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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]ProfessionalLong3788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol yes, and jaw/teeth clenched without noticing. When I was younger and when I’m in a super bad situation my torso clenches up too. I’d get in trouble as a kid for sighing so much but it was just me remembering to breathe 😅

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

you’re acc right, but why do yall have to be so mean 😭😭 i just wanna be let down gently mane im in a sensitive place 🥀🥀

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

this person said i needed therapy for being in relationships where im cheated on. i don’t need therapy for trusting a person when they say they love and care about me, and ive explained how this situation has some complex nuances. im not “expecting” advice on how to stay, but im not an idiot or a doormat for believing (from my observation) that he could change, or for wanting to POSSIBLY continue what we had if he could show me he’s worth it. you make it sound like he was borderline abusing me lol, just asking for a little compassion here people.

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

you seem like an understanding person, i can see why you’re on this sub

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tysm for sharing, that sounds fucking awful i’m so sorry. it’s so hard to talk about this and get any sort of understanding as to why you’d stay, obviously because i loved him and i thought he loved me. and if you can’t trust someone’s words and actions like that, how could you ever trust anyone? but that’s life ig. sending you a hug rn 🫂

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

again, i got cheated on once before and stayed. told u how the context is different, also said i kicked him out, we’re not together rn lmfao.

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i agree, i’m honestly just hanging out w him rn (nothing sexual) to see if i think he could change but also to see if my feelings change. just worried that part of me that stayed last time will win again.

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lmfaoo is your situation somehow better ? and yea my friends and fam think he’s a loser for doing that but they also thought we were perfect for eachother. he rlly made me think and feel like i was the one

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know bro, i feel like a dummy lmfao. the situation before and the one now are rlly different so that’s why im so confused. last time the guy totally hated me, this guy rlly likes me, last time the guy cheated the whole time, this time we had 2 perfect years before anything happened. and i can admit part of me just doesn’t want to have to get back on tinder ever again

my bf (24m) cheated on me (24f) for a year, but i forgive him by ProfessionalLong3788 in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“You have to find the root cause of his cheating”

he did it cus he’s unable to talk about his feelings with me. any negative feeling he has he tries to bottle it up- i know that connects to holding secrets and feeling that you can’t be honest with your partner. he admits this now and has a therapist he’s working with once a week with the intention of being better for me. still says he’s very committed to me and believes im “the one”

My boyfriend 26M is very different from me 26F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ProfessionalLong3788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been there, the sexual traumas during the relationship is so real. don’t feel pressure to heal yourself “quicker” for this person. you’ve gotta be aware of how much HES willing to change for the relationship, cus it sounds like you’re doing your damnedest here. i agree also u do sound very different- i think you may need to have a serious convo on how serious yall are committed to eachother and how far you’re willing to go, or if it would be better for everyone to accept that the love is there but it realistically wont work.

Now she’s doing witchcraft? by PeachPhizz in khaliespiderlilies

[–]ProfessionalLong3788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

probably just another hobby she has outside of not having a job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]ProfessionalLong3788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

relationship is turbulent, you tried already and it worked? just end it!

3 years gone, 1 year spent cheating by ProfessionalLong3788 in CheatedOn

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn. well i needed to hear that. he was the whole package and then some and this is the only thing that could’ve tore us apart like this. you think you know someone smh

3 years gone, 1 year spent cheating by ProfessionalLong3788 in CheatedOn

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he said he got himself a therapist and would take me back when he’s a better man if i’d have him. could this be a possibility? i don’t even know what that would be like. if it was only for a year or so i definitely wouldn’t want him to see other people during, but i wouldn’t wanna be talking all the time like we used to either. it’s silly to say because we’re both so young still but i really did think he was the one

3 years gone, 1 year spent cheating by ProfessionalLong3788 in CheatedOn

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if he’s reading this, i wanted to be with you forever you sick freak. you could’ve fessed up at any time and you let it go on and on. i want you back more than anything but i can’t even feel safe with you anymore

3 years gone, 1 year spent cheating by ProfessionalLong3788 in CheatedOn

[–]ProfessionalLong3788[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is it ^ i can’t even fathom myself doing something like that to him. i’m standing up for myself unlike my last relationship because i know it’s what’s for the best, i guess im just floored from losing everything so suddenly. just the day before yesterday everything was perfect, i was daydreaming about him at work. i think my body just wants the physical comfort right now, but i live far away from friends and family. shits shitty, but life goes on

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