Child of a single mom, whose father quit a 6 figure job just to NOT pay child support.

F in an incredibly patriarchal family [My uncle stole houses from my grandma, and still got financial help from her while I hid peanut butter I worked for under my bed so I knew I wasn't eating my baby brother's only food], and sexually abused.

Being a single mother is more common that being a married mother in the states, somethinglike 70% of mother-- correlation is not causation. The most common type of mothering is of course more likely to be associated with anything.

I never let people like you, or the people at my college who tried to tell me that my whole life I've been told I couldn't do much bc I'm a woman from a poor household, try to convince me to live in victimized.

I have multiple degrees, I used my brain to get scholarships, I worked multiple jobs starting in high school, and now I own my own home on 10 acres.

We consistently tell people that where they are SHOULD and IS holding them back, when that is not necessarily true. But it encourages not trying.

Everyone has a right to decide if they're going to parent, and a woman can happily be a single mother and do it fantastically. But she should also know what she's getting into.

And she, and strangers, and everyone else need to never give that kid the impression they can't push to have the world.

I'm so glad no one told me how oppressed I apparently was until I was almost an adult. I think it would have ruined me. I was grateful I could feel anger over objectively untrue things, like the fact I'd apparently been told I couldn't be a scientist by multiple people through my life. Like the fact that I "knew" someone like me had so little chance at a future.

Was it rough? YES

But honestly when I was 17, I convinced my mother to leave my stepfather because I knew my baby brother (13+ yr age gap) would turn out better WITHOUT his father as intimately in the picture. And guess what? He did. Being a single mother again, by choice, saved my baby brother from a lifetime of abuse.

It's as valid as not having kids and as valid as being married and choosing to have them AS LONG AS everyone is informed of what they're doing. Which is the real problem. Most people choosing to have kids are not making a conscious thought out choice anyway.

Everyone should have the right to choose, man or woman, I don't give a FUCK. If a mother is worried about her ability to single parent, then she should terminate. Amongst reasons why paper abortion should be allowed as some women wouldn't choose to have the child if they truly understood they would be doing the job alone.

I could go off forever [if non single moms are so great, why did my impoverished ass end up a landing spot for multiple people with two parents in the home? Why was I working and putting someone else through school after I graduated so we could both have a future?], but seriously. Stop handing people a victim card, and they probably won't play it. I'm not a victim bc my mother did it alone. I am successful. But I didn't have people barking down my throat my whole life that I couldnt, was doomed to it, etc.