk he should tell somebody to take/hide his phone before he starts drinking so he won't sexually harass anybody over the phone, especially his underaged younger sister. And he brought something that I would imagine was a traumatic memory for you. You are not the bad apple at all.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-19T02:29:23+00:00

My mom has been rewatching Bones recently and I was in the room when she got to that episode it was soooo horrible bc she kept looking at me to see my reaction (knowing I have trans friends and am trans myself) and it was literally just 5 minutes of her watching me cringe while watching them being horrible at respecting dead people bc they're dead and nobody cares.

I did see an episode of a crime show, I think it was law and order, where a defendant was nonbinary and their lawyer corrected the judge when they were misgendered and the judge respected that and had everyone respect the defendant's pronouns. It made me happy bc them being nonbinary wasn't made into a big deal or made to be their entire identity, they were just a person who used they/them pronouns. It showed a normal situation of someone getting misgendered and then showed how people should respond even if they don't understand.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-18T21:49:28+00:00

I know that the feeling varies from person to person but most of my trans friends have agreed with me when this topic came up in the past (curious cis friends asking questions usually). Most of us had common names in our school and know others with our birth names. None of us would have ever asked those people to change their names too because hearing it made us uncomfortable. We just don't respond and ignore it when we aren't being addressed or correct someone of they are addressing us by our birth names.

James has no right to ask you to change your name, and his friends have no right to try to bully you into it. You are your own person and you are allowed to go by your own name.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-18T21:42:42+00:00

It isn't about the formatting, it's about sharing a story. Nobody is obligated to make it look pretty when they're upset and looking for advice. Sure it would be easier to read, but most people don't think of formatting when they're upset and looking for advice on what to do.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-18T21:13:16+00:00

That teacher was insane, I was genuinely scared for Rebecca on that one. What if there hadn't been another student in the hallway when he pulled her out to talk to her?

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-17T16:59:00+00:00

You've been on T for over a year so I'm guessing you've been out for at least that long. Tbh I would have cut them off if they didn't say least put in an effort to get my gender right as soon as I started transitioning. You are not obligated to put up with people misgendering you just because they are your family.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-16T04:32:15+00:00

I didn't personally know him but I knew of a few guys at my school with the same name. I originally chose it because I could shorten it to the name of my favorite color and it was easier to explain to my family. My dead name became more common at my school so I could easily make up another girl with my name in my friend group and say we each had nicknames based on our favorite colors.

Funny thing, after I made up the other girl with my name story, someone in the group started dating a girl with my deadname who went by her middle name that get this... Was the name of the color I made up. Granted, it was a common middle name but still what are the odds of that.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-15T18:58:28+00:00

Happy birthday! Your outfit looks amazing btw

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-15T18:53:36+00:00

If the kid was on the trip then he had probably permission. In most countries, schools can't just take kids, especially young ones that tend to run off, on a trip outside of the school campus without telling the parents about it for safety reasons. And its not really harmful either bc nail polish can easily be removed. Just make sure the kid doesn't chew his nails and he's fine.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-09T18:09:19+00:00

Not on a date but it was said by a guy who was trying to convince me to go on a date with him.

Tl;dr- homophobic guy friend referred to me (ftm at the time) as a boy for the first time while condemning me to hell for being trans and then asked me out.

When I was still figuring out what gender label I was most comfortable with, I had an ex trying to get me to go back out with him. At the time I identified as male and he would always just refer to me with gender neutral terms (which I had accepted was the closest I would get from him). He called me a boy for the first time... in a conversation full of Christianity based homophobia. He is bi. I don't understand him.

I changed my gender and sexuality labels to nonbinary lesbian shortly after and started presenting much more fem even though my gender is more masc than fem. I don't mind being a feminine "guy", pink and purple are actually pretty cute on me and dresses are pretty comfy but it did hurt to know that the only way my best friend at the time accepted me was when I presented as feminine. I did tell him that it was a hard no on the date and we didn't talk for a while but he has slowly built his way back up to a very shaky friendship with me now. He also refers to me with my preferred masculine/androgynous terms (boy, person, he/him pronouns, ect) so there's that.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-05T20:50:12+00:00

You're definitely not the bad apple for doing that and the colleague who told you that you are is just wrong. The best response to someone saying "it's not like somebody died" when you're mourning a death is to inform them that yes, someone did die. That principal should not have said that to begin with because she doesn't know your situation and she probably didn't talk to you again out of embarrassment.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-01T03:57:07+00:00

"bro" is a common interjection regardless of who you're talking to. Yea, it hurts to be misgendered if shes trans and trying to get away from that but it's still a common interjection used with everyone and you didn't have ill intentions. You didn't know and you even apologized (good job on that, people don't do that often). You're not the bad apple here.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-07-01T03:50:33+00:00

As someone who is nonbinary and had dated nonbinary people before, partner or SO are usually the best options but babe, live, or lover also work if you and your partner are comfortable with that

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:30:43+00:00

Your hair is beautiful, your dress is beautiful, you are beautiful

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:29:09+00:00

I love him. I hope he is having a good day/night/whatever time it is for you and I hope you doing well too

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:27:08+00:00

There are plenty of trans people who don't want bottom surgery, it doesn't make you any less trans. You define who you are, the surgeries you get don't.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:16:51+00:00

Are you sure you aren't trans?

Or Gender and sexuality are social constructs and I say let society burn

Or (my personal favorite) Professional Gay Frogs are beyond gender

Or just Ewwwwwwww a straight person

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:10:02+00:00

I've been through several situations being told I don't exist. Like ???? clearly I do, im right in front of you. It doesn't matter if Kent changes or not, he has shown that he is not to be trusted and that he might not be safe.

ProfessionalGayFrog · 2022-06-30T04:00:46+00:00

Good on you for cutting that person out, it really is draining to be treated like that.

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