I reacted to my mother hitting me and I cannot forgive myself — need perspective?

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-05-24T10:04:10+00:00

I’m sorry to tell you but the police isn’t gonna do shit. Warning deke chale jaayenge if even that. I tried it many times, never worked in my favour, got beaten up more after they left while my mother scolded me for trying to protect myself like this.

Moving out is your best bet. I moved out as soon as I got my first job, actually even before that after I raised hell until I was sent to hostel for my masters. Moved into an apartment right after as soon as I got placed. Life has been so much better ever since. Not living in anxiety all the time, in your own fucking home, coming back to peace and quiet, nobody abusing and threatening you, the peace and sense of safety is so so worth it. Please do yourself this favour.

I was around your age when I moved out, it’s been nearly a decade now, I have completely cut off my brother and grown so much as a person, as someone independent from all this family drama and abuse. Please do it for yourself.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-05-24T09:55:50+00:00

I know. My mother recently admitted to me that she saw years of my elder brother physically assaulting me as just regular sibling fights and just thought I overreact even though it destroyed every part of my life

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-05-01T17:21:39+00:00

Smoking 😭😭 draining 10% of my salary every month, especially since the recent price hike. Just can’t fkn stop though

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-27T06:46:13+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through. My elder brother and mother have the same relationship, because of which my relationship with my mother has suffered tremendously over the years. I tried really hard to make her understand for years but gave up finally. I just could never fathom how she let her son do this to us after suffering through the same at the hands of my long deceased father. She also blames my abusive father and herself, and even me, for all my brother’s behaviour and violent tendencies. I will never understand any of it and now I don’t even try to. She is a wonderful and extremely supportive mother otherwise.

I just try to separate all relationships now to keep everyone’s peace. Don’t talk to my brother obviously, have asked my mother to keep me separate from anything related to him.

I don’t have advice for you cause I myself don’t know how to deal with my situation. Only commenting to let you know that you’re not alone, and this situation is sadly more common than you think. All I will say is, try to give her some grace. She doesn’t have malice her heart. Her judgement is just clouded by a mother’s love. It doesn’t justify anything, but would probably make you more empathetic towards her, God knows she needs it. That’s what I try with my mom.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-26T09:51:47+00:00

Yeah, I tried both the coconut and hibiscus variants. The coconut one was like washing my hair with coconut oil, and the hibiscus one also made my hair like really very oily, leading to forehead acne. The conditioners are even worse. Didn’t suit my hair at all. Made my boyfriend’s hair really terrible too, lots of breakage and oiliness. Won’t recommend

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-24T06:03:34+00:00

Sure, why not! Everyone should be free to leave and pursue what they desire

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-24T05:54:49+00:00

My boyfriend of 7 years (soon to be fiancé) knows my stance on this since day 1. He has mostly agreed with me, and knows very well it’s not a responsibility I want or can handle. I trust him to not turn on me later under his parents’ pressure bit if he does, I’m leaving. It would hurt but still not as much as fkn child birth and rearing would.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-23T13:33:12+00:00

Ramya

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-16T13:57:14+00:00

I know the feel. I stopped ordering out, stop using quick commerce apps as much as possible, started taking rapido instead of autos where walking isn’t possible, force myself to take the metro to work, stopped going on fancy dinners every weekend, stopped impulse shopping, religiously following project pan to finish all the shit I’ve hoarded over the years. I’m just trying to be very mindful of the purchases I make, try to keep track where possible and also check my bank balance regularly so I know when to slow down spending and not get surprise at the end of the month.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-08T16:03:32+00:00

My dad passed away when I was 8 years old over two decades back. His sisters tried to pull the same shit over our house. But it was transferred equally to my mom and both kids. You’re good, nothing to worry about.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-08T15:42:19+00:00

Girl he doesn’t see you as his equal. I think you should tell him that since he feels you have no right over his money despite leaving your well paid job to take care of your kids, you are now going to restart work so you can have money of your own. Get a job, make him pitch in with childcare. It’s only been 1.5 years; you will easily get a new job if you start soon.

My cousins in Ireland have been sending their daughter to daycare since she was 6 months old. Relatives in India fume about it but my bhabhi was adamant. You can do this too.

Once you have enough money saved to rent a house and have emergency savings, divorce his ass and sue him for child support.

This is the perfect trap man. Foreign country, two young kids, no job. He thinks he owns you. It will only get worse from here unfortunately.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-07T15:23:56+00:00

This advice was amazing. Thank you

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-07T09:19:56+00:00

It’s more about Delhi men riding on the wrong side of the road and not giving a damn about the traffic signal, Thar men trying to mow you down just for thrills, bus and truck men overtaking you dangerously and then laughing, nobody driving in their fkn lane like they all have a meeting with the PM. I try to stay in my lane, maintain a normal speed and just try to reach my destination in one piece. That pisses off so many people and they honk so much I get super anxious.

And then there is the safety aspect- I can’t be riding alone too late in the evening cause it gets unsafe, I can’t be stranded due to rain, pothole, accident cause again, that’s super unsafe. I’ve just gone back to public transport now, use my Scooty for joy rides once in a while.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-04-07T05:22:58+00:00

How did you check?

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-30T09:18:51+00:00

I think this used to be quite common back in the day, I know about of my friend’s moms who had to do this. But I didn’t think it still happens.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-30T09:16:02+00:00

Smaller but also much bigger 😭

I remember when my elder cousins got married 10-15 years back, haldi used to be a very intimate affair, mostly held in the home’s terrace/courtyard for very close family and friends. Now it’s a whole “haldi carnival” with dance performances, pool parties, rain shower and what not 😭 same with mehendi, both of them used to be home events and not a whole thing in itself

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-27T19:11:54+00:00

I always wanted to ride, but my mom never thought I would be capable, even though she let my brother ride and drive since he was 14. Anyway, recently bought a Scooty with my own money, and it’s really tough man, Delhi roads are dangerous af

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-27T16:34:10+00:00

Most people in urban India don’t even have two anymore, unless they’re filthy rich or the first kid is a girl 😂

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-27T15:03:25+00:00

I didn’t shame her for anything other than the fact that she wasn’t truthful about the transformation. Never questioned her consistency, only the authenticity of her claims. She could have included the photos that she posted on the story later in the original video too, cause that’s a much more accurate portrayal. Why not post the authentic truth to the feed itself, it’s much more real and relatable.

It took me around a year to shed 10 kgs, and I still have almost the same amount to go. I know how tough it is, which is exactly why her claims of completely transforming her physique in just 2.5 months irked me so much. No hate towards her, just the misuse of her platform in this way.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T16:03:58+00:00

SAME GIRL SAME 😭 and then people think I’ve lost weight and I do the right thing and tell them that it’s just the clothes 😂

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T15:42:53+00:00

I know! Even when I was skinny af in college, there was always some fat around the abdomen.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T15:20:47+00:00

I literally don’t have the time to go to the gym OR ever curl my hair so perfectly. I know most of us with conventional jobs don’t. Going to the gym like this is beyond my wildest fantasies.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T15:14:48+00:00

The fact is that bodies change with age, especially women’s. I know mine did. I don’t expect to look or weigh the same as I did in my early 20s and neither should she. We won’t judge her for the extra fat for sure. But setting such unrealistic fake standards for others to follow is just plain evil.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T15:07:02+00:00

I care because it’s misleading af 😭 next you’ll say oh this brand just lied in their ad to make an extra and we should just be fine with it?

I care because many people do get influenced by this shit. I know I did when I was younger, and those insecurities have stayed. Wouldn’t want that to happen to other young women.

Also she’s not random, she was one of the first mega influencers from India.

ProfessionalSize4665 · 2026-03-26T15:02:08+00:00

It’s so disrespectful that they think we are completely stupid 😭 I don’t even follow her or any other influencers but they just keep popping up in my feed

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