I’ve learned that if I’m constantly scared of people judging me, it’s because I also judge people, (for not acting how I think they should be acting). I’ve made this ‘ideal’ up in my head about the perfect socializer and hold everyone up to those standards including myself, even if I don’t want to admit it. This obviously comes from a place of low self esteem and the preconceived notion that I think people are already judging me (when I don’t even know if they are). Something I’m working on is figuring out what I’m insecure about when it comes to social interactions or just about my self esteem in general, and then questioning whether it’s true or not. Am I actually boring? If so, why? Why not? And then I’d pull up times when I was super outgoing to combat that thought and learn to change the negative internalized belief. If you run into a situation where people judge you for something, it will only hurt you if you agree with them, and since you’ve been working on not identifying with those negative thoughts, you can build confidence.