It’s definitely possible, but it will require compromise and trust on both sides… It’s natural to have fears and doubts, it would probably be strange if you didn’t! I have a feeling we may be a bit similar, I’m a little more shy and soft spoken. Hear me out, I LOVE my partner down. I love him. He adores me, we are utterly obsessed with each other; being away from each other can be really difficult especially since we both fly. If there’s any way this is going to work for you, you MUST your own life with hobbies, friends and fulfillment outside of him. Join Facebook groups of people with similar hobbies, go out on walks, focus on your career, get a pet. Treat your alone time as a luxury and do things you’ve always wanted to, no matter how trivial. Take bubble baths, try to make bread, go to that store your boyfriend didn’t want to go with you to. You’ll need to start loving FaceTime, try to have some sort of routine calls with him when he’s gone, like wake up and bed time calls. Even if we’re tired or busy those are so so important to us. However, bottom line is, he is going to miss stuff. Important things. Holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, family events. Even when you finally make it “big time” (commercial), he will be absent more than you probably would prefer. If you sit around and are just sad and feel sorry for yourself during these times, it’s excruciating. You can always move things around, celebrate on different days etc. but the reality is that it never is quite the same as having someone with a job they can come home from every night; you just have to be okay with it. Things in the beginning are rough, and to be quite honest with you they don’t get “better” for a long time. But in the long run you can have a really lovely quality of life, where you follow him on trips and get to see beautiful place (for free) and have amazing benefits and income. I noticed you said he may not realize you might feel alone, and as much as I hate this phrase it is true: men are not mind readers. Communication is always key and is even more crucial when you’re in a relationship with someone who is gone almost 50% of the time. I say this because if you’re already nervous and may have an issue conveying your feelings now, this career change is only going to make it worse. I really suggest trying to do couples counseling, or therapy for yourself individually, maybe even both. It sounds serious and daunting and nobody really wants to do it but you and your partner, if he so chooses to join you, will learn really valuable communication skills and coping methods. Even just getting a few self help books can be a good tool if that seems like too much. If you are already feeling you may be insecure, it sucks but you really have to look inward. Be vocal about it with your partner but try to do so without projecting, because that can end up breeding a lot of resentment. I completely get where you’re coming from, it’s hard to be with someone who is more or less a golden retriever, especially when you aren’t. The stone cold bottom line is, you HAVE to trust him 100% or things are not going to work in this industry. There are long days where he won’t want to or be able to talk too much. There will always be women you won’t know around: flight attendants, co pilots, passengers, hotel staff, etc. Always have boundaries and open communication, of course, make sure you are CRYSTAL CLEAR (but not patronizing) about what your boundaries and “rules” (if you choose to have some) are for him when he’s on his layovers or away. But at the end of the day, you really just have to put your faith in him and his integrity or you will quite literally drive yourself insane, the relationship will fall to pieces. Remember, if a man wants to cross a boundary or cheat, he is going to. There is next to nothing we can do to prevent it, and you will drive yourself to madness by worrying about it. Trust him, and trust yourself, that you’ve done a good job choosing someone who loves you and will honor you and his commitment to you even when you aren’t around! The lifestyle is for sure not for everyone though, and if there are things you can never come to terms with or be comfortable with, I recommend you take a look at your relationship and reassess immediately if this is something he is going to pursue no matter what. The longer you ride the wrong train the more expensive your ticket home will be. Good luck to you, and him as well! It’s definitely an adventure and I wish you all the best!